10 Things We Hate About Each Other

Rewind to July 2003's Candyman.

Why are guys and girls always at odds? We've come up with a list (and graciously allowed the boys to defend themselves) to finally figure out this big mystery.

Five things girls hate about boys:

  1. YOU'RE INSENSITIVE. We're bawling our eyes out because our dog chewed up our trigonometry homework (it happens!), we've got a huge zit on our nose, and we spotted our crush holding hands with some girl in the mall yesterday! When you come along and spot us all teary-eyed, you do one of the two: a) bolt out of there like you're training for the Olympics, and you're late for practice; or b) ask "Hey, why is your face all red? You allergic to something? Oh, you've got a pimple on your nose!" And then, you laugh your head off.
    We are not intentionally insensitive. We do it because there are times when we're not sure what we're supposed to say. After all, we're not, repeat, NOT mind readers. Tears make us uncomfortable and unsure of ourselves, so rather than say something really dumb, we stick to the things we do best: a) avoid trouble, or b) try to elicit a laugh. Granted, those two approaches have a track record like Scary Spice's solo career, but it's programmed into our systems, so unless we learn a new way of doing things, our skins remain iron-like.
  2. YOU THINK YOU'RE BETTER THAN GIRLS. At math, sports, driving, video games, and basically just about everything. When you see someone having difficulty parking a car, you say in disbelief; "A guy wouldn't be that stupid!" Then, the dawning of enlightenment shines upon you as you catch the driver's feminine features, "Oh, it's a girl." It's as if we're allowed to make mistakes because we're of the inferior gender. And when we demand to know why you think this way, you just shrug your shoulders and say, "Because it's true.' Oh, help!
    Guys: Well, it is true! Just kidding! There are a lot of thing girls do better than boys, like...well, you talk really well. But you have to admit, attitudes are changing. What girls couldn't do before, they're now doing better than most guys. Heck, I know Lisa Leslie could beat me in a game of basketball any time. It's just that doing everything guys do occasionally robs us of the chance to be the classic knights-in-shining-armor. What better excuse is there to make pa-cute­ to a girl than to ask if she needs help with her math, sports, driving, etc.? It makes us feel a bit better about our poor selves, so give us a break. Oh, and watch the road!
  3. YOU'RE IRRESPONSIBLE. Woe unto the girl who is paired with a boy on a major project! We know what you say when you pick group mates! "Let's work with a girl so we don't have to do anything!" So what happens to us when we're stuck with you guys? We turn into nags (and contrary to what you think, we hate that!): "Don't be late for the meeting!" "Stop fooling around, start, working!" and "Why aren't you doing your share of the work?"
    Guys: This is one instance wherein we will freely admit that girls can do a better job than guys. Girls are much better at making presentations and things like that because you're more conscientious. Plus, teachers like it better when they know girls made their report. We'd rather have a job done right than do it ourselves and spoil the whole thing.
  4. YOU THINK YOU CAN CHARM YOUR WAY INTO OUR HOMEWORK (OR ANYTHING ELSE!). You're best at this: making pa-cute! With your heads leaning on our shoulders, the brightness of your smiles, all that bola on how we're the prettiest, smartest, and sweetest girls you've ever known. And all because you need our homework, the number of our best friend, or some money. And the sad part is, more often than not, you get away with it. Sigh.
    Guys: And that's why we do it: because it works! Seriously, though, would anyone-girl or guy-want to be asked for something in a manner that is more sour than sweet? Besides, girls do this even better. How many times has a guy acquiesced to do a girl's homework or help her study for a test the next day, despite a personal schedule crammed with PS2 sessions and ESPN marathons? A few sweet words and a head leaning on our shoulder, and we're all yours. Don't upset the status quo!
  5. YOU THINK OGLING GIRLS IS YOUR GOD-GIVEN RIGHT. As much as you think you were created to help out us damsels in distress, you guys believe that in exchange for your strong arms and sharp wit, you are totally entitled to ogle girls as if we were toys on display. When you talk about a girl, it's all about her body. Maybe one percent will be about her personality, then you revert back to her short skirts and tight shirts.
    Guys: Asking us not to look at girls in the aforementioned garb is like asking shoppers not to notice beautiful, tastefully executed store windows. Yes, this sounds terrible, but we do have eyes. But it's really all talk for most of us, since we're more afraid of rejection than anything (except maybe flying cockroaches).

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The most thrilling and delightful moment of any school day is opening up your baon during breaks. There is always so much excitement in unveiling your homemade meal and snacks housed inside matching heat-insulating containers. Because preparing packed meals is an age-old tradition of showing parental love, loved ones pour effort into curating a nutritious meal accompanied by a selection of side dishes, desserts, and beverages daily; it reminds us that we are being taken care of, even from far away.

