10 Best Ways to Catch and Keep A Guy's Attention
The whirlwind that is the girl-boy social scene is a lot like fishing. Like the sea, dating is rich in variety and opportunity. And once you've found a catch, you need to know how to reel him in. But more than just getting his attention, you need to know how to keep it too. Here are some helpful tips and insights on what to use as bait and how to get him hooked!
- Ready. Poised. Polished.
THE BAIT: You don't have to look obscene or ridiculous to get attention. Stand out in a more sophisticated way. Get a guy's attention with a put-together look—fixed hair, classy outfit, clean nails, and so on. Enough with loud girls in tight, revealing outfits; what that really achieves is a mere fleeting glance. A girl with class makes an impression that lasts.
HOOK 'EM: Show him that you're more than a pretty face. Your inner beauty and intrinsic charm should shine through. A guy may first be attracted to your looks, but it's your personality that keeps him lingering. There are lots of girls who look good, but not many can boast of an interesting character. Be one of the few!
- The More You Know
THE BAIT: Be in the know. Reading books, watching the news, and keeping up to date on all the latest (and even juiciest) reports is a great way to keep the conversation (and his fascination) alive. You want to show him that you're a thinking gal who has an opinion.
HOOK 'EM: Try to learn something from him as well. Not all guys may know the latest on CNN or the hottest trends, but you might be surprised to discover a lot of new things. Your interest in what he is saying proves that you're not just a good talker, you're also a great listener.
- The Charity Case
THE BAIT: A good heart is always an admirable thing. With all the different charitable organizations around, it isn't that difficult to get involved and make the world a better place. Surprise your guy with your giving spirit. It shows that you have a social conscience whose world is not confined to the air-conditioned corridors of the mall.
HOOK 'EM: Have him join you in your charitable activities. Get him involved the next time you go on a social excursion. Not only will you be doing a good thing by adding another volunteer to the good cause, but you'll also have a great excuse to spend more time with him. Two birds with one stone! Touché!
- High on Passion
THE BAIT: Show him how passionate you are about life through your interests and hobbies. Guys are always looking for something unique and special about a girl, and your interest might just be it. Your dedication to your hobby tells him that he might someday be the object of your devotion.
HOOK 'EM: Help him find his passion. You could either share your own passion or suggest hobbies for him to invest in. Get him interested in collecting unique knick-knacks from bazaars or going to the beach and finding one-of-a-kind shells. Not only is it a way to build his personality, it's an excellent opportunity to spend time together too!
- Be a sport.
THE BAIT: It's a fact that guys like girls who are into sports, unless it's body building or wrestling, of course. After all, sports indicate that a girl is into fitness and health—always a good thing. Show your sporty side and organize games with him and your friends. Let him notice that you're a team player.
HOOK 'EM: Become his personal cheerleader. Watch his games and root for him. Your presence and enthusiasm show how supportive you are of him. This is the kind of thing that can really make a guy think: "This one's a keeper."
- Wicked Humor
THE BAIT: Impress him with your wicked humor. Guys like to laugh, so pull out your funny books and research on the Internet. He'll notice what a fun-loving girl you are. Also, creating a lighthearted atmosphere makes it easier for him to enjoy himself and relax. Warning: Be hilarious, not ridiculous. Be snazzy with your words, not silly.
HOOK 'EM: Laugh at his jokes. No matter how corny (yes, we love our "your mama's so fat" jokes) or politically incorrect, try to smuggle in a giggle or at the very least a big grin. It'll make him feel special and confident that he's showing you a good time. But if he suddenly pulls out a red nose or squirting flower, feel free to ditch and run!
- Make Scents
THE BAIT: I guess it goes without saying that guys like girls who smell good. It's something that we really keep an eye, er, nose on. You could use something as simple as baby cologne or the latest designer perfume from Rustan's. But truth be told, smelling nice begins with good hygiene.
HOOK 'EM: Surprise him with different scents. You may have your signature fragrance, but certain smells entice certain moods. Show different sides to your personality with the different scents you use. Not only will that keep him intrigued, he will also want to get close enough to take a whiff.
- The Friend Connection
THE BAIT: Show him your social side and get to know his friends. His barkada is perhaps the deciding factor on whether a girl passes or not. So if you're chummy with them, chances are he'll notice that and realize that you'd be a natural addition to his life.
HOOK 'EM: Let him know that he's important to you too. Don't exclude him from your activities with your barkada. Inviting him to get close to your dearest friends tells him that you're willing to emotionally invest in him. Also, your girlfriends have the right to see what's keeping you from the usual group parlor trips.
- Something's Cooking...
THE BAIT: Mother always says: The way to a man's heart is through his stomach. Mother knows best. Catch him off guard with your wizardry in the kitchen. Cook up a storm and show him just how much of a domestic goddess you are. Who says you need Love Potion No. 9? A home-cooked dinner for two is all the magic you need.
HOOK 'EM: Sometimes it's love that's brewing in the kitchen. Well, love might be a more advanced recipe, but both of you working closely together is definitely a great way of making sparks fly. Learning a new recipe might help you learn more about each other.
