Odds & Ends
If you thought that a Korean telenovela was twisted, take a look at these birth order relationships.
Even if you’re spaced apart by mere minutes, one twin will usually emerge as the stronger or more active of the two. Sometimes, the stronger one will be perceived by family and friends as the “eldest.”
Sort of creepy but true. Kids born after the death of a first child find that they are haunted by the death of that firstborn. Mothers become over-protective, and kids find themselves always being compared to an ideal memory.
One Boy, Many Girls
In extreme cases like this, two possibilities may happen: Either the only thorn among the roses will grow up to be an über-macho thorn… or he’ll become a rose himself.
One Girl, Many Boys
Good luck to this single gal. With so many boys in the family, she’ll find herself having lots of protectors. And like the only boy among many sisters, the only girl will either absorb the more masculine traits of her brothers, or she’ll grow up to be overly sheltered and feminine. Bring on those frilly skirts.
Extremely Large Families
For clans with more than five children, you’ll notice that the birth order personalities tend to repeat after the fourth child (i.e. the fifth of the family will exhibit traits of a firstborn). Kind of like old sitcom reruns, right? You’ll find that the younger set of siblings will form closer bonds with each other and establish an eldest-middle-youngest hierarchy within themselves.
Birth Order Busters
Before you start declaring yourself as the Dr. Phil on birth order psychology, here are a few tips to remember:
- Birth order is not an exact science. Each kid in each family is different, and like the Gump said, you never know what you’re gonna get.
- More importantly, your opinion of yourself and your family situation determines your choice of birth order personality. You may be the youngest (eternal baby), but if your two older siblings constantly fight, you may decide early on to take the traits of a middle-born (pacifier)
- Other potentially significant influences include your parents’ attitudes, social and economic position, and even gender roles.