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The Ups and Downs of a Secret Relationship

Keeping your relationship a secret can be a little tricky. Read and find out if it's worth the risk.
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Upside: People won't meddle in your relationship.

The ultimate reward of a secret relationship? Privacy. You can be sure that people won't be able to influence your decisions as a couple. You don't have to constantly update other people about the state of your relationship because there's no external pressure to begin with. 

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Downside: You can't share your feels with other people.

A secret relationship limits you from sharing your feels with anyone whether it's being kilig from that incredibly sweet gesture your guy just did or the emotional pain caused by your first fight as a couple.

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Upside: You develop a closer bond and a deeper connection as a couple.

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They say that sharing a secret brings people closer together. In a secret relationship, you create your own little world filled with clever code names and silly jokes that only the two of you get.

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Downside: You can't do the normal stuff other couples do.

Double dates? Nah, that's off the list. Holding hands in public? Nope, too risky. Posting couple photos online? Not cool either!

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Upside: Dating in secret can be very exciting...

There's a different kind of rush when it comes to your clandestine meetings and foolish attempts to appear casual before your friends. It's both really fun and exciting. 
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Downside: But it can get very tiring.

There's a possibility that you would eventually get tired of all the sneaking around. Just a little reminder: you can't just keep meeting in secret forever.

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These are just a few of the benefits and challenges of having a secret relationship. Even after knowing what you're getting into, it's really still all up to you and the one you're with to decide if it's really worth it. So, would you get into a secret relationship? 

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