How To Tell The Barkada You Got Back Together With THAT Ex Face-to-Face
So, you and your ex reconnected and you plan to get back together with them. Hey, it happens, and if it’s something you’ve meticulously mulled over and thought long and hard about, then you’re not marupok because of it. Getting back together with an ex is uncharted territory for many and would naturally feel daunting, but it doesn’t seem quite as scary as finding out how your barkada would react to the news. Nonetheless, they’ll know about it eventually, so you might as well get it done with ASAP. Here are some things to note before spilling your relationship tea to friends.
Before telling your friends, ask yourself if this is a decision you won’t regret.
If your barkada absolutely hates your ex, there must be a sound reason behind it. For starters, take into consideration why you two broke up: Were they abusive in the relationship? Was it because they were never supportive of you? If there’s a possibility that your ex hasn’t really learned from their mistakes, maybe you should reconsider your decision altogether. If your breakup was just a case of wrong timing, then perhaps a second chance to make things work wouldn’t hurt.
It’s best to break the news during a face-to-face convo.
The digital era allows us the privilege of communicating with one another from literally anywhere in the world. That said, this is the kind of news that’s best said in person instead of through text or DM, especially if you’re anticipating negative reactions from friends. Face-to-face conversations give you fewer chances for misinterpretation, and as much as possible, you’d want the people closest to you to understand your choice.
Be realistic with your reason so your friends won’t have a hard time accepting it.
You might be telling the truth when you confess to your friends that, “Wala e, mahal ko pa siya,” but there’s a high chance that they might not see this as enough of a reason to take your ex back. And while it’s true that you’re not obligated to explain yourself, your friends—who have lent a shoulder to cry on every time your ex broke your heart—at least deserve to be reassured that you’re not just setting yourself up to get hurt again.
Do you feel that you and your ex have both grown as individuals after spending some time apart and are now ready to give each other a second chance? In that case, maybe telling your friends this might help them get a better grasp of your situation instead.
Expect negative reactions from your friends and be ready to take the brunt.
Your circle of friends might not initially see this as something to celebrate, so prepare your heart for their sad or angry reax. Regardless of how your friends respond to your relationship update, however, the final verdict is yours to make, so calmly and rationally get that point across as much as possible to avoid unnecessary tampuhan among you and your barkada. You might be rekindling an old relationship, but you also wouldn’t want to cut ties with other people in the process.
Your friends will always have a say in the matter, but this is ultimately your decision and your responsibility.
Your barkada—being the brutally vocal but loving bunch that they are—will surely have strong opinions about your relationship because they ultimately just want what’s best for you. That doesn’t mean, however, that what they say is what you should do. You’re the one involved in the relationship, so getting back with your ex is ultimately your decision. Just keep in mind that every choice comes with a sense of accountability, and getting the occasional third-party relationship advice from people who care about you wouldn’t hurt.
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To the Person Who Does Not Know Any 1D Song
By: CJ Reyno
Never in my wildest dream I imagined to meet someone who does not know a single One Direction song or who does not even know, Harry Styles, Louis Tomlinson, Liam Payne, Niall Horan, and err… Zayn Malik. How did you spend your teenagehood without listening to their songs? The disrespect to my #StyPayHorLikSon. My initial reaction, Vas Happenin’?
Since I was 12 years old, that was way back on 2012, One Direction songs have been my official life soundtrip, my go-to songs whenever I feel happy, sad, mad, excited, and etch. I can still remember how people went crazy just to attend their concert here in the Philippines. I must admit, I was one of those. LOL. The group was also dubbed as, “The Biggest Boyband in the World”. They were an era. You really left me in awe when you told me that you do not know a single One Direction song. Their songs are gold. But I was a little hopeful when a new messaged popped up on our conversation, “Hey I know one, Make You Beautiful”.
You do not know how my world collapsed after reading your message. I would like to say that I appreciate the effort, thanks, but they do not have a song entitled, Make You Beautiful, because it is, What Makes You Beautiful. I tried to explain but you said that they are just the same. (Tip: Never fight with a Directioner when it comes to this because we will not let our guards down). No! They are not the same. How can you make this big mistake? LOL. What Makes You Beautiful is One Direction’s debut song. Almost everyone knows this, “you’re insecure, don’t know what for,” ring a bell? The music video of this surpassed 1 billion views on Youtube. On my 21 years of existence, you are the very first person who told me this “I-Thought-It-Was-A-Joke-But-You-Are-Serious” statement.
As a persuasive fangirl, I thought to myself that I should make you appreciate their music, that you should know that it is What Makes You Beautiful, not Make You Beautiful. The group may be in hiatus but their music is and will always remain superior. You are hard-headed lad. We even when to the point where you challenged me to treat so I can make you watch their music video. Am I even surprised that I agreed to this? HAHA. I feel like an agent trying to persuade her customer to buy a property on our company. You do not know how happy I was when you sent me your video listening to What Makes You Beautiful. I felt like I successfully closed a deal with my client. Not to exaggerate but I really jumped because of happiness after watching your video. It was the first message I checked that morning. Thank you for your effort, so much appreciated. Funny how our conversation starts with your innocence on One Direction until it goes deeper and last longer. Up All Nigh conversations which turned to almost Midnight Memories. Ironic how a Directioner had developed an admiration on someone who dislikes her favorite boys? Just like One Direction’s song, Change My Mind, “Never felt like this before. Are we friends or are we more?” I guess, like Liam’s line on Love You Goodbye, “It's inevitable everything that's good comes to an end. It's impossible to know if after this we can still be friends.”
I was happy that I made you listen to One Direction. At least I made you appreciate and made you aware that there is a song called, What Makes You Beautiful, not Make You Beautiful. I am happy that you already found your Girl Almighty. Wish me luck on finding my Summer Love. xoxo, Your Directioner friend