It's not unusual to find ourselves demotivated during trying times. Nothing seems to be within our control anymore and it puts a strain on our overall well-being. As we try to keep ourselves in check, we engage in various coping methods. We might not realize it, but we are already engaging in self-sabotaging behavior, even though it doesn't really feel like it.
Self-sabotage is when a particular behavior disrupts our daily lives and goals. People aren't always easily made aware that certain actions can already be considered self-sabotaging, which is why we need to pay extra attention to our habits.
According to Alice Boyes, Ph.D. in her article on Psychology Today, here are a few ways we self-sabotage unknowingly:
You put off doing things because "you can't."
Sometimes, it's us who restrict ourselves from doing things we want by imposing certain conditions on ourselves. For instance, Boyes' example is: “I can’t take a dance class until I’ve lost weight.”
You stick to routines that don't work for you because it's just easier.
Finding the right routine that works for you is essential, especially now that it feels like everything is out of our control. However, some routines won't work for us, but we don't always immediately take action to replace them with new and effective ones because we're already comfortable with "being in the groove." Even though it might feel like we're starting from scratch, testing out what kind of routine works best for us will ultimately pay off in the long run.
You rely on other people's behavior to determine your own actions and decisions.
Sometimes, you might not notice that you're putting off certain activities or goals because you're depending on another person's actions to influence you. For instance, you promised yourself you'd start working out or take a free online course but none of your friends are doing it so you opted not to.
You engage in too many tasks all at once.
In an effort to be productive, you try to start as many projects as you can. But you end up not being able to finish a single one because there's too much on your plate. Instead, try to finish one task at a time. It's okay if you don't get to finish everything on your check list today, as long as you were able to tick some off.
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