How to Travel with A Friend Without Getting Stressed
Traveling can reveal a lot about a person. You would find out previously unknown bits about her once you share rooms. If you've already gone out of town with someone close and was shocked to discover that she can suck the fun out of everything, then you already know that being with her again on another touristy escapade can result in an uncomfortable and frustrating trip. To make things slightly more bearable, here are a few things you can do:
- Be clear about schedules.
When a friend is never known to be punctual, make it clear that everyone—including her—has to arrive on time for your departure, and that anyone who shows up late will be left behind. It's up to the late-comer whether she'll follow or not, but a deal is a deal. There shouldn't be any hard feelings after.
- Set your foot down regarding finances.
While you may split the bill of your accommodations and your meals, there are some things that are better done individually, such as handling pocket money or exchanging currencies. Before you even leave, discuss money issues so that there won't be any excuses when it's time to shell out moolah.
- Know what you can and can't compromise.
While you may have initially fixed an itinerary, it's quite possible for an inconsiderate friend to totally throw it out the window just to do her own thing. When this happens and there's only the two of you, you can opt to join her if you're willing to compromise. Alternatively, you can simply go with what you originally had in mind, especially if it's a fixed and already paid for tour. Going your separate ways isn't so bad, as it may lessen the pressure between the two of you.
- Listen to the majority.
If you're traveling with a group and your friend insists on her own plan, follow the consensus and adjust if needed. It won't be easy and you'll probably be mumbling under your breath, but think about it this way: at least now you know how to deal with it better.
- Share responsibilities but have a plan B.
It's always important to have a plan B, even more so when you're with someone who changes her mind as often as she changes her bikini. Having a fallback can save you time, money, and even your sanity and friendship.
- Make a mental note to find other friends to travel with.
If you felt that the first time traveling with a certain friend was an eye-opener, then maybe it's better to choose other people to travel with instead during the next airline seat sale. It's not to blame or offend either party, but the two of you may just have different traveling styles. This way, you'll both avoid friction, and you can hang out during other occasions, like your usual dinner-to-drinks date.
This story originally appeared on Femalenetwork.com.
* Minor edits have been made by the Candymag.com editors.
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Outdoors Danielle Flestado @artdkf | May 1, 2020 "I miss the outside world. The last time I went outside of our house was on my birthday. We just bought coffee across our village and went back home immediately. This painting made me feel that I'm in a field, just appreciating the beauty of God's creation. Can you imagine the green grass and pink flowers?"
When everything around you suddenly turns dark, the first thing we'd prolly do, as humans, is to find and grab anything that is closest and nearest to us. We'll hold onto them for as long as we can, trying to collect ourselves and gather courage to adjust our eyesights to the pitch black environment that's consuming us minute by minute. And then you'd hear nothing. Your sense of hearing would somehow go off after not seeing anything for quite awhile. You'll let loose. Cry. Panic. You'll be exhausted for fighting your way out. Then just when you're about to stop and give up, you're no longer afraid. There's only this deafening silence and pithole of darkness that's gonna eat you up alive. And surprisingly, you'll make a home out of it.
You'll make a home out of the darkness that when a ray of light suddenly hits you, you'll try to avoid it. You'll try to cover your eyes. You'll try to cover your ears from the voices trying to help you get out of it. You'll try to hide because your mind and body will go against your will to come out and live. Because the darkness that used to scare you, now comforts you in a way you thought has helped you survived life. And you'll try to live. Day by day. In the darkness. Not knowing where to go. Not knowing where to start. Not knowing who is with you. You will try to live until the darkness that once surrounds you is now within you. And everyday, it's gonna be a cycle of subtle torture. But let me tell you a secret. The darkness won't make you whole.
You'll be broken. And in those hair-like cracks, the light will stubbornly fight its way through until it warms you up. Until you realize to check the switch and turn it on. Until you allow other people to help you find your way back in the light. Until you realize you're ready to live in light again. There's a light at the end of this long and dreading tunnel. The only question that matters: will you let them in?
I always thought of life, like a bead where each piece makes it worth sewing together with other piece of beads to make a stronger bond and to create a beautiful result. Today, how do we bond well with different people especially this difficult time? As this day challenges us to a new normal, may we continue to bead along positively with our life.