If you get a peso for every time someone assumes you hate people just because you enjoy being single, you’d probably be a millionaire by now with enough money to emancipate you from leeching off of your friends’ Netflix and Spotify accounts. It’s hard to keep in mind that basking in the single life won’t mean you’re banned from ever picturing yourself in a happily committed relationship, but it’s actually not an either-or situation.
You wanting a relationship doesn’t mean you’re not happy alone.
ICYDK: Romantic relationships aren’t the only kinds of bonds that matter in the world. You find great satisfaction in fostering your non-romantic relationships as well as a hyper-important relationship to have: the one with yourself. And while you’re not against the thought of dating—in fact, you might actually be sliiightly looking forward to it—you’re not complaining at the fact that you get your dose of kilig from your favorite K-dramas for now.
You’re happy to be single instead of staying in an unhappy relationship.
TBH, it’s better for you to get out of a relationship that you’re not satisfied with. One study shows that people who are single seem to be more happy than people in bad or neutral relationships. You might be better off on your own than to suffer in a relationship that’s overall problematic and unhealthy. Still, the satisfaction of being single doesn’t stop you from hoping to find a romantic bond with someone, you just wish it was the kind that’s fulfilling for both of you.
Being single actually has benefits for when you finally enter relationships.
Turns out, being confident in living the single life has a perk for when you find yourself on the verge of ending a relationship in the future. Having enjoyed being single suggests you’re not afraid to exit a relationship—especially ones that are unacceptably toxic. According to Psychologytoday.com, you’ll cope better with heartbreak if you’re someone who’s “unafraid of being single.” You develop emotional resilience and won’t cling to problematic partners for fear of being alone. Someday, you know you’ll meet someone again and build a relationship worth keeping.