What It’s Like To Be A Working College Student: '‘Di na ako puwede mag-cram kasi lagot ako'
Studying is one thing to be stressed about, but imagine hustling on the side, too. That’s a different kind of self-fulfillment. IMO, working students are one of the most responsible and industrious people I have ever met. Despite their busy schedules, you can see them around campus with smiles on their faces, and sometimes, they will still try to stop and just catch-up with you. Daming time!
Life tip: If you want to learn how to manage time, they are the best people to get in touch with. I swear! One of them is Xeina Campaña, a second-year International Hospitality Management student at De La Salle-College of St. Benilde. She shares her rough yet the life-changing journey of being a former working student.
On choosing the ‘working student’ life
Xeina worked as a barista at Starbucks last October, and just resigned recently. Her reason for taking the job opportunity was to gain work experience as early as now and to earn money of her own. “Basically just getting myself ready after I graduate,” she said. “Second, gusto ko ng sarili kong pera. Like, pride ko ‘yun na I don’t have to ask for money from my parents every time I want something. I wanted to be responsible for myself.”
She also shared how she prefers hands-on experiences compared to just taking in blackboard lessons inside the four corners of their classroom. “I felt bored at some point sa school. Feeling ko I needed to learn more than just that.” More often than not, life experiences have greater value to our growth as an individual rather than bombarding yourself with the technical lessons in school.
You have to continuously cope with the demands of work, school, and social life
Sleep deprivation is the number one enemy of all working students—it’s like their kryptonite—and it is inevitable for them not to encounter this as they balance two (or more!) schedules every day. “Mayroong times talaga na four hours lang tulog ko tapos papasok na naman sa school bukas.”
Sacrifices are expected to be done when you become a working student. Sometimes you have to choose between sleep or going to that 7:30 a.m. class, to eat lunch or just use the time to go to your group meeting or finish your paperwork. “Minsan ‘di ko na alam saan ko isisingit ang paggawa ko ng mga homework and papers,” she admits. “Kasi ‘di ko rin magawa sa work, ang breaks ko saktong magpapahinga at kakain lang talaga ako.” It is a constant juggle of responsibilities and more often than not—even if you don’t want to—you will have to spare some responsibilities to tend to the other ones.
There was a point that she felt really guilty because she wasn’t 100 percent available for her groupmates, even having a hard time executing her part because she is always MIA due to her working schedule. “May instances na group work. ‘Di ka maka-join kasi may work ka. So, all you’re left to say is, ‘Sige ako na lang sa mga hindi niyo kaya,’ or ‘Tirhan niyo na lang ako ng gagawin.’” She explains. “Siyempre feel ko left out na talaga ako sa school pero ‘di ako left out sa work. Alam mo ‘yong meron talagang side na okay at hindi okay.”
How she became a dean’s lister even with the constant challenges in-between
You can never go wrong with time management—it’s everyone’s key to success. “‘Di na ako puwede mag-cram kasi lagot ako. Parang ginawa ko imbis na isang bagsakan ko gawin ang mga requirements, ginagawa ko one step at a time. ‘Di bale na ‘di matapos agad at least may improvement araw-araw,” she said.
Most importantly, don’t forget about your own needs. Pay attention to what your mind and body need. Because if your mental and physical health are at risk, you will be encountering more complications in the end. “Hindi rin ako masyado nagiging hard sa sarili ko kasi alam kong ginagawa ko naman ang kaya ko for the day.” Always remember that small wins for the day are also considered, well, wins!
You get non-monetary benefits, too
Besides another bullet on her resume and good pay, she also built various connections she can utilize in the future, like the managers and colleagues she worked with. With her daily interaction with complex customers and co-workers, she also got the opportunity to expand her social circle and develop her interpersonal skills, and with that, she was introduced to different perspectives in life—making her more open, understanding, and empathizing.
She also began to feel the adulting life. “Nagiging responsible ka sa time mo. Unlike noong regular student pa ako, hawak ko talaga oras ko. Kahit saang gala, sige go lang. Pero noong working [student] na ako, iniisip ko kung worth it ba ipagpalit ang rest ko sa gala or no,” she explained. You would indeed start to weigh in your wants and needs, making you more disciplined and develop self-control - the primary traits that you should have in order to compensate for the different demands when you graduate from college.
