Help—The Person I Like Is Taken, What Do I Do?
Liking someone gives you all kinds of kilig, but nothing quite compares to the heart-shattering moment of finding out that that person is already in a relationship with someone else. As much as it sucks, pining over them won’t do you any good, so here are a few suggestions on how to get over that crush:
Out of sight, out of mind.
The duality of man is best demonstrated by two tireless clichés—it’s either you believe that “absence makes the heart grow fonder” or that when something—or in this case, someone—is “out of sight,” they will consequently be “out of mind,” too. In the case of moving on from infatuation, the wisest move is to believe in the philosophy of the latter.
You may or may not be guilty of taking the exact route your crush takes on the way to your morning class or hanging out at the same spot in the cafeteria so you could steal glances and secretly marvel at the ~visual~ that is your crush. Moving on requires you to forego these routines and totally avoid any traces that may remind you of that person.
Don’t check their social media accounts.
Wanting to know how your crush is doing by covertly checking their social media may seem fairly harmless, but truth is, it’s a black hole that you wouldn’t want to get sucked into. You start out by occasionally scrolling through their feeds just to see what they’ve been up to and end up with a heartache after seeing an admittedly cute photo of them with their significant other (S.O.). Plus, you wouldn’t want to risk accidentally viewing their stories or liking a pic they posted way back in 2015, would you? You don’t need to unfriend them, you can simply hit that snooze or mute button for now. (Good thing social media apps have now made it easier to be discreet!)
The person you liked may be a great person, but hey, so are you.
Your crush may be an incredibly amazing person for you to have liked them that much, but don’t sell yourself short. You’ve got your own unique qualities that other people would surely find admirable. Hype yourself up, too! Just because the person you like is already in a relationship does not mean that your dating life is officially over or that you’re not good enough to be in one. Besides, the more you focus on getting to know and improving yourself, the higher the chances are of jiving with someone who really matches your mental and emotional maturity, more than someone you ended up liking because of your proximity to them.
Keep in mind that your crush isn’t “the one.”
You must have initially thought that the person you liked was The One—you’re on the same wavelength, their interests intersect with yours, and you might have even convinced yourself that their quirks aren’t a concern at all because you will learn to love them for who they are. While it may have sounded like such a flawless plan in your head, the sad truth is that he isn’t the one for you. And as heartbreaking as it is, going after someone already in a relationship isn’t the wisest thing to do.
It may not seem like it, but there are a lot of other amazing human beings around you (that are 100 percent available!). Try not to close yourself off and look forward to the equally admirable people you’ll get to meet in the future. In the meantime, try to make amazing memories with your ever-supportive friends, or if you’re ready, go out of your comfort zone and meet new people online and off. One day, you’ll find your boy with luv, too.
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To the Person Who Does Not Know Any 1D Song
By: CJ Reyno
Never in my wildest dream I imagined to meet someone who does not know a single One Direction song or who does not even know, Harry Styles, Louis Tomlinson, Liam Payne, Niall Horan, and err… Zayn Malik. How did you spend your teenagehood without listening to their songs? The disrespect to my #StyPayHorLikSon. My initial reaction, Vas Happenin’?
Since I was 12 years old, that was way back on 2012, One Direction songs have been my official life soundtrip, my go-to songs whenever I feel happy, sad, mad, excited, and etch. I can still remember how people went crazy just to attend their concert here in the Philippines. I must admit, I was one of those. LOL. The group was also dubbed as, “The Biggest Boyband in the World”. They were an era. You really left me in awe when you told me that you do not know a single One Direction song. Their songs are gold. But I was a little hopeful when a new messaged popped up on our conversation, “Hey I know one, Make You Beautiful”.
You do not know how my world collapsed after reading your message. I would like to say that I appreciate the effort, thanks, but they do not have a song entitled, Make You Beautiful, because it is, What Makes You Beautiful. I tried to explain but you said that they are just the same. (Tip: Never fight with a Directioner when it comes to this because we will not let our guards down). No! They are not the same. How can you make this big mistake? LOL. What Makes You Beautiful is One Direction’s debut song. Almost everyone knows this, “you’re insecure, don’t know what for,” ring a bell? The music video of this surpassed 1 billion views on Youtube. On my 21 years of existence, you are the very first person who told me this “I-Thought-It-Was-A-Joke-But-You-Are-Serious” statement.
As a persuasive fangirl, I thought to myself that I should make you appreciate their music, that you should know that it is What Makes You Beautiful, not Make You Beautiful. The group may be in hiatus but their music is and will always remain superior. You are hard-headed lad. We even when to the point where you challenged me to treat so I can make you watch their music video. Am I even surprised that I agreed to this? HAHA. I feel like an agent trying to persuade her customer to buy a property on our company. You do not know how happy I was when you sent me your video listening to What Makes You Beautiful. I felt like I successfully closed a deal with my client. Not to exaggerate but I really jumped because of happiness after watching your video. It was the first message I checked that morning. Thank you for your effort, so much appreciated. Funny how our conversation starts with your innocence on One Direction until it goes deeper and last longer. Up All Nigh conversations which turned to almost Midnight Memories. Ironic how a Directioner had developed an admiration on someone who dislikes her favorite boys? Just like One Direction’s song, Change My Mind, “Never felt like this before. Are we friends or are we more?” I guess, like Liam’s line on Love You Goodbye, “It's inevitable everything that's good comes to an end. It's impossible to know if after this we can still be friends.”
I was happy that I made you listen to One Direction. At least I made you appreciate and made you aware that there is a song called, What Makes You Beautiful, not Make You Beautiful. I am happy that you already found your Girl Almighty. Wish me luck on finding my Summer Love. xoxo, Your Directioner friend
Here's a fan art that I made for Lee Joo Young of Itaewon class! I've been making digital illustration since last year and I'm happy that I was able to see my improvements. I'm also happy to see people's reactions and support for my craft even though all of it are made through my phone (adobe illustrator) only ????. You don't actually have to use expensive or complicated medium as long as you know how to be creative and like what you're doing, then you can do it. ????