How to Deal with Social Dilemmas

Feeling left out? Read up on some familiar social dilemmas and find a unique way to make each one work.
by Jillian Gatcheco   |  Jan 22, 2012
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DILEMMA: I'm the only good girl in the group!

Your gal pals smoke, skip classes, get drunk, and do drugs. They have blatant disregard for school rules and they can’t even follow something as simple as not bringing cell phones to class. You love them to pieces, but you're just not into any of that stuff.

To make things worse, you're a student council member and you're forced to turn in your irresponsible chums during a surprise inspection. What do you do?

WORK IT!

Stand your ground and show 'em what you're made of. In the same way that you let them make their own choices, they should also be able to respect your decision to stay "good" and not be swayed by their bad influence. So when there’s a surprise inspection and you catch them with "incriminating evidence," say sorry and proceed with your job. If they're true friends, they'll get angry—then forgive you afterwards.

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DILEMMA: They're all well off, and I'm not.

While they can afford going out every weekend and wearing the most fabulous clothes, you're stuck with skipping gimmicks and rushing to mall-wide sales. You feel second-rate every time you’re with them.

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WORK IT!

It's all in the attitude, girl! Here’s secret: there's a way of not looking kawawa—by not acting like one! So what if they can afford the latest gadgets and designer clothes? You only feel inferior because you let yourself feel that way. Focus on what you have and stop thinking that the glass is half-empty!

(It's a different case, however, if they're rubbing it in that you're "poor." If that's what's happening, leave the group and find true friends who won't judge you by your bucks.)


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