Some advice to take note of if you are currently a working student
A piece of advice from Xeina to other working students, “Always get enough rest! Hindi mo kailangan i-exhaust ang sarili mo nang sobra-sobra just to say natapos mo lahat ng gawain mo. You’re only human. You do what you can for that day and continue it tomorrow. Your acads and job are very important pero mas importante na you stay healthy, mentally and physically. Also, time management and discipline are key to balance it out. Don’t be too hasty sa decisions kasi you might end up in the wrong places. And also, treat yourself [kapag may] sahod na, you deserve it after hustling.”
If you’re planning to be one, here are the things you need to consider
As Xeina told me, you have to first consider everything in your life because the moment you step into the world of being a working student, inevitable changes will occur in a snap. Working is no joke. It is a commitment, you have to be strong to accept the sacrifices and adjustments that are being demanded of you.
But apart from everything, the most essential lesson that you will be obtaining is discipline. "Kasi ako before I applied [for a job], I asked myself kung kailangan ko talaga ‘to. I mean, money wasn’t the main issue but I just needed something para maging interesting naman everyday life ko," Xeina explains. "But then noong nagwo-work na ako, na-realize ko na hindi lang pala siya pampalipas ng oras. Kasi I needed to commit and it was hard to say no when duty calls."
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Nineteen is a rather unremarkable age as it is not as celebrated as the age before it nor is it considered as much of a turning point as the age after it. However, this is the time when you find yourself smack in the middle of enjoying your teens and worrying about becoming an adult.
More often than not, you'll start to wonder whether you made the most out of your teenage years or whether you're ready to take on the responsibilities of being an adult. This constant dilemma will leave you anxious and confused. But, don't beat yourself up because this is the beauty of being 19.
You are no longer the foolish teenager who thought he/she was the center of the universe because now, you are old enough to start thinking like a grown up who understands that you are but a tiny speck in the whole solar system. It doesn't mean that you are insignificant but rather, that you are part of a colossal existence. This realization will enable you to make the right choice. And as you navigate the remaining days of your teens, don't forget to look back on the lessons you've picked up through the years and look forward to what lies ahead of you in the future.
BUWAN (Reverse Poetry)
Isinulat ni: Zamira Ariola
Ang liwanag noon
Nagsilbing gabay ngayon
Ang nagpapanatiling buhay
Sa pusong pagod
Sa pusong wala ng laman
Sa pusong wala nang nararandaman
Ikaw ang nagdala
Bakit nga ba?
Ikaw ang minahal
Ikaw ang ginawang mundo
Para magkasilbi ang buhay ko?
Bakit ikaw ang nagdala ng liwanag?
Ikaw ba ang buwan?
[Basahing muli paitaas]
"The paradoxical idea of attaining a happier life and how to withstand these beliefs."
The Revolting Truth About Happiness by Theserenefae
If people ask you about your vision of a happier life we automatically envision ourselves having more money, true love, a better job, Instagram-worthy vacations, etc. But let me break this to you this, According to Dr. Laurie Santos, Professor of Psychology at Yale University and the voice behind The Happiness Lab podcast, "Most of the goals we think would make us happy do not really make us happy." And why is that? Simple, being happy is all in our minds. The human mind ploys us with these lenses on how we envision ourselves and our lives to be happy. The perception of "having" or "gaining" is the exact opposite of what will truly make our lives better. So how can we really be "happy"?
• Seek happiness inside you. This is a quintessential reason for our vision of happiness: misconceptions about having a lot of money would make me happy; owning this and that would make me happy; entering a relationship would make me happy. This is not the case, if you want to be truly happy with your relationship, you have to be already happy on your own. If you want satisfaction from others, you have to be satisfied with yourself. And so on.
• Fill that hole righteously We all have that tiny hole inside our hearts, tampering it with temporary band-aids. Fill this hole with purpose. Have you ever heard about The Three "M's"— Master, Mission, and Mate? Define who will be your Master, is it God? If that's so, your Mission could be following his words and will. Mate would be the last for they will be the best companion to fulfill your mission. Now hear me out, it is important to do this accordingly. We often times jumble it or invert it which can lead to failures.
