Why Being Awkward Is Actually Good for You
When it comes to social situations, we tend to unleash our inner nerd. Admit it, we've all been there: the overenthusiastic tone of voice, the wild hand gestures, and the words "like" and "um" punctuating our every statement. Yup, we're just so awkward.
And while it's easy to become insecure and to want to hide your face from the world after a particularly cringe-worthy encounter with your new friend/crush/distant relative, did you know that being awkward is actually good for you?
It's true! Although being awkward may seem like purely making a fool out of yourself, studies have actually proven that your social awkwardness can only lead to more success and happiness in life. Don't believe us? Here are the facts!
First of all, you may assume that awkward people overlook minor social expectations. And you would be correct. When surrounded by a group of people, pressure builds up, and our mind and body struggle to compensate with our underlying nervousness and fear by activating an overeager attitude. This causes our brains to short circuit, meaning we begin to think and talk really fast. It also explains why we tend to get super clumsy while we're awkward, tripping over or dropping things more easily. Our bodies are essentially in overdrive mode. Don't blame us!
However, there is a silver lining in all of these potentially embarrassing (oh, who are we kidding, they are totally embarrassing, no doubt about that) moments.
According to Simon Baron-Cohen, FBA—a professor of developmental psychopathology—along with his fellow colleagues in Oxford, awkward individuals have a more intense focus than regular individuals. This interest gravitates towards logic and math, making them better at them than the average person. They're more passionate when it comes to taking things apart and studying certain components, especially in the fields of science and technology. They're also more into gaming and other forms of leisure.
Furthermore, another study done by Pedro Vital, who specializes in mental health, shows that the best indicator of talent in children is not their I.Q.; rather, talent stems from an individual's intensity of focus—something all awkward people have!
Their ardent interest and unusual perspective, coupled with whatever natural abilities they have, make for more hardworking actions—actions that can subsequently lead to numerous opportunities and countless possibilities.ADVERTISEMENT - CONTINUE READING BELOW
Finally, psychologist Ty Tashiro proves once and for all that awkwardness is just one big blessing in disguise. Due to their tendency to focus on one specific topic, awkward people tend to master things far more quickly than their less awkward counterparts. Awkward people are more persistent, as well, as they tend to play certain scenarios in their head, over and over again, in an effort to change or better the outcome of whatever situation they're in. Here's a video by Tashiro explaining everything!
With all that being said, being awkward is healthy. Sure, you may feel like you constantly embarrass yourself in front of people, but the reality is they don't really mind as much as you think they do!
At the same time, the drive and energy you get from being awkward, coupled with all that extra brain behavior, will ensure that your A-game is always on point. You can think your way out of any situation! So the next time you feel awkward for being awkward—well, don't! Embrace your inner weirdness. After all, not only does it make you unique, but it also can be the one thing that spells success for you in the future.
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Outdoors Danielle Flestado @artdkf | May 1, 2020 "I miss the outside world. The last time I went outside of our house was on my birthday. We just bought coffee across our village and went back home immediately. This painting made me feel that I'm in a field, just appreciating the beauty of God's creation. Can you imagine the green grass and pink flowers?"
When everything around you suddenly turns dark, the first thing we'd prolly do, as humans, is to find and grab anything that is closest and nearest to us. We'll hold onto them for as long as we can, trying to collect ourselves and gather courage to adjust our eyesights to the pitch black environment that's consuming us minute by minute. And then you'd hear nothing. Your sense of hearing would somehow go off after not seeing anything for quite awhile. You'll let loose. Cry. Panic. You'll be exhausted for fighting your way out. Then just when you're about to stop and give up, you're no longer afraid. There's only this deafening silence and pithole of darkness that's gonna eat you up alive. And surprisingly, you'll make a home out of it.
You'll make a home out of the darkness that when a ray of light suddenly hits you, you'll try to avoid it. You'll try to cover your eyes. You'll try to cover your ears from the voices trying to help you get out of it. You'll try to hide because your mind and body will go against your will to come out and live. Because the darkness that used to scare you, now comforts you in a way you thought has helped you survived life. And you'll try to live. Day by day. In the darkness. Not knowing where to go. Not knowing where to start. Not knowing who is with you. You will try to live until the darkness that once surrounds you is now within you. And everyday, it's gonna be a cycle of subtle torture. But let me tell you a secret. The darkness won't make you whole.
You'll be broken. And in those hair-like cracks, the light will stubbornly fight its way through until it warms you up. Until you realize to check the switch and turn it on. Until you allow other people to help you find your way back in the light. Until you realize you're ready to live in light again. There's a light at the end of this long and dreading tunnel. The only question that matters: will you let them in?
I always thought of life, like a bead where each piece makes it worth sewing together with other piece of beads to make a stronger bond and to create a beautiful result. Today, how do we bond well with different people especially this difficult time? As this day challenges us to a new normal, may we continue to bead along positively with our life.