Why Some People Still Stay Close With High School Friends After Graduation
They always say that high school friends are forever. Having best friends in high school is sooo much fun, we agree. You have someone to talk about your crushes in school with, you share your baon with each other, you do projects together, they have your back when someone is mean to you, and all the other fun stuff you do with your friends in school. They’re always there for you through thick and thin—and sometimes they save your ass from trouble. All of us had best friends in high school, but not everyone stayed friends with us after graduation. So here are some tips from our Candy Rookies on how to keep your friendship with them even after high school.
Go out with them at least once a month.
College life can be hectic. But making time for your high school friends at least once a month can do the trick. For Jeanelle Angeles, 20, “Me and my high school friends bond regularly by going out once a month or quarterly. I really make time for my high school friends by planning catch-up sessions with them over wine nights, girls' nights out, and by trying different restaurants together. Sometimes if we're both too busy, I make time for them by setting up a time wherein we could just catch up over the phone.”
Now that we're still under quarantine, though, going out with friends is highly discouraged. Instead, try doing digital hangouts for now through Skype calls with the barkada.
Remind your friends that you’ll support them whatever happens.
Sometimes we tend to forget our high school friends when we get caught up with college stuff. A simple text message to remind them that you’re still their friend despite the busy schedule will make it up for all the lakads that you missed. According to rookie Johanna Pupos, 20, “we say good morning and goodnight to each other just for us to know and remind each other that we’re still here to support one another despite the situation.” Johanna said it was easy for them to see each other from time to time despite each other’s locations. If they won’t be able to meet, they would “make sure they would call, message, and video chat each other.” And sometimes do a “Netflix party” with her friends where they will all watch the same movie or series on Netflix.
Check on your friends.
Message or call them to catch up with what’s happening in their lives and check on them constantly. You have a group chat for a reason. You might not see each other more often than before, but at least ask them if they’re okay. It feels good to know that there’s a friend who cares about you even though you barely see each other anymore. There are several platforms or apps that you can use to communicate with your friends. As per Margaux Nonato, “even if we don’t get to see each other often as compared to our high school days, I make sure to check up on them despite having different priorities. I think it’s just a matter of giving time & catching up with what’s going on in our lives.” They also stay *close* by having “Zoom sessions and Netflix party” once or twice every two weeks.
Celebrate special occasions with them.
Another reason to meet your friends is because of their birthdays (or your birthday). Make sure to have an extra ~free~ day to celebrate those special occasions with them. You don’t have to buy them gifts every time. Sometimes, your presence is enough. Like Candy Rookie Sofia Jahrling. She sees her high school friends “during weekends or whenever someone would celebrate their birthday” which is a good thing.
And lastly, don’t forget to visit them sometimes.
If your high school friend missed a lot of your barkada’s lakad or can’t go because they’re super busy, don’t get mad, instead, make time to visit them occasionally. College life is not as laid back as high school, so expect more incomplete group photos every time you go out.
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I was actually hesitant to post these pictures of mine. My sister eveb asked me to change my Facebook Profile Picture and it took me hours to decide if I should. But, I realized that this is me, the real me. I should be confident of my body and of who I really am.
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They say time heals all wounds, but it has been ages - is heartbreak exempted?
I have forgotten when was the last time we shared a smile - the last time when I saw the glow in your eyes and the last time when you whispered an I love you to me. I have forgotten when, but here I am - writing to you again.
I do not know if you will read this or you will just add this one to my proses and poems that you left unread, but you see, I am still hoping. I am mailing the pain of us to the gods out there - hoping they can take the pain away. I should have gotten over you, but instead of forgetting and accepting our ending, I am writing about us in tissue sheets, carving about us on trees, telling about us on the back of my journals, hoping that a thousand or a million write ups about us, can make me forget about what happened.
I am writing, waiting for the point where I can no longer write anymore, for I have none to tell - but when? I have nothing in me anymore, but the memories of us - and no matter how hard I try put those to its own grave, the memories grow back like lilies in the swamp - painful and beautiful at the same time.
No matter how hard I try to silence those and put it at the back of my mind, those ring back, playing like the favorite song we used to listen. They say heartbreaks turn into poetry and that is what happening to us - but poetry should be dulcet and dreamy, why does ours sound like pain and agony? They say time heals all wounds, but it has been ages - is heartbreak exempted? Darling, I guess not.
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This is a drawing and a poem I’ve made for a summer love. Our time together was short-lived but the feelings were not.
On a platform we stand
Faces seen all in a blur
Relentless searching led by a spur
To find someone, to feel something
Aren’t we fools to waste away time?
To look for one man’s treasure
Somewhere as ephemeral, as fragile
As a bond built in crime
But aren’t we just like every weary heart?
Hoping for an oasis
In the midst of the desert
Wanting to quench our thirst
Aren’t we all like frosted windows
Of old and battered houses on winter?
Wishing for the sun to give us warmth
To melt the facade so we can show what the inside is made
Aren’t we maven pretenders?
A Casanova? A Temptress? Who made us this way?
A sly fox? A ruthless hunter?
Let down the walls, It’ll be okay
Rushed for a hug, now no hesitating
Engulfed by a sense of bliss or was it longing? Eyes wide-open,
Stepping on a quicksand I embraced the fall into the deep end
Gazed at you lying there unaware With you, found something rare I swear
Realization dawning as loud as a thunder
As the Beating of your heart put me into a deep slumber
Waking up from this reverie
Truth slapped me back to reality
Two worlds so different, now I see If only I could I’d be anything and anyone you need me to be I’m the ludicrous clown, you see
Thought if I ruin it first I’d be free
From the doubts brought by my own insecurity I was so wrong,
What a tragicomedy Brought by the month of April
We rushed the ticking of clock to May Hands interlocked
Weaved skin to skin on a rainy day But when June came to say hello, all went dark grey
What was once there ceases to exist Like the wilting of a flower
Once so beautiful, so full of life Now turned into dust by death’s kiss
Unbounded joy brought by your presence
Paralleled with the perennial ache of your absence Yearned for and offered seventh heaven
Now the heart weeps for evanescence
A mirage, to be the fair maiden The sorrow to find out I’d end up our own villain
But all’s well for you are but a distant dream Gamaliel, You are, I knew it from the very beginning .