• Give gifts to others. The wonderful grace in giving. There’s nothing like the rush of pure joy when you get a chance to give. However, this may not be something that we're used to. But apparently, openhandedness is our soul's true shape. As Eugene Peterson put it, "Giving is what we do best. It is the air into which we were born." This doesn't necessarily mean we have to give away our stuff but we can also present love, kindness, gratefulness, etc. in our own simplest ways to anyone such as giving time, encouragement, helping hand, or even forgiveness. Try giving and you'll receive inconceivable gifts in return.
• Savor moments. Savoring deeply intensifies our positive emotions while doing something that we love the most by simply stepping outside of the experience to review and appreciate the moment. You can practice this by having a delicious meal, reading a good book, or any activity that you enjoy and love. It can also be enhanced by sharing these experiences with others, appreciating such amazing moments, or staying present the entire time.
• Choose to Love Deeper Today's society relentlessly pressures all of us to have this "perfect" lifestyle such as pursuing careers that drain you, finding value through virtual world and purchases, letting achievements become your whole identity, and yet after all that you still feel empty and failure inside. Consumption is just skin deep—a shallow perception of happiness. Deep life brings the best out of us and others. It is about nourishing what you already have, focusing on the relationships than material wealth, becoming vulnerable at times, and being self-aware.
• Understand that Sufferings and Pain are part of Human Being. Always remember that loneliness and sufferings are inevitable. That is completely how life goes. You may be happy for a moment or a month but sooner or later great tribulation will start to kick in. Combat despair with graciousness. Count all the blessings that you have (and will have in near future, claim it!) by writing it down on a piece of paper or typing on your phone. Viola! an instant boost for happiness. We all know the fact that this superficial happiness won't work, but why do I keep on wanting? I already have all this wisdom about how to be happy for ages, but why can't I apply it to my own life?
First, you have to understand that simply knowing doesn't change your behavior. Care to realize that all the tips that I have mentioned are all verbs? Because at the end of the day, it is all about how you choose to be happy and initiate actions towards success. Know, reflect, visualize, believe, and do something about it. All of these are Actions! This is the secret of all the happiest and most influential people in the world—actions. Furthermore, do know that some of these tips do not work instantly most of the time. It requires a lot of time, motivation, consistency, and effort. I do know it's easier said than done. Take each of them slowly, one step at a time.
If it wasn’t for pain, I wouldn’t be alive. It may sound contradictory, but it’s true. Pain reminds me that I can feel, along with other emotions. Pain reminds me that I can heal, just like how I did in the past. Pain reminds me that I am strong and I can do better. It reminds me that life can be bitter, and it is up to us to make it a little sweeter (or saltier, depending on what the person wants).
With this epiphany, I take pain in a positive light. It’s normal that it can break me and make me want to stay in bed all day, but having someone or something remind me that there is hope is enough. It’s normal that I cry my heart out, but it’s important to remember that there’s a calm after the storm. If it wasn’t for pain, I wouldn’t be who I am now. It has shaped me and how I look at things. It has changed the way I approach circumstances that can challenge me and my beliefs.
Pain, back then, made me cower in the dark. Pain used to be my biggest fear, and I used to do my best to avoid pain. However, I realized that avoiding pain is like avoiding life. Because of how I wanted to protect myself, I closed myself off to people and opportunities. I used to tell myself that “this will end badly”, or “this is going to hurt in the end”. I always focused on how much pain I might endure in the end that I forgot to enjoy the process.
It’s inevitable, you see? Endings, most of the time, may hurt. It’s natural for us to grow attached to someone or something, and their disappearance might bring us a lot of pain. However, one should always remember that the pain is a reminder of how close you became, how many memories you had. If it wasn’t for pain, life would be pointless. If it wasn’t for pain, we would be nothing.
Cancelled vacations, parties, events, meetings and appointments might be the ingredients of someone’s anxiousness. I just recently published a blog titled ‘Ways to Lessen Anxiety During Quarantine’ I hope it could everyone to lessen their worries in these trying times. Here is the link: https://photographsbycess.wordpress.com/2020/07/05/ways-to-lessen-anxiety-during-quarantine/