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Why You Can Be Girly and a Geek At The Same Time

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There are many things in the world that I don't understand.

Math, for example, is and will always remain as a perpetual mystery that I'm not even sure I have enough willpower (or sanity) to solve. I'm no genius, but it doesn't take straights on As in a subject about logical reasoning and mechanical formula to understand that a Girl + Stereotypical girly traits + Stereotypical girly interests = Inability to be a geek.

But before we get to that, let's lay down some facts first. What is a geek, anyway? According to the Merriam Webster, it's "a person who is very interested and knows a lot about a particular field or activity." In the past, harsh stereotypes and outdated media cliches used to depict them as hermits who live in their parents' basements and tan via computer screens. But thanks to modern influences and evolved mindsets regarding traditionally geeky commodities, titleholders no longer carry the term with as much malice and shame as they once did. Nowadays, just about everyone is a self-proclaimed geek for something! Whether you spend your weekends deciding between Dota 2 vs. League of Legends or Call of Duty: Modern Warfare 3 vs. Battlefield 4, or binge watching and making critical analyses about obscure 90s films, you proudly fulfill the New Age geek criteria and carry the name with utmost dignity.

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Nowadays, just about everyone is a self-proclaimed geek for something!

Now what does the world have to say about the term girly? By definition, it's simply a "characteristic of, or appropriate to a girl or young woman." But by typecast impressions and social context, it's slang for a female subscribing to conventional feminine ideals like using makeup, owning a copious amount of pink, donning skirts and dresses, infusing "OMG!" "Oh my golly gosh," "like," and "so" in her lexicon, and concerning herself with boys, gossip, and the ever-so suspenseful condition of her nails.

With these 2 terms now properly defined, you probably think the idea of ever mixing both into one person would just be ridiculously impossible and unnatural, right?

Wrong.

There is no universal, set-in-stone law that states that the way a girl chooses to look must define what she chooses to like. In this day and age, as much as we tell girls to go in the direction of their dreams and interests with reckless abandon, a majority of our society still tends to hold that go-getter back if what she aims for isn't what tradition tells us girls should aim for. Skipping buying lunch (and bringing homecooked baon) for 3 months to finally purchase Kylie Jenner's Dolce K lip kit? Definitely! Pulling an all-nighter to untangle your Link wig and finalize the Skyward Sword's detailing for the cosplay convention next week? Don't even think about it.

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There is no universal, set-in-stone law that states that the way a girl chooses to look must define what she chooses to like.

It's 2016, people. Annihilate the idea that just because a girl can spend hours learning how to perfect her winged eyeliner, she's probably lying about staying up every night to learn the Aurebesh alphabet. If she's a Star Wars geek, regardless of how she portrays herself, she's a Star Wars geek. If she tells you she likes the Avengers, don't raise your brow and condescendingly ask "Do you even read the comics?"

Your misshapen, gender-biased notions about what girly girls can or cannot be does not affect the authenticity of her interests.

Stop devaluing her status as a connoisseur regarding a certain topic just because she's feminine. To be considered a geek, one must be passionate. People see girly girls in such a negative light, mocking them and calling them ditzes as if they're uneducated and uninformed. When you reject her claim to be interested in something beyond the fields you've constricted her in, you make her believe she's incapable of pouring ardent and intense attention into her hobby.

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Because at the end of the day, we're all just a bunch of people doing our best to be happy. So if a girl finds something that makes her smile, whether it's a new pair of heels or the news that  Hyrda-Cap is in a fact a hoax (fingers crossed!), just let her be, because there's no reason why a girl can't have an expensive tube of BB-cream in one hand, and an equally splurge-worthy BB-8 figurine in the other.

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Frances Beltran
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Frances is a 15-year-old student from Saint Pedro College. If she's not writing stories, DIY-ing crafts and accessories, styling both herself and friends, binge watching TV shows, acting or singing on a stage, then you'll probably find her obsessing over her meticulously assembled Instagram captions or attempting to achieve the perfect flat lay.
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