Yung Totoo: Introverts Can Struggle With Social Distancing, Too
Two weeks into quarantine, and you’d think we’d all be used to the tambay-sa-bahay life, especially for the introverts. Given the strict physical distancing measures enforced to keep the COVID-19 from spreading even further, everyone is advised to stay put at home, especially if you can afford to do so. On-ground classes are suspended anyway, so there’s really nowhere else students need to be.
For introverts, staying in is practically our forte. Our homes are our comfort zones, it’s where we ~thrive~. Staying home is something our more extroverted friends might struggle with (hugs, we love you, extroverts), but not us. Or at least that’s what we thought.
At some point, some of the introverts might start to feel tired of staying home. Which sounds WEIRD. Tired of staying home? Introverts?? Totoo ba??? But TBH, it’s also quite possible for some introverts to start feeling uneasy about isolation, especially since we are in the middle of a pandemic and we don’t know how long it’ll take before things get better (or worse).
So yes, it’s okay to admit that you’re starting to have a hard time doing the one thing you thought you were good at. Too much of something isn’t good, and that applies to too much alone time for introverts, too. Still, this doesn’t mean you get a free pass to leave your homes and head out in the middle of a quarantine. But there are other ways that might help lessen our unexpected feelings about solitude.
Strike up a conversation with your family.
You might think, “Sawa na ako sa pamilya ko, sila na lang ang palagi kong kasama dito sa bahay.” But hey, didn’t we think the same way about the friends and classmates we ~used~ to see five days a week? The people we’re with at home are the closest we have to actual human interaction, so let’s try not to take it for granted. Talk to them about
Connect with friends online.
If you live alone and have no one to talk to physically, you’re friends are just one call, Messenger, or text away. Send a message about how you’re feeling to a friend you trust and encourage them to do the same. We’re practicing physical distancing, but we’re still free to stay connected.
Find a hobby you enjoy or try doing something new.
Now’s the perfect time to work on the things we said we’d do but didn’t have the time to. *cough* De-clutter your closet. *cough* Try doing the things that make you feel happy to keep your mind stimulated. Or maybe pick up a hobby or activity that’s completely new to you, like journaling, sketching, or making TikTok videos (Hey, you might find it fun, who knows?).
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these sheets that exactly remind me of how I gushed in between my pillow and space you filled in the longing of my burned sorrow put smile to my sober face just like how a three year old receive her lollipop
i searched you everywhere and here you are laying down beside me in my imagination the walls that our screens built a boundary and an obvious message that says i can never have you because you wear clerical shirt and obviously you loved someone else before me
oh god, do I really want this forbidden love? that only exist in my imagination? that only exist through my words? would you, meine liebling, notice me and my art one second? because I am dying to say I love you.
A Simple Learner Who's a Great Pretender
Maybe I'm just a learner, not a weirdo. A learner that knows how to listen and pretend. A simple learner who's a great pretender. Pretending to be slightly dumb enough not to be judged and criticized by those who do not appreciate my existence. We surround ourselves with people who's levels are either beyond or below our intellectual behavior, because as for reality, people may use you either for their success or your downfall. Since then, people tend to judge someone who has an intellect with things they shouldn't be. Making them a criticizer, and most of all, calling them weird.
Honestly, I'm one of this "weirdo" who actually loves to learn things, and for the record, I'm bullied and stressed out for making myself not to learn more and go with the flow to dumbness I had. Have you ever feel being assigned to some task where you know every process to make it easier and faster to finish but turns out to hesitate to voice out because some of your mates put themselves in charge. There are times where I know what to do, what to say, or how to react, but kept myself silent and pretend not to know anything that may help us. Maybe it's a good thing to just go with their ideas and learn from their perspectives, but sometimes you can't control it and says something, and once again called to be a weirdo and let you finish the work by yourself.
It's annoying that you only know one process yet they gave you the whole work and let you finish it by yourself because they insist that "MAGALING KA DIBA?". It's not your fault being an intellectual person, knowing such things that may help you to pursue your dreams, and have the basic knowledge about something. You don't need to know everything, just the basics. And as for those people who do not appreciate your existence, let them be and continue what's the best for you. In some cases, you'll be annoyed by this but most of the time you'll be thankful for it. Not for now but maybe later. Just be yourself either a weirdo, a great pretender, or a simple learner, and always remember to lower your voice and behavior because no one loves that.
Just be a great pretender not to hear any runts and be a good learner that appreciates everything. It's out of nowhere thoughts of mine, but simply I leave you this my favorite life quotation; "Don't introduce yourself, Let your success introduce you"
Dear me in six years, I wonder how life will treat you when you’re already 26 years old. Will you be financially stable? Will you be working in an advertising agency while pursuing everything about the arts? Will you be doing freelancing and living in a condo by then? I don’t know since things are very uncertain. I hope by the time you graduate from college and face the real meaning of the world, you’ll know what the real purpose of doing and living in the art will be.
I know it’s been so tough ever since you turned 20 but that’s how life works, I guess. There will be a lot of hopes and trials, breakdowns, and breakthroughs but I have high hopes of you becoming the better version of yourself. You always do, though. You were never a quitter. Making decisions is getting harder and harder as you grow but I hope it doesn’t make you stop doing what you really love to do. You will face different people with different perspectives. You will feel like a stranger once again, it’s like you were back in your freshmen year. It’s going to be tougher than you’ve expected but you can do it. I believe you can.
Most of the time, people's perception of us as a strong person makes us feel that we are not entitled to be vulnerable because they might be disappointed for seeing our weak spots. And so when we are hurting, we are often scared of extreme emotions and so bury our feelings. We deny them, trying to avoid the pain we feel.
But by doing that, we are just allowing it to come back to us and haunt us. And when it comes back, it might be stronger and it will be harder for us to get over it than when we faced them first. I realized it just now that facing those emotions will scare them until they're gone. The saying 'Let it hurt until it hurts no more' goes true. Admitting your pain to yourself doesn't make you weak. It only proves that you are strong enough to acknowledge such extreme emotions without avoiding them. We are humans and it's okay if we hurt sometimes.