In movies, you can spot them a mile away—a herd of girls in the hippest clothes, toting the latest "in" thing. As this undeniably cool group passes by, its ringleader gives you a withering look. A hush comes over the school and you hear the distant screeching of vultures. You have been given the social look of death. May God have mercy on you.
Thankfully, we don't live in the movies. But in real life, there isn't a cool OST to give you that extra boost when you stand up in the middle of the caf, walk over to the table of mean girls, and pour your Friday baon of monggo over their heads. In real life, mean girls aren't as easy to spot, much less confront. That's why we've culled crucial tips and insights on how to deal with these menacing mavens, so the next time you're given the kontrabida treatment, you can summon your inner bida and make kontra back!
ANATOMY OF A BULLY BABE
Bullying is constant and occurs in small, frequent incidents. Bullies use their power over others to do two things: intimidate the weaker person and make themselves feel important. Guys often use physical power—shoving, pushing, or simply picking on those who are physically weaker than them. Girls, on the other hand, use social power. According to Candy resident advisor Malyn Cristobal, mean girls make other girls feel intimidated by pointing out what they don't have, be it the right shoes, hairstyle, or movie stars to crush on.
If a male bully's weapons are his fists and physical strength, a mean girl's are gossip, criticism, sarcasm, and other indirect methods of expressing their disapproval and cruelty. That's why it's harder to identify when a girl is being mean to you.