In life, there are good days and there are bad days. And then there are extremely bad days. And while it's not the most desirable phase to be in, having extremely bad days are helpful in such a way that you get to appreciate the good days more. After all, life won't always be a ray of sunshine because life is not life itself without pain and sorrow. You know what they say, "You can't have a rainbow without a little rain." So for those days you just want to rip your heart out, here are some things you can do to assure yourself that everything's going to be okay.
- Accept that you're not okay yet.
We won't tell you that it's going to be okay because we know you know it, too. But we're going to tell you that it's okay if it'everything's not okay yet. Recognize your pain and acknowledge that you're hurt, scared, and broken, and know that it's perfectly fine to feel that way. Don't hide it, bottle it up, or pretend that you're feeling alright because that will only make everything worse. Those are emotions you can't escape; it will shatter you to pieces, and make you cry until you fall asleep. Whoever (or whatever) made you feel like this, it will make you stronger. There will be more sufferings and blessings; this is just a chapter in your life that you're going to look back on someday.
- By searching for the silver lining.
Every cloud has a silver lining so search for it and don't lose hope until you find it. You don't just wake up, and immediately feel okay. It takes time; it's a process and a very long one perhaps. Remember, every bad day has something good in it. Believe us when we say that the bad days will end, and you'll have another good day. Maybe not now, but soon.
- Make art out of it.
Sing, draw, take pictures, or paint about your sadness when words won't come out of you, when no one can hear your screams, or when it's not just enough. Art is an effective way to let your feelings out if it becomes overwhelming. You don't have to be good at it; art is there to help you express how you feel.
- Distract yourself.
We know it hurts. You just want to curl up in bed and cry all day, it's okay to do that. But don't let it consume you. Bake some cookies, go out with your friends, or help your sister with her homework. Do something that will make you forget about your problem, even if it's just temporary.
- By knowing you're not alone.
Talk to a supportive friend, relative, or counselor. You might think you're alone in this battle, but you really aren't. If you don't have someone to talk to, talk to Him and tell him the things you can't tell anyone, the things that are hurting you the most.
There's a ton of people around the world that's in pain right now, just like you. You don't have to think that they have it worse because that won't solve anything. Rather, focus on the people who got over it. Ask yourself how they surpassed the obstacle. You can do it tomorrow, the next day, or the day after next. But right now, dwell on your pain because that's real. And that's okay.