12 Things to Do with Your Boyfriend or Boy Friend This Year
Happy New Year, Candy Girls! We hope you've had fun during the holidays because it's going to be an amazing year for you and your bae. It's that time of the year when you're planning about your whole year again. But allow us to remind you to set your goals for your relationship, too. Need help with that? Here's a list we prepared for you!
- Give him 365 letters.
Make a letter for each day of the year filled with random good things you love about him or the things you'd want to tell him. You'll never know when he'll need the encouragement, so better be prepared now.
- Go on a breakfast date.
Instead of going out for dinners and brunch, ask him if you could go on a breakfast date. We promise it will give you a good start for the day. Plus, you can catch the sunrise together, too!
- Learn how to play a music instrument together.
If he knows how to play one, ask him to teach you. If you both don't know how, then you can learn together. There are a ton of tutorials online about playing instruments, and there are also studios that offer classes.
- Order food for each other at a new restaurant.
Go to a newly-opened restaurant and order a meal for each other. You can have fun while eating them, too, and ask why they picked out that particular dish for you.
- Have a karaoke night!
Go to a karaoke place and sing your hearts out. And if you can, record as many videos as you can of each other!
- Ask him about what he wants to do.
Most of the time, you're in charge of what you're going to do on a date. This time, ask him what he wants to do. If he wants to watch a basketball game live, go with him. If he wants to play a video game, play against him. Make an effort to learn about the things he loves doing, too.
- Learn how to drive together.
Or if he already knows how to drive, ask him to teach you. You can get your student's license together, too. That would be really fun!
- Make a video of your date together.
You don't have to go out of the country to do so. Just do a video diary of one of your dates or one of your moments together. Or if you only get to see each other a few times each year (hello, LDRs!), you can compile photos of you together to make one cute video! This will surely come in handy during the tough times.
- Catch up with the friends you've lost touch with.
Admit it, once you get in a relationship, you tend to get all wrapped up in your own world that you forget you also have a barkada to spend time with. Spend a few times of each year catching up with your best friends because you'll never really know when they'll need you or when you'll need them, too.
- Climb a mountain together.
Go and be active this year, Candy Girls! Ask him to plan an adventure with you in the mountains while strengthening your relationship in the process. You'll surely get to know your bae better and see how patient (or impatient, yikes!) he may be when the conditions aren't exactly favorable.
- Dress up for Halloween.
Plan your costumes in advance and go together as a pair. It will be super fun, we promise!
- Reflect on your relationship.
And set new goals to meet the next year! Plus, you can also point out things you can improve so you can make the coming year a better one for each other, together.
What's on your to-do lists this year, Candy Girls? Share them with us in the comments or via Twitter @candymagdotcom. We always love hearing from you. :)
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these sheets that exactly remind me of how I gushed in between my pillow and space you filled in the longing of my burned sorrow put smile to my sober face just like how a three year old receive her lollipop
i searched you everywhere and here you are laying down beside me in my imagination the walls that our screens built a boundary and an obvious message that says i can never have you because you wear clerical shirt and obviously you loved someone else before me
oh god, do I really want this forbidden love? that only exist in my imagination? that only exist through my words? would you, meine liebling, notice me and my art one second? because I am dying to say I love you.
A Simple Learner Who's a Great Pretender
Maybe I'm just a learner, not a weirdo. A learner that knows how to listen and pretend. A simple learner who's a great pretender. Pretending to be slightly dumb enough not to be judged and criticized by those who do not appreciate my existence. We surround ourselves with people who's levels are either beyond or below our intellectual behavior, because as for reality, people may use you either for their success or your downfall. Since then, people tend to judge someone who has an intellect with things they shouldn't be. Making them a criticizer, and most of all, calling them weird.
Honestly, I'm one of this "weirdo" who actually loves to learn things, and for the record, I'm bullied and stressed out for making myself not to learn more and go with the flow to dumbness I had. Have you ever feel being assigned to some task where you know every process to make it easier and faster to finish but turns out to hesitate to voice out because some of your mates put themselves in charge. There are times where I know what to do, what to say, or how to react, but kept myself silent and pretend not to know anything that may help us. Maybe it's a good thing to just go with their ideas and learn from their perspectives, but sometimes you can't control it and says something, and once again called to be a weirdo and let you finish the work by yourself.
It's annoying that you only know one process yet they gave you the whole work and let you finish it by yourself because they insist that "MAGALING KA DIBA?". It's not your fault being an intellectual person, knowing such things that may help you to pursue your dreams, and have the basic knowledge about something. You don't need to know everything, just the basics. And as for those people who do not appreciate your existence, let them be and continue what's the best for you. In some cases, you'll be annoyed by this but most of the time you'll be thankful for it. Not for now but maybe later. Just be yourself either a weirdo, a great pretender, or a simple learner, and always remember to lower your voice and behavior because no one loves that.
Just be a great pretender not to hear any runts and be a good learner that appreciates everything. It's out of nowhere thoughts of mine, but simply I leave you this my favorite life quotation; "Don't introduce yourself, Let your success introduce you"
Dear me in six years, I wonder how life will treat you when you’re already 26 years old. Will you be financially stable? Will you be working in an advertising agency while pursuing everything about the arts? Will you be doing freelancing and living in a condo by then? I don’t know since things are very uncertain. I hope by the time you graduate from college and face the real meaning of the world, you’ll know what the real purpose of doing and living in the art will be.
I know it’s been so tough ever since you turned 20 but that’s how life works, I guess. There will be a lot of hopes and trials, breakdowns, and breakthroughs but I have high hopes of you becoming the better version of yourself. You always do, though. You were never a quitter. Making decisions is getting harder and harder as you grow but I hope it doesn’t make you stop doing what you really love to do. You will face different people with different perspectives. You will feel like a stranger once again, it’s like you were back in your freshmen year. It’s going to be tougher than you’ve expected but you can do it. I believe you can.
Most of the time, people's perception of us as a strong person makes us feel that we are not entitled to be vulnerable because they might be disappointed for seeing our weak spots. And so when we are hurting, we are often scared of extreme emotions and so bury our feelings. We deny them, trying to avoid the pain we feel.
But by doing that, we are just allowing it to come back to us and haunt us. And when it comes back, it might be stronger and it will be harder for us to get over it than when we faced them first. I realized it just now that facing those emotions will scare them until they're gone. The saying 'Let it hurt until it hurts no more' goes true. Admitting your pain to yourself doesn't make you weak. It only proves that you are strong enough to acknowledge such extreme emotions without avoiding them. We are humans and it's okay if we hurt sometimes.
Before, sliding over the rainbows
Now, our hearts are bruised
Days once full of love and laughter
Became dawns of forfeited ever after
Smiles that bring ticklish sensations
Turned to cold question and answer
Figuring who would be the next instructor
The queen’s awake
Grappling to the happiness that the sorrow and sadness take
Going back to all the promises he couldn’t make