10 Things You Should Know Before Dating a Girl from the Immaculate Conception Academy
- Scale the Great Wall by learning Hokkien!
Chances are we have the Great Wall, so we can date Chinese guys only. Should you decide to embark upon the futile journey of scaling it, however, you can score pogi points with our parents by learning how to speak basic Hokkien.
- Use Uncle/Auntie instead of Tito/Tita, etc.
Speaking of the Great Wall, don't address our parents and relatives as Tito/Tita—we use Uncle/Auntie! Same goes for Ahia/Achi instead of Kuya/Ate, or Angkong/Ama instead of Lolo/Lola.
- Follow Chinese etiquette.
This means roundtable dinners in—yup, you got it!—Chinese restaurants. Learn how to use a pair of chopsticks, and know when it's your turn to spin the lazy susan and get food. Chinese table manners are everything. But don't worry, it's not that hard—just follow our lead and wait for your turn!
- Red is (y)our lucky color.
We're usually only allowed to let guys tag along if there are special occasions, like birthdays. Don't even ask what to wear—just have an arsenal of red shirts ready. (Also, if you decide to wear an unlucky color like black...be prepared to get roasted alive.)
- Expect to be "interviewed" (read: bombarded) with life questions.
Our families aren't shortsighted. We think long-term, and we like to be 100% sure on everything. Like a beauty queen in a pageant, practice your answers regarding your college course, your job, and your goals for the future!
- Be friendly with our parents.
This may seem like a no-brainer, but opening up to our parents is essential. They may seem scary at first, but they're actually just wary. They want to get to know you as a potential member of their clan, so be yourself and make conversation with them! It can be as simple as complimenting our mom's specialty dish or agreeing with our dad's business points. Don't be afraid of sharing your hopes and dreams for the future—chances are, they'll end up really liking you for your concrete plans and insights.
- We're more conservative.
Please don't expect us to make the first move. :( We went to a Catholic Chinese school, for crying out loud, where we had to sit properly—even in pants. We're also bound to the unspoken rules of Chinese society. If we don't send you a friend request or message you first, it doesn't mean we don't like you—we're just really conservative when it comes to guys. Although we have stricter curfews and schedules, we'd really appreciate it if you made the effort to be the first one to try and get to know us. :)
- It's all about ~*simple joys*~.
TBH, we love getting surprises as much as the next girl, but you really don't have to spend too much money or lose too much sleep. We did learn about frugality and simplicity, after all. We're happy with a simple "good morning" text, a good luck note, or even just a PHP10 ice candy/mini snow cone. It's the thought that counts! ♥
- We are go-getters who take things seriously. #AsBeforeBaes
As the old mandate goes: As before baes. Acads before lakads. Laude before landi. Chinese parents are stricter, true, but we ourselves were trained by ICA to always give our best. This means we prioritize our academics, our jobs, and our future. We like to plan ahead to reach our respective goals, and we get pretty impressed if we meet a guy who thinks like that, too!
- Our ~own~ expectations are only high when it matters.
Contrary to popular belief, ICAns are not stuck-up when it comes to relationships. We don't expect you to show up with a bouquet of roses on every date, or to treat us to fancy restaurants every monthsary. A little surprise here and there is good, though! But what we really value is your personality and who you are as a person. We want someone who's kindhearted, someone who makes the effort for us—someone who supports us, our hopes and dreams. And we'll support you also! As ICAns, although we're aware of our own self-worth, more importantly, we know how to value the people who love us, too. ♥
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Hi! It's been so long since I planned to post my story in another platform aside from wattpad and now here I am, hoping that my story can be featured here.
My story is entitle "Who Are You," it's a tagalog-english teen fiction story so I hope, those filipinos who visit here can read my story!
WHO ARE YOU: PRELUDE
Sinungaling na ba ako kung sasabihin ko sa inyo ang pangalan ko? Hindi ako sure kung anong sasabihin kong pangalan ko pero may nagsasabi sa aking wag nalang magpakilala sa inyo.
May gusto lang naman akong itanong... Paano kung may makilala ka sa kasalukuyan na nagpapaalala sayo sa nakaraan? Anong gagawin mo kung ang nakilala mo sa kasalukuyan ay may tinatago pa lang sikreto na kahit siya mismo ay walang alam pero may kinalaman sa iyong nakaraan? Anong gagawin mo kung ang dalawang ito ay may koneksyon? Anong pipiliin mo? Ang nakilala mo sa nakaraan? O ang nagpakilala bilang ibang tao sa kasalukuyan? Past? Or Present?
There was this guy I dated for a while but things didn't turn out well. I was so into him that one night I can't stop thinking about him, I've decided to send his MOM a message on facebook confessing how much I like her son. I wish it ended there but no. I had to make it so emotional, lengthy and detailed like the drama queen I am. Luckily, it went to message request so I'm hoping she hasn't really read it yet. Up until this day it makes me cringe whenever I think about it but hey, whenever it pops in my mind I make myself laugh too so thank you self for being unbelievably shameless and brave when it comes to love. I may age faster because I have made a lot of cringe-worthy moments that I constantly make faces out of embarrassment just reflecting on my antics but I know I've made more hilarious memories than what ifs and somehow that makes the disappointments feel more like assurances that I have gave it my all and I have lived as honest (maybe a little to honest) as I could. #ItsOnlyNatural #CanBnatural
I've been investing in arts, photography, and writing. I've also got back to reading the other day and I finished reading this amazing book entitled 300 Things I Hope by Iain S. Thomas. It is all about the things the author hopes his readers to do in all aspects of life. So, I decided to make a version of it with all of the things I'm hoping for.
I hope I get to see my friends be successful in life. I hope to make a big mural someday. I hope to be a well-known artist like the artists I look up to. I hope to marry the person I am in love with today. I hope to be a little kinder to myself. I hope to see happiness even in the smallest things. I hope to travel the world. I hope to be a good mother and a wife to my future family. I hope to have my artworks displayed in a gallery or an exhibit. I hope to learn more about creative writing. I hope I won't learn how to get tired and give up my passion. I hope I won't get too hard on myself whenever I don't get the results I've been wanting to see in my works. I hope to love myself more even on the days I hate it the most. I hope to lead and empower women; to be their voice and for them to believe in themselves that they can be the woman they look up to. And when I've reached my limit of these things, I hope I won't get tired of reminding myself that my emotions don't make me weak, hence, makes me stronger. These are some of the things I always hope for. What about you? What are you hoping for?
I started fixing myself this quarantine. I mean, I started trying makeup products. As a teen, I'm on my phone almost every hour of the day, scroll on my social media accounts, especially Instagram, and also Pinterest where you get to see nice and pleasing photography by bunch of amazing and beautiful people from different parts of the world. So I started taking my own as well. I did not know that taking your own photo and try to get an Instagramable one is sooooooooo hard, it's exhausting. I do not have alot of space in my room, and I would definitely not do it outside our house because of Corona Virus, and I don't want to be seen by our neighbors HAHA so I have no choice but to make tiis inside my room.
Out of atleast 25 shots, only 2 are a nice picture. While I'm all sweaty and tired, I am proud of what I could do beyond my comfort zone. And this definitely built my self confidence, (and I secret love the compliments I received from both people I know and don't know) It's not my first time visiting in here, Candy! But I'm new to writing my thoughts and experiences, so bare with me HAHA.
Until next time!