What Not To Do After A Breakup

by Bea Marin   |  Feb 24, 2014
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  1. Calling back your ex.
    We've all done it. We've all made the mistake of dialing those digits and ask or sometimes beg them to come back. Later to realize not only was it foolish but we allowed the person to walk back in our lives again, giving them the power to make the same mistake and leave you hurting. Or even worse, they refuse to come back making you feel even more ridiculous. Remember, they're called "ex" for a reason.

  2. Misconceptions of second chances.
    The last thing you need is filling your head with what-ifs and quotes from some romantic drama film. If you feel like there's still space for a second chance, then give it a go and maybe you can try things again. There's no such thing as a third, fourth, or tenth chance because that's just your denial talking. If you were given a good reason to why you broke up in the first place, there is no need to force what is simply not working out anymore.

  3. "What if we are meant to be?"
    As previously mentioned, this is mostly your denial talking and as the saying goes "if it's meant to be, it will be." Give some time to think things through and maybe you'll slowly learn to let things go. You'll realize how much more you deserve. Something better for you is bound to happen sooner than you think.

  4. Social media war?
    May it be a tweet or changing your Facebook status from "in a relationship" to "single" (which you shouldn't have done in the first place) sharing it for the whole World Wide Web to see is a big no-no! Not only will it stir people to gossip, you will also attract attention and drama— wasn’t the break up enough fuss already? You wouldn't want people to start rumors on "who broke up with whom" or start picking sides. Always keep your personal problems to yourself and never let it out on social media.

  5. Going for the rebound.
    The common mistake most people make after a break up is going for a rebound relationship. So before you start going back to the dating scene, ask yourself this: Have you really moved on or are you looking for some new distraction? Not only is it fair to the person but you are also fooling yourself. You would only get your heartbreak mixed up with confused feelings and end up in a messier situation. You are hurting and it's understandable. Getting over a break up doesn't happen in a snap. You can always find a distraction with something productive or something you love doing. Give yourself time and eventually you'll be in a good place again.

What do you do to get over a breakup? Share your bounce-back tips with other Candy Girls in the comment box below!

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