Not Everyone's Family Is Picture Perfect—And That's Okay
It was probably during our kindergarten days when were first introduced to the sense of family. We knew we had a family since we were little, but the sense of pride and belongingness started when we were asked to draw our family on a piece of paper. Basically, we all drew them in sticks with the family members holding each other's hands. It went on until our grade school years, the era of TV commercials featuring an assortment of products and portraying picture-perfect families that are happily eating dinner. These things made us believe that a family should be just like that—eating dinner together, spending weekends in the backyard, and basically, everything's peachy and everyone's just happy.
Yet as we grew older, we realized that sometimes parents shout at each other. And some nights dad can't make it to dinner because of work or because he has eaten dinner somewhere else. For some, there's even a day when he only ate breakfast and he never came back since then. There will also be days when mom goes home crying because she lost her job. There will be bad days and it won't always be happy. Because the truth is, parents fight, money becomes a problem and a hindrance to a lot of things, homes get wrecked, and everything can fall apart.
There are no picture-perfect families and this is a reality that we need to accept.
A lot of us have experienced this but it doesn't mean our sense of family is lesser or weaker than those of the others with complete families. Because there are people within the family who bravely take on the responsibility that parents find hard to do.
These people may be vocal about how disappointed they are with our parents, but it doesn't stop them from helping us anyway. Sometimes, no matter how much they want to provide us with everything, there are still certain circumstances that hinder them from doing so. But it's all good. We are receiving more than enough from them, given that this was supposedly our parents' primary obligation and totally not theirs. Being financially supported by a family instead of our own parents is totally not something we should get depressed about. In fact, we should feel appreciative knowing that someone aside from our parents believes in our capabilities and that we are worthy of the money they worked hard for.
This is truly something to be proud of. People are not supposed to pity people in this situation because they are actually lucky. This is not actually a struggle but a blessing.
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Hi! It's been so long since I planned to post my story in another platform aside from wattpad and now here I am, hoping that my story can be featured here.
My story is entitle "Who Are You," it's a tagalog-english teen fiction story so I hope, those filipinos who visit here can read my story!
WHO ARE YOU: PRELUDE
Sinungaling na ba ako kung sasabihin ko sa inyo ang pangalan ko? Hindi ako sure kung anong sasabihin kong pangalan ko pero may nagsasabi sa aking wag nalang magpakilala sa inyo.
May gusto lang naman akong itanong... Paano kung may makilala ka sa kasalukuyan na nagpapaalala sayo sa nakaraan? Anong gagawin mo kung ang nakilala mo sa kasalukuyan ay may tinatago pa lang sikreto na kahit siya mismo ay walang alam pero may kinalaman sa iyong nakaraan? Anong gagawin mo kung ang dalawang ito ay may koneksyon? Anong pipiliin mo? Ang nakilala mo sa nakaraan? O ang nagpakilala bilang ibang tao sa kasalukuyan? Past? Or Present?
There was this guy I dated for a while but things didn't turn out well. I was so into him that one night I can't stop thinking about him, I've decided to send his MOM a message on facebook confessing how much I like her son. I wish it ended there but no. I had to make it so emotional, lengthy and detailed like the drama queen I am. Luckily, it went to message request so I'm hoping she hasn't really read it yet. Up until this day it makes me cringe whenever I think about it but hey, whenever it pops in my mind I make myself laugh too so thank you self for being unbelievably shameless and brave when it comes to love. I may age faster because I have made a lot of cringe-worthy moments that I constantly make faces out of embarrassment just reflecting on my antics but I know I've made more hilarious memories than what ifs and somehow that makes the disappointments feel more like assurances that I have gave it my all and I have lived as honest (maybe a little to honest) as I could. #ItsOnlyNatural #CanBnatural
I've been investing in arts, photography, and writing. I've also got back to reading the other day and I finished reading this amazing book entitled 300 Things I Hope by Iain S. Thomas. It is all about the things the author hopes his readers to do in all aspects of life. So, I decided to make a version of it with all of the things I'm hoping for.
I hope I get to see my friends be successful in life. I hope to make a big mural someday. I hope to be a well-known artist like the artists I look up to. I hope to marry the person I am in love with today. I hope to be a little kinder to myself. I hope to see happiness even in the smallest things. I hope to travel the world. I hope to be a good mother and a wife to my future family. I hope to have my artworks displayed in a gallery or an exhibit. I hope to learn more about creative writing. I hope I won't learn how to get tired and give up my passion. I hope I won't get too hard on myself whenever I don't get the results I've been wanting to see in my works. I hope to love myself more even on the days I hate it the most. I hope to lead and empower women; to be their voice and for them to believe in themselves that they can be the woman they look up to. And when I've reached my limit of these things, I hope I won't get tired of reminding myself that my emotions don't make me weak, hence, makes me stronger. These are some of the things I always hope for. What about you? What are you hoping for?
I started fixing myself this quarantine. I mean, I started trying makeup products. As a teen, I'm on my phone almost every hour of the day, scroll on my social media accounts, especially Instagram, and also Pinterest where you get to see nice and pleasing photography by bunch of amazing and beautiful people from different parts of the world. So I started taking my own as well. I did not know that taking your own photo and try to get an Instagramable one is sooooooooo hard, it's exhausting. I do not have alot of space in my room, and I would definitely not do it outside our house because of Corona Virus, and I don't want to be seen by our neighbors HAHA so I have no choice but to make tiis inside my room.
Out of atleast 25 shots, only 2 are a nice picture. While I'm all sweaty and tired, I am proud of what I could do beyond my comfort zone. And this definitely built my self confidence, (and I secret love the compliments I received from both people I know and don't know) It's not my first time visiting in here, Candy! But I'm new to writing my thoughts and experiences, so bare with me HAHA.
Until next time!