When Your Self-Esteem Is on an All-Time Low
Being a teen is harder in the age of social media. There are photos of people everywhere flaunting their OOTDs, grades in school, extra-curricular activities, travels, and whatever it is that they're busy with. With everything that's popping on your Feeds, it's hard not to feel the pressure of keeping up with these people. It's also hard to not feel like you're enough, that you're supposed to do something post-worthy in your life. We know and we understand the pressures you're going through, Candy Girls.
Believe it or not, our dear girls, you are not alone in this battle. You are not alone in figuring out who you are and who you're meant to be. These Candy Girls have written all about it in our Candy Feels section, so in case you need a reminder today that you're doing fine being who you are, here are their experiences on how they overcame that feeling of not being enough.
"Once in my life, I wished I were someone else. Someone who has a perfect heart, mind, and body. Someone with a pleasing personality that’s accompanied by a brilliant mind. Someone who's bold, great, free, and incredible—unlike me. Then on a cold 3AM morning, I woke myself up and told myself that I need to love myself.
"Simplicity. Simplicity is not about wearing simple clothes. It's not about not putting on makeup. It's not about letting go of my desire to fix myself the way I want to every day. Simplicity. It is simply being true to myself. It's about showing the world who I am and letting them know that I'm simple this way. I don't have to add or subtract something from myself just to have someone who will appreciate my simplicity."
"Simplicity. It is simply being true to myself. It's about showing the world who I am and letting them know that I'm simple this way. I don't have to add or subtract something from myself just to have someone who will appreciate my simplicity."
The Blind Pretender: To the Girl Who Never Found Herself Beautiful
"To you who never got chosen by someone you love, who always makes the first move so that your crush can notice you, to you who always wonders why your friends effortlessly get their wants and demands while you strive hard to get yours. This is for the girl who did her best to look presentable and pretty but can't pass the standards of others.
"You're not just beautiful. You are majestic, resplendent, and sophisticated. Someone out there loves you dearly, please don't forget that. Please don't change yourself to be someone that society expects you to be. Don't expect someone to give you happiness because you're the one who needs to create it. You are you and you don't need their words to describe you."
Audrey: You Have to Dare to Be Different
"It may be a good thing to be one with the crowd, but it is the best feeling when we are one with ourselves."
"It takes courage to finally accept that what we like may not be what everybody adores. It may be difficult to feel different, but the end result will always make us realize that the only life we have to have control over is ours, that living for ourselves is more important than living for the sake of everyone's standards.
"Trends will always be a part of our society. But that does not mean we have to always go with the flow. The flow may be a hindrance to expressing our personalities, and a barrier to letting our hidden talents show. We won't hurt anyone if we change a little something in our lives, since it's not theirs. So dare to be different. Besides, I don't think anyone would go blind over a neon-neon combination."
Tell us your stories, too, Candy Girls. We'd want to hear what you have to say about life, college, politics, and feminism! You can send us you submissions via Candy Feels.