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Even other cultures practice making packed lunch. In Japan, mothers create bento--Japanese meals in partitioned boxes. Because of the popularity of bento, trends have emerged, such as the Kyaraben, or character-themed bento. Naturally, Japanese parents and students began competing for who had the cutest and tastiest bento, and this is similar to what I have witnessed in my own childhood. I remember seeing my classmates sharing their snacks and lunches. They would compare and boast about their parents' or yayas’ cooking. In my case, I never had the chance to join in the competition or indulge in homemade cooking. Up until this day, I have never brought any baon to school.

For a long time, I envied others. As trivial or petty as it may seem, not having baon became a problem for my grade school self. During that time, I had to sit in a separate cafeteria away from my friends because the kids who bought food were assigned to sit elsewhere. You could consider me spoiled, but I wanted to experience something most kids did. I had food at home, so what made it so hard to bring some with me to school?

Now that I am on my final year in high school I have come to realize the benefits of purchasing my own food. Since I spent on food everyday, I learned to budget my allowance at a young age. Over the years, I learned to practice self-control whenever I wanted to eat more greasy fries and drink sweetened beverages. I have tasted the strangest viands at the school cafeterias, and I have repeatedly satiated myself over my latest delicious discoveries. Despite the struggles, I am thankful that I have never had baon because of what I have learned. Not to mention, I never had to experience eating cold food.

Choosing between dreams and practicality is never easy. My CETs season just ended with the release of the UPCAT results. Anxious as I logged on the website, I started to think about what would happen if I didn't pass UP. Ever since I was six years old, I fixated on the idea that I will become an iska, serving the country and studying at my dream school, which is UP. I strived and studied hard for the UPCAT, sacrificing a lot of things like hang-outs and gala weekends for reviews.

Throughout my CETs journey, I started seeing myself studying only in UP, and while there were no results yet, my friends and I already started planning our lives around the fact that we're gonna study in UP. It was a big deal for me, my friends and my family that I get the chance to study in UP since it's so far from my hometown which is Benguet, and better yet, it's a very well known university.

January 2020 came and universities started releasing CETs results. I was expecting my DCAT and ACET results that month. I passed DCAT but brushed it off because even though I liked the school, I never really saw myself studying there. Same thoughts with Ateneo, since it never really crossed my mind that I might study in ADMU. In fact, Ateneo was never really a choice for me, I only took it just to have another choice in case I failed the UPCAT. I also applied for financial aid not because I was really planning on studying there, but more of "para lang sure na may college ako". I know it's a bad thing but they were just my back-up schools because my main goal was really UP.

One Friday afternoon, ACET results came out. I passed, managed to get a scholarship, and in that moment, my plans just started to crumble.

Seeing that I got a 100% tuition and fees discount, free dorm fees, and an additional book allowance got me into considering studying to Ateneo. Suddenly, I got torn between UP, my dream school, and Ateneo, which offers so much more.

As the months passed, and after talking to my parents, my plans and decisions got more jumbled and messy. I still wanted to go to UP even if there were no results yet but Ateneo offering so much would mean a lesser burden to my parents in terms of finances.

Even though my parents told me that they'll support me no matter where I choose to go, the practicality that Ateneo offers in terms of finances was not an easy thing to waive. Sometimes I would laugh at the fact that I'd spend less on a private school than on a state university. Talking to my friends helped somehow, but they also have various opinions about the two universities. I managed to tell myself to hold off the problem until UPCAT results get released, and so I did.

UP released the UPCAT results and seeing that I passed made me scream and cry, literally. At that moment, all I was thinking was that I passed my dream school and I'm officially a QC college student.

My parents were so proud of me even though they got scared because I screamed, but ultimately, they were happy for me. The next day, I sat down, stared at my UPCAT and ACET results, and told myself that I needed to decide. This was the hardest part. I tried deciding using the pros and cons method but it didn't really work. Talking to my parents also didn't help because they'd support me either way, so their judgement was not a factor at all. I also had the same course in both schools so that wasn't a big help. I was 99% close to letting go of my dream university and decide to go to Ateneo.

I weighed options and Ateneo was the cheaper and more practical option. I also started to see myself studying as a blue eagle, roaming around the campus etc. And financially, I didn't need to worry much except for food. At that point, I started to really like the idea of going to Ateneo more than studying in UP. But then, as the weeks went by, the Ateneo Plan started to lose my interest.

I realized that studying in Ateneo would be a great opportunity, but not something that will really make me happy. The finances and all would be so much better but I wouldn't be happy and content, and I felt that Ateneo couldn't give me everything that I wanted and needed. Then a light bulb lit up.

As I was imagining myself at UP, I ultimately felt that happiness and content that I didn't feel with Ateneo. I realized that, if I didn't study in UP, I know later in my life, I would regret it. I would regret not choosing my dream university because I didn't choose what would make me happy.

In short, I chose my dream over practicality. I know that I would be successful in both tracks, but I simply chose my dream because it is where I'm happier and more content. Besides, we can make our dreams practical but not all the time can the practical choice equate to our dreams. So to those having a hard time choosing between dreams and practicality, weigh it out and always remember to put yourself and your happiness first. And of course, choose the choice that you know you'll not regret later on.

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