- The Honest Truth
THE BAIT: Be honest about your feelings. If you like a guy, then express it. Honesty is not only very admirable but also quite attractive. It also saves a guy from playing the guessing game.
HOOK 'EM: Be true to yourself. Inner confidence and knowing who you are will earn a guy's respect. And a guy who has respect for you is one who will stay in the long run.
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"Today, I Won"
I always caught feelings for someone, and hoped so much that one day there could a thing between the two of us. I'm usually the one that makes the effort to buy and/or make cute gifts, chats them every other day, and stays up all night with him.
When I was 16, my childhood crush suddenly came back into my life. We'd constantly send updates to each other, recommend favorite songs and talk even the most random things. He'd even text me as early as 6 to just greet me good morning almost everyday. I hoped so much that when I confessed, he suddenly stopped talking to me.
For short, he ghosted me. Those 6 months I spent talking to him, allotting my time for him, and staying up until 3 am for him - all gone in a simple confession. Although I had a few crushes before him, he's the only one that got me in real pain. It was the kind of pain that I never thought I'd experience. It was the kind of pain that I couldn't believe.
After 7 years (it happened back in 2017), I thought he came back into my life to stay, but I guess he's just one of the guys who distanced. I felt a complete loser that time. But during this quarantine, everything was different. I caught feelings for someone else, but he treated me with the best kindness yet.
It happened at 2 am, May 30, 2020, when I impulsively confessed my feelings through messaging him. After saying my feelings, he responded with genuine and kind words. We both even complimented each other. Although the feelings didn't reciprocate, I still found a connection that can't be replaced with any guy.
To my 16 year old self, here I am, 18 and happy. You may have felt that time was the biggest regret and loss, but I'm here to tell you, we won. Today, I won.
Why our high school barkada is the best?
Remembering our high school years entails quite a lot reminiscing of the things we all been through when we were younger. You’ve experience a lot of new things during those 4 wonderful years and did most of them with the few people you consider your barkada. And through a series of all the lunch breaks you had together, the walks you took on the way home, and taking the same classes, you never thought you’d survive, you have made your life’s greatest friends.
Here are some of the reasons why your high school barkada is the best:
1. You figured out early teenage life together. The transition one have undergone from being a kid to a teenager wasn’t easy. For a moment you are not sure whether you should have played with your friends during recess or you should have just sat down and ate your food because you were too old for games. But whatever it is you chose to do, having friends who were as clueless as you make everything feel easier because you know, deep down, you’d figure things out eventually. You just need good company.
2. They were with you during your “jeje“ days. I bet you have pictures taken with Camera360 and Retrica. You also have pictures edited using Pizap with embarrassing captions and you somehow kept some of them so you could have something to post online during their birthdays.
3. They know all your exes. They will never EVER forget the name of an ex-boyfriend, an ex-fling, an ex-crush, and an almost you had. They will remind you of your every questionable love decision but you’ll just laugh anyway while saying “Past is past”.
4. They never judge you. They have welcomed you to their lives when you thought jelly shoes and checkered polos were the bomb! They were quick to have told your teachers that you were not feeling well so you could go home when you really just needed to poop. You tell them every embarrassing story you have and were fine with it.
5. You can always count on them. From the moment you first fell in love and the moment you first had your heart broken, they were with you. They were with you the moment you lost a parent and at moments when you thought you had nothing. Through every break-up and breakthrough, they were there to be your support system.
6. They are your family. Your high school friend’s family is your own family’s extension. Their parents are like your own. Don’t you feel a little kilig whenever your friend’s parents call you “anak”? And then eventually calling them mama and papa became so natural? I felt that, all the time.
7. They will always be your home. They are your place of refuge and security, the place who offers you their hands when you feel lost and the place you run to when you need saving. No matter how much time and distance separate you, they will be the one’s that you always long for and they are the one’s that you will always return to.
You're gonna bend and break and then at some point in your life, you feel like you don't want to fall in love again.
Not because you're no longer capable of loving but because you're so afraid to get hurt again that you don't want to take a risk anymore. And you're gonna wake up one day and realize that you're not the same person as you were yesterday. The heart aches, heartbreaks, frustration, you'll see, those will transform your whole being into something better.
Honey, move forward. Let go off all the things that are not meant for you. Let go of all the people who hurt you and take you for granted. Don't be stuck feeling miserable.
And don't turn that love into hate when you resent someone for hurting you or for breaking your heart. Just wish them well and let them go. Welcome the possibility of a beautiful love that will come your way. You're worthy of love that you keep on giving to other people. Keep that in mind.
I wish you well and all the happiness. You deserve it.
Here we are — with rough hands entwined, damned hearts at peace, broken souls resting with ease —savoring each passing moment before we part ways...hoping things will turn out to be okay. Here we are — standing still, keeping our earnest desire and ardent passion for each other at bay — hoping the Universe will finally grant us of the day that we no longer have to pretend... that things will no longer have to end.
Here we are — with crooked smiles, lingering touch that will last for a while -- gathering all the remaining courage to set each other free. Wishing for the day that our hearts will no longer have to worry. Here we are letting each other go. Even though we both know that the future is uncertain. Even though we're unsure if our paths will cross once again.