How To Be The Leading Lady In Your Life
If life were turned into a movie, how will you play out your role? Will you play your part well or will you settle for average performance? Candy teaches you to step up and shine in your own story. Lights, camera, action!
You're not the prettiest, most talented girl.
A supporting character would: stare at the mirror and complain about her flaws. Insecurity alert!
A leading lady would: stare at the mirror and feel happy with what she sees. Though she recognizes her imperfections and weaknesses, she is comfortable in her own skin and takes pride in her unique qualities. She does not sulk when she encounters someone prettier or more talented that she is because she believes she can do whatever she sets her mind to. Most people are at ease with her because she can genuinely be happy for them. She walks confidently because she knows she has so much to offer, and because she has friends who embrace her for who she is.
There's a falling out between you and your friend.
A supporting character would: clam up and pretend nothing's wrong until things worsen.
A leading lady would: Confront the issue head-on. When a friendship feud occurs, she knows that the more she stays silent, the more things aggravate. She does not allow ill feelings to brew by talking behind her friend's, or anyone's, back. She keeps her emotions in check and remains level-headed by seeking advice from the friends she turns the most. She's willing to listen and let her friend explain her side. More importantly, she's humble enough to say she's sorry and to offer forgiveness.
The teacher asks a question in class.
A supporting character would: not raise her hand even if she knows the answer.
A leading lady would: immediately grab the chance to speak her mind. She has studied intently the previous evening and she comes to class armed with knowledge. She lets her mentors recognize her efforts to learn more. Sometimes, she may be unsure if her answer is correct buy she's not afraid to make a mistake in front of her classmates. She would also not pass up any learning opportunity as reciting frequently trains her to think well on the spot.
A major project is to be done by groups.
A supporting character would: wait for an appointed group leader to assign her some tasks.
A leading lady would: Assert herself and volunteer to be in charge of the project. It's not because she wants to hog all the attention or to receive credit for the group's work. It's because she knows she has a lot to contribute and she's confident to take on more responsibilities. She gets along effortlessly with others and she knows the value of teamwork. And when pressure builds up, a true leading lady doesn't get thrown off her course easily.
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I always thought of life, like a bead where each piece makes it worth sewing together with other piece of beads to make a stronger bond and to create a beautiful result. Today, how do we bond well with different people especially this difficult time? As this day challenges us to a new normal, may we continue to bead along positively with our life.
The journey of how I won people’s hearts by having a winning heart
Whatever happens tonight, I am a winner. That was the last line I delivered in front of the roaring crowd. My knees were trembling and my smile was shaking. I wanted to radiate confidence but I knew inside me were whirling storms of uncertainty. I wasn’t sure how to carry on for the rest of the night, it was only the first hour and my soul was already exhausted. I stood in front of an unfamiliar sea of people, I felt uncomfortable as they fixed their glances on me. The stage was bright and flashy as my co-contestants glazed the platform with outstanding physique and beauty. I couldn’t look straight at them because every time I did, a bucketful of insecurity was being poured on me. The whole pageant took about a few hours but it felt like eternity to me. I repeatedly asked myself questions every single time I stood on that platform. My vision was impaired by the blinding spotlights and all I could hear were the deafening roar of the audience combined with the booming music of the event. My head was filled with questions like “why are you here?”, “Will you be okay?” What will others think of you?” “What if you fail?”. Every step was heavier as I continued to overthink.
For a moment on stage, I felt like I was floating. I was staring blankly at the end of the gymnasium. I was awakened by the loud cheer from the front row, I fixed my glance and saw large letters A-B-Y. it was like a snap to reality, I realized that’s my name. This time I could hear the synchronized cheers of people screaming my name. I smiled, walked away from the spotlight as I whispered to myself “let’s do this”. As the curtains opened, I walked towards the stage I felt lighter and different from the person a while ago. Walking was much easier and my knees weren’t trembling any longer. I stood at the edge of the stage, wandered my glance, and smiled genuinely. Flashing those pearly whites took barrels of longtime stored courage from within me. I marveled at how I could see the rainbow in the lights, the spotlights weren’t blinding anymore.
My feet started stomping to the music every time I pose and my hips would flawlessly sway to the music. The roar of the audience was overwhelming no more, it was like whispers lost in the beat of the music. I knew as I stood there, all I needed to do was smile and be myself. My name was called accompanied by the thunderous applause and booming cheers of the crowd. I stood there alongside with other contestants. I was holding a bouquet and a trophy. I could feel the heavy crown on top of my head. However, the trophy beside me was much bigger, the lady beside me wore an even flashier crown, it was the crown of the titleholder. That night I landed the first runner-up spot. My head was filled with “what ifs”. What if I did just a little better, what if I exerted more effort and so on.
As I stepped down on stage, several people rushed to me. They were jumping, screaming and clapping. It was so chaotic that it took me a millennium to recognize them, it was my family. They were hugging me from all directions. When I saw their smiles I knew I did great. I realized that was what I meant when I said “whatever happens tonight I am a winner”. Their presence, genuine smiles, and warm hugs meant more than the trophy and sash that night. For them, I was a star who shined through the darkness of the night. Before leaving the venue, a hand tapped me from behind “Congrats,” she whispered I turned to see her, and to my surprise she was a schoolmate who used to tease me because of my chubby physique.
I smiled as I expressed my gratitude towards her. As I walked away, I realized that I accomplished something legendary that night. I was able to showcase that pageants are not only for thin-looking, tall people. I managed to snatch everyone’s attention with this average height and chubby body. That night started with so much uncertainty and insecurity. As I stared at my reflection, I looked exhausted but I was wearing a different smile. A smile of victory and bravery. A smile that defeated the stereotypes and stigma about people like me. That night ended with a realization that maybe winning isn’t always about winning the crown, it’s about winning people’s hearts and having a winning heart.