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Why It's Okay Not To Go To The Same University as Your Best Friend

Keep your friendship stronger than ever!

You've been best friends since you first met each other during the first day of pre-school and you've been inseparable ever since. But it's time to grow up and move forward in different universities, which is really scary because you've gotten used to seeing each other every day at school. Trust us when we say that going to separate colleges is not the end of your friendship. In fact, it will make your bond even stronger. Sure it's a lot harder to let her know about that time your crush commented on your Instagram photo and it'll be a little sad that you can't quickly bug her about wearing your hair up or down, but it doesn't mean you can't stay super close. In fact, with technology nowadays, it's easier than ever to keep in touch and keep your friendship strong regardless of your alma matter.

 1  Keep up the random messages. 

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Whether it's a snap of your newly purchased sneakers, a blast of emojis expressing how your crush is driving you crazy today, or a simple ''I miss you'' text, keeping each other in the loop of your everyday, mundane musings, makes it feel like you never had time apart at all. So the next time something big—or small—happens to you, go ahead and shoot your bestie a random message about what happened and even schedule a phone date for the detailed kwento.

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 2  Schedule monthly dates, just you two. 

It's important to really make time for each other whether it's once a week, once every two weeks, or once a month. No matter how busy things get, schedule a catch-up session over dinner, shopping, or even while studying for your next big test. It may be as little as an hour, but what matters is you made the effort to hang out and fill her in on what's new with you.

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 3  Introduce her to your new friends. 

It's equally important that your BFF meets all the new friends you've made and enjoy hanging out with. This way she can feel comfortable around them and you can invite her to whatever plans you have with them as well. In the same way, make it a point to meet her new group of friends and really get to know them. This way nothing gets in the way of you seeing each other and you're still in the loop with everything that's happening at her school, too.

 4  Don't take everything too personally. 

With both of you going to separate colleges, there will be a lot of instances where miscommunication will get in the way—whether it's one of you replying late, not catching phone calls, or having to cancel plans last minute. Since you don't see and talk to each other daily, you won't know exactly everything that's going on with her and you can't be too sure of what keeps her busy always. Things will definitely get busy and it can cause both of you not being able to properly message each other or even lead to missing out on some plans. Don't take it too personally and try to be more understanding of your friend.

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 5  Let her do her thing. 

College is the perfect time to try new hobbies, sports, activities, and just to explore new interests. Give your bestie the room to learn and try new things without you being so clingy. It'll be hard to not call her up every day, but it's good to have your own separate hobbies for a change! Not only will you have more to talk about, but you will also get the chance to learn new things through your best friend.

 6  Forgive, forget, and hug it out. 

You'll experience a lot of instances where you'll get jealous, annoyed, or even upset about absolutely anything (like flaking on a coffee date or not sharing your latest boy-related news) because of all the distance and time spent apart. Whatever the reason, don't let whatever disagreement you had get too big. Try to calm down and realize that fighting with your bestie, who you don't see too often, is really not worth it. Forgive her and yourself, and just hug it out! Make it up to one another by having a chick-lit marathon over ice cream and popcorn.

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At the end of the day, there are no exact rules or commandments when it comes to keeping the bond of friendship strong. The best thing both of you can do is really to make the effort and be there for each other as much as you both can be. And everything else will fall into place! 

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Resident fashion and beauty girl. I’m a health-nut who devotes cheat days to french fries and other glorious carbs. I live at the beach and I can talk about movies, music,  clothes, and my current beauty obsessions for hours on end. 
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