Friday, I'm In Love: How Not To Get Your Heart Broken
Ask questions, but don't pry. Don't be the investigative journalist who needs to know every single thing about every single minute of every single hour, day, week. Ask about his day—about the best parts and worst. Trust that the answers that matter will be the only ones you need to know. And sometimes, you won’t even need to ask.
Always be on time. Stop making excuses for the whys, stop saying sorry for the what-might-have-beens, stop compensating for the what-ifs. Be present, be here, be in the "now." Because often times, it all boils down to just being there when you're needed and when you need someone.
Listen and stay silent. There's a comfortable stillness that becomes just as powerful as words when two people understand each other. When just a nod or a smile conveys so much more than sound. There is a time to be vocal and a time to be quiet.
Learn to be angry. No two people can ever be exactly alike and that’s the beauty of it. Have your own opinion, argue, fight, make up. Because when you learn the language of disagreement, you find that making up is the best part of any argument.
Take things personally, but don't hold grudges. Why are you in a relationship if you don't even care? But be the kind of person who forgives, who understands, and who gives second chances. Because love is about wanting to make things work. And working at it till you get things right.
Don't be afraid to try again. The easy way to not get hurt would be to stop. To stop diving in head first, to stop carefully calculating your plan of entry, to stop from ever letting yourself fall in love. But the truth is, you won’t ever know how it is to love until you get your heart broken. And when you do, you'll know that it’s all worth it in the end.
This month, we're writing about love—all the ways, forms, and kinds there are. Every Friday, check back for a new article in this section we're calling, Friday, I'm In Love.