It Takes Two
January | Take risks together.
With the whole year ahead of you, now’s the time to dream big and aim high. Too scared to take that leap of faith? Take it in tandem–that’s what first-time skydivers do. Tightly strapped onto someone you trust, the free-fall will be a little less scary.
Do the deux : If you haven’t already planned all you want to accomplish this year, sit down with a friend and list your 12-month plan together. Write down all the things that come to mind no matter how outrageous they may sound, like “Master the trombone,” or “learn Greek.” The legendary Don Quixote dared to “dream the impossible dream” knowing he had faithful friend Sancho Panza by his side.
February | Flaunt your friendship.
Gushy, mushy couples are everywhere this month! Before you throw your annual “Love Sucks” anti-Valentine’s bash, remember, you’re part of a perfect pair too! Boys–they come and go, but a best friend is forever.
Do the deux : Show the world you care for each other with little gifts or sweet notes all-month (or all-year) long. On the 14th, paint the town red (in red of course!), and rock the V-day balls with your gal pal. If one of you has a boyfriend, take time out from your respective candlelight pizza dinners to “date” your other significant other. Seek out spa specials for two, or have an old-fashioned sleepover at a swanky hotel and enjoy three-tissue, mushy marathons without shame.
March | Be her biggest fan.
Graduation, awards ceremonies–the end of the school year is abuzz with activities for adoration. Applaud a friend’s accomplishments. When you lift up someone else, you move upwards as well!
Do the deux : Don’t just clap politely. Be the loud “Woohoo!” that echoes in the auditorium. Attend her athletic events wearing special “Go Team __________ (your bud’s name)” shirts, or make a fan club banner you can wave wildly. She’ll blush with embarrassment, but the rewards of your excessive enthusiasm will be worth it. Don’t forget the small accomplishments recognition, either! Give plaques for “Surviving a year of my whining and ranting about boys,” or “Her contribution to the field of funky fashion.”
April | Go!
Be a “Let’s go” buddy for your best friend–someone she can count on to join her in her craziest, spur-of-the-moment plans! Life is full of surprises–and the best way to make sure you’re ready for whatever life brings you? Have your best bud beside you to experience it with!
Do the deux : It’s summer and the ways to fill these days seem to stretch out for miles. Ditch the day planner, and go where your Prestos take you (bring a map along!). Give your “Destination: Anywhere” plans a bit of direction by deciding on a quest–from a search for the most inexpensive cup of (good) coffee to finding where all the cute artist-types hang out on a Wednesday night (bring a camera!).
What're you up to today? Submit your OOTD, fanfic, essay, school project, org event, a pic of your latest hobby, or anything you want to be posted on the Candy Bulletin page!
If you're still single now, there are probably a a lot of questions running in your head. But being on your own for a long time helps you discover more about yourself. It's more than just freedom or independence. It's facing the world with so much courage. It's trying to make the most of your life without having to depend on someone. It's being happy on your own and loving yourself with all that you are.
We've been chasing love only to realize that it's not gonna work out that way. The right time will come that you will be blessed with the one you deserve. The one who also prayed to be with you. The one who will make you believe in love again. Let life surprise you. Hang in there.
The most thrilling and delightful moment of any school day is opening up your baon during breaks. There is always so much excitement in unveiling your homemade meal and snacks housed inside matching heat-insulating containers. Because preparing packed meals is an age-old tradition of showing parental love, loved ones pour effort into curating a nutritious meal accompanied by a selection of side dishes, desserts, and beverages daily; it reminds us that we are being taken care of, even from far away.
Baon plays a significant role in a Filipino childhood. Almost every Filipino child comes to school with baon made especially for them by their parents or household helpers. Even Filipinos in the labor force continue to bring baon for varying reasons: to save money, recycle leftovers, cater to personal taste, or attend to special needs. Nonetheless, eating your baon is a heart-warming experience that allows Filipinos to bring a piece of home along with them wherever they go.
Even other cultures practice making packed lunch. In Japan, mothers create bento--Japanese meals in partitioned boxes. Because of the popularity of bento, trends have emerged, such as the Kyaraben, or character-themed bento. Naturally, Japanese parents and students began competing for who had the cutest and tastiest bento, and this is similar to what I have witnessed in my own childhood. I remember seeing my classmates sharing their snacks and lunches. They would compare and boast about their parents' or yayas’ cooking. In my case, I never had the chance to join in the competition or indulge in homemade cooking. Up until this day, I have never brought any baon to school.
For a long time, I envied others. As trivial or petty as it may seem, not having baon became a problem for my grade school self. During that time, I had to sit in a separate cafeteria away from my friends because the kids who bought food were assigned to sit elsewhere. You could consider me spoiled, but I wanted to experience something most kids did. I had food at home, so what made it so hard to bring some with me to school?
Now that I am on my final year in high school I have come to realize the benefits of purchasing my own food. Since I spent on food everyday, I learned to budget my allowance at a young age. Over the years, I learned to practice self-control whenever I wanted to eat more greasy fries and drink sweetened beverages. I have tasted the strangest viands at the school cafeterias, and I have repeatedly satiated myself over my latest delicious discoveries. Despite the struggles, I am thankful that I have never had baon because of what I have learned. Not to mention, I never had to experience eating cold food.
Literally to begin with, I am writing with little shaky hands because this is the last time I went for a vacation like most of us must have and can’t plan any for now. The coronavirus outbreak has compelled us to stay at home for our safety and others in the vicinity.
I remember how I penned down my year 2020 to be the most remarkable year of my life in the hope of doing everything I desired for a long time and overcoming few obstacles. Whilst planning things ahead, I forgot to truly value all of things in the present.
I remember being chipper and grateful for my last summer vacation but now I feel I should’ve valued each and every moment. Considering the current gnarly situation, I want each one us to motivate ourselves to look for a positive side and to make the most of our time no matter the situation.
Make a promise to yourself that you won’t give up in these circumstances and reckon that there are a lot of good things for us in the store. We’ll have the most amazing season of our life post pandemic. Let’s accept for the change and become the change. Propagate love and only love.
Danielle Flestado @artdkf.ph | June 19, 2020
"While I was reading my devotional book yesterday, this part hit me: rejoicing together is more difficult to do than grieving with each other. And so, I thought of reminding myself that I should be happy for the success of others. After all, we are part of one family and every one of us is striving to accomplish our own goals in this world. Let us be happy for each other."