This is Why You Aren't Achieving Your Goals
Let's all be real for a second here. How many times have we wanted to accomplish something, and ended up not accomplishing anything? Whether it be goals to achieve a certain weight, get a certain grade, and much more, we need to realize that we will never achieve big goals without overcoming the little battles that come with it. Like how a marathon will never be won without taking the first, second, and third step, we will never succeed at reaching the finish line if we don't change certain mindsets and practices that we've kept up for so long. So here are some things you've got to fix to set yourself up for success. (via jamesclear.com)
- You expect instant results.
In a world of "instant" and "direct" everything (ramen and messaging, for example) it is so easy to think that people can be "instant" as well—be it in creating relationships, improving a skill set, getting the perfect body, etc. Most successful people took years polishing their craft, and even experienced much hardship, failure, and criticism before they could even taste success. If there's anything we need to re-learn in this digital and fast age, it would be to give ourselves time. Slow and steady wins the race after all.
- You get discouraged—and stay that way.
Getting discouraged over something is a normal thing we experience every day of our lives. Sometimes, we feel discouraged because of someone, or something, or for no reason at all. However, we mustn't allow ourselves to wallow in our sadness because it can become a black hole that sucks the motivation out of us and ruin our chances at success. Things didn't work out the way you expected them to? Didn't get the result you wanted? Have a good cry over it. Rant to your friend about it. But never, ever stay stuck that way.
- You've lost focus on the here and now.
Having a future-oriented mindset is fine. It's totally okay to start planning for what you want to do in the future. But because you do that, you often lose sight of the present. Instead of focusing on the end goal entirely, focus on the little everyday goals that lead up to that big finish. Cut your big goal into tiny, bite-sized pieces. Vying for honors at the end of the semester? Get a good grade in your quizzes tomorrow. It's what you do now that makes all the difference in the future.
- You lose flexibility.
Are you the type of person who has a checklist of things to do every day, and relish at the thought of accomplishing everything? The type to plan out the entire itinerary of their vacation? This may be something you need to work on. Although there's nothing wrong with planning ahead, it becomes problematic when you become too rigid in your ways, and become discouraged when your plans don't go the way you expected them to. The world has a way with messing even the most well-thought out plans over, so never ever think that anything is set in stone. Roll with the punches. Let the challenges of the world shape you, but not defeat you.
TL;DR? The secret to achieving your goals is to focus on the process rather than the end goals. What do we mean by this? You need to focus on creating a winning system or winning routine that'll help you succeed in reaching the finish line. As much as it's great to have the big end goal in mind, it makes it really easy to fall into the toxic mindsets we talked about. Focusing on the process will allow you to take it day by day, to be patient with your progress, and to not sweat the small stumbles along the way. Most of all, focusing on the process lets you recommit yourself. Every. Single. Day. So start with the easy habits and set little everyday goals for yourself. You'll be well on your way to finally achieving those long-overdue resolutions in no time!
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To the Person Who Does Not Know Any 1D Song
By: CJ Reyno
Never in my wildest dream I imagined to meet someone who does not know a single One Direction song or who does not even know, Harry Styles, Louis Tomlinson, Liam Payne, Niall Horan, and err… Zayn Malik. How did you spend your teenagehood without listening to their songs? The disrespect to my #StyPayHorLikSon. My initial reaction, Vas Happenin’?
Since I was 12 years old, that was way back on 2012, One Direction songs have been my official life soundtrip, my go-to songs whenever I feel happy, sad, mad, excited, and etch. I can still remember how people went crazy just to attend their concert here in the Philippines. I must admit, I was one of those. LOL. The group was also dubbed as, “The Biggest Boyband in the World”. They were an era. You really left me in awe when you told me that you do not know a single One Direction song. Their songs are gold. But I was a little hopeful when a new messaged popped up on our conversation, “Hey I know one, Make You Beautiful”.
You do not know how my world collapsed after reading your message. I would like to say that I appreciate the effort, thanks, but they do not have a song entitled, Make You Beautiful, because it is, What Makes You Beautiful. I tried to explain but you said that they are just the same. (Tip: Never fight with a Directioner when it comes to this because we will not let our guards down). No! They are not the same. How can you make this big mistake? LOL. What Makes You Beautiful is One Direction’s debut song. Almost everyone knows this, “you’re insecure, don’t know what for,” ring a bell? The music video of this surpassed 1 billion views on Youtube. On my 21 years of existence, you are the very first person who told me this “I-Thought-It-Was-A-Joke-But-You-Are-Serious” statement.
As a persuasive fangirl, I thought to myself that I should make you appreciate their music, that you should know that it is What Makes You Beautiful, not Make You Beautiful. The group may be in hiatus but their music is and will always remain superior. You are hard-headed lad. We even when to the point where you challenged me to treat so I can make you watch their music video. Am I even surprised that I agreed to this? HAHA. I feel like an agent trying to persuade her customer to buy a property on our company. You do not know how happy I was when you sent me your video listening to What Makes You Beautiful. I felt like I successfully closed a deal with my client. Not to exaggerate but I really jumped because of happiness after watching your video. It was the first message I checked that morning. Thank you for your effort, so much appreciated. Funny how our conversation starts with your innocence on One Direction until it goes deeper and last longer. Up All Nigh conversations which turned to almost Midnight Memories. Ironic how a Directioner had developed an admiration on someone who dislikes her favorite boys? Just like One Direction’s song, Change My Mind, “Never felt like this before. Are we friends or are we more?” I guess, like Liam’s line on Love You Goodbye, “It's inevitable everything that's good comes to an end. It's impossible to know if after this we can still be friends.”
I was happy that I made you listen to One Direction. At least I made you appreciate and made you aware that there is a song called, What Makes You Beautiful, not Make You Beautiful. I am happy that you already found your Girl Almighty. Wish me luck on finding my Summer Love. xoxo, Your Directioner friend
Here's a fan art that I made for Lee Joo Young of Itaewon class! I've been making digital illustration since last year and I'm happy that I was able to see my improvements. I'm also happy to see people's reactions and support for my craft even though all of it are made through my phone (adobe illustrator) only ????. You don't actually have to use expensive or complicated medium as long as you know how to be creative and like what you're doing, then you can do it. ????