'As A Fresh Grad, My Dreams Were Put On Hold And IDK How To Feel'
The year is 2020 and there’s now a meme for every feeling you can’t describe through words. Like this new one that perfectly captures what our 2020 plans look like. If you haven’t watched Parasite yet, this one might be a total spoiler. We’ll let you figure out what it means.
It’s a pretty recent meme but it’s already spreading in various versions, depending on which corner of the pop culture universe you associate yourself with. The year is 2020, we’re in the midst of pandemic, and our life goals have literally been thrown out the window. Fresh grads didn't get the ceremonies they deserve and they're entering an unstable workforce. Things don't seem to be looking good.
You might feel slightly discouraged.
Just when you were finally getting your life together or mustering up the courage to put yourself out there, you end up spending a good amount of time cooped up in your homes, because it’s unwise to literally go out there. Classes are being reconfigured to operate online. Graduation rites—the culmination of sleepless study nights with matching iyak sessions sa banyo—are not happening, at least not the way tradition dictates. Nothing is normal anymore and it might feel a little demoralizing.
You might feel bad for feeling bad.
It’s completely logical to worry about your derailed plans, but sometimes, you can’t help but think that there are much more urgent and graver concerns to worry about, like real people’s lives being put at stake every day because of the pandemic. Maybe you’re feeling a hint of guilt for how vastly different your problems are from the rest of the world, or at least those around you. But hey, this doesn’t mean your personal concerns about your goals are rendered invalid. These emotions don't immediately go away on their own, so you will have to allow yourself to process them in order to reassess your plans moving forward. We may primarily be facing a fatal disease, but recent events prove that this pandemic is not just a health crisis.
You might feel a little displaced.
No one can say for sure when or if things will go back to “normal,” but this feeling of uncertainty shouldn’t stop you from finding meaning in your life. In an article on Psychology Today, Steven C. Hayes, PhD mentions the five hurdles of staying home due to the pandemic and one of the challenges stated was that of finding meaning. Now that our routines have been shattered and our dreams have been put on hold, what defines us now? The author suggests finding alternative ways to fulfill our passions and redefining what’s truly meaningful for us.
Our goals aren’t just things to check off a list. There’s a motivation behind each of them, and looking for an alternate way to fulfill those motivations from things we can do at home might help. We set career goals because we yearn for a sense of success, but maybe we can still achieve that desire for accomplishment through fundraisers or online charity drives.
It might feel like there’s no more room to dream or chase after goals, but that’s not entirely true. You can still work your way towards your goals or set new ones little by little, day by day.
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Why our high school barkada is the best?
Remembering our high school years entails quite a lot reminiscing of the things we all been through when we were younger. You’ve experience a lot of new things during those 4 wonderful years and did most of them with the few people you consider your barkada. And through a series of all the lunch breaks you had together, the walks you took on the way home, and taking the same classes, you never thought you’d survive, you have made your life’s greatest friends.
Here are some of the reasons why your high school barkada is the best:
1. You figured out early teenage life together. The transition one have undergone from being a kid to a teenager wasn’t easy. For a moment you are not sure whether you should have played with your friends during recess or you should have just sat down and ate your food because you were too old for games. But whatever it is you chose to do, having friends who were as clueless as you make everything feel easier because you know, deep down, you’d figure things out eventually. You just need good company.
2. They were with you during your “jeje“ days. I bet you have pictures taken with Camera360 and Retrica. You also have pictures edited using Pizap with embarrassing captions and you somehow kept some of them so you could have something to post online during their birthdays.
3. They know all your exes. They will never EVER forget the name of an ex-boyfriend, an ex-fling, an ex-crush, and an almost you had. They will remind you of your every questionable love decision but you’ll just laugh anyway while saying “Past is past”.
4. They never judge you. They have welcomed you to their lives when you thought jelly shoes and checkered polos were the bomb! They were quick to have told your teachers that you were not feeling well so you could go home when you really just needed to poop. You tell them every embarrassing story you have and were fine with it.
5. You can always count on them. From the moment you first fell in love and the moment you first had your heart broken, they were with you. They were with you the moment you lost a parent and at moments when you thought you had nothing. Through every break-up and breakthrough, they were there to be your support system.
6. They are your family. Your high school friend’s family is your own family’s extension. Their parents are like your own. Don’t you feel a little kilig whenever your friend’s parents call you “anak”? And then eventually calling them mama and papa became so natural? I felt that, all the time.
7. They will always be your home. They are your place of refuge and security, the place who offers you their hands when you feel lost and the place you run to when you need saving. No matter how much time and distance separate you, they will be the one’s that you always long for and they are the one’s that you will always return to.
You're gonna bend and break and then at some point in your life, you feel like you don't want to fall in love again.
Not because you're no longer capable of loving but because you're so afraid to get hurt again that you don't want to take a risk anymore. And you're gonna wake up one day and realize that you're not the same person as you were yesterday. The heart aches, heartbreaks, frustration, you'll see, those will transform your whole being into something better.
Honey, move forward. Let go off all the things that are not meant for you. Let go of all the people who hurt you and take you for granted. Don't be stuck feeling miserable.
And don't turn that love into hate when you resent someone for hurting you or for breaking your heart. Just wish them well and let them go. Welcome the possibility of a beautiful love that will come your way. You're worthy of love that you keep on giving to other people. Keep that in mind.
I wish you well and all the happiness. You deserve it.
Here we are — with rough hands entwined, damned hearts at peace, broken souls resting with ease —savoring each passing moment before we part ways...hoping things will turn out to be okay. Here we are — standing still, keeping our earnest desire and ardent passion for each other at bay — hoping the Universe will finally grant us of the day that we no longer have to pretend... that things will no longer have to end.
Here we are — with crooked smiles, lingering touch that will last for a while -- gathering all the remaining courage to set each other free. Wishing for the day that our hearts will no longer have to worry. Here we are letting each other go. Even though we both know that the future is uncertain. Even though we're unsure if our paths will cross once again.
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