From Our Readers: To the Only Single Girl in Her Barkada
Yes, I know how it feels—the awkwardness of being the only single around your friends. The imaginary painful stab in your gut the moment they do what girlfriends and boyfriends do. Seriously, do you have to act that way in front of me?
You're with your friends hanging around some place just to bond, but their boyfriends make it odd. Often times, they unconsciously forget that you are there, yet they keep on exchanging sweet words or keep walking hand-in-hand giving you less space, eventually forgetting you're there. You're there by yourself at the table while they sit next to their special someone. Instead of girl talk with your friends, their boyfriends make everything uncomfortable. Your friends are now drifting off to their own worlds leaving you behind. That you have no choice but to reluctantly eat and digest your food alone, wishing you should have probably stayed home. It sometimes feels like you're completely invisible.
Then you'll end up thinking it's okay because you're happy for your friends who luckily found someone. And you'll think that at least, she's not as unfortunate as you. In the end, you're going to torture yourself with unnecessary sad thoughts which can only make your situation worse; realizing that these people around you unintentionally make you even sadder.
You might get jealous, but that does not mean you have to dwell on it. Dismiss the pressure if ever all of your friends have someone who can finally hug them, send them sweet messages at night, and clasp their hands every single time. So what if your pillow is the only thing you can embrace, and only your mother sends you sweet texts? It does not make you the ugliestperson, neither does it make you the most unfortunate girl ever born. It just so happens that they simultaneously found their lovers, and you haven't found yours yet. It doesn't imply you won't ever have one. Just because all of your friends aren't single, that doesn't automatically mean you need to find your own. Never ever force yourself to be involved in a relationship out of peer pressure.
He will come. Perhaps not now when your friends are happily committed, but you have to believe that that person you are looking for will definitely come. Good things take time, keep that in mind. He's probably stuck with his friends who all have girlfriends just like you. Who knows? He may appear at the time when you least expect him.
Don't compare your situation with what you see in your surroundings. Let your friends be happy for now even if they can't promise to come with you in a party because they have a date later. Let them indulge the moment rather than thinking of only yourself. Friends always understand each other. And when the time comes you have to go on a date, too, they'll be more than happy for you. Just you wait.
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Queenie Joy Resmundo blogs at shupershimmer.wordpress.com.
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19 year old pharmacy student-businesswoman from Pampanga. I, Kimberly Chaile D. Ocampo, started planning my own business back when I was 18 years old. Despite being a student, that did not stop me to work and start up something for me to earn my own money. I was also influenced by my parents who are both hands on when it comes to the marketing world. I have decided to start my own mini restaurant/fast food restaurant recently (Feb 2020) and it was named as “Hungry Hubb”. From the word itself which is “Hungry” we thought of something that would give people the biggest hint that we sell food.
Because of the sudden quarantine, every store was forced to close for our own safety that is why there was a sudden decrease on our sales. But Hungry Hubb managed to survive by focusing on online selling and social media promotion. Our best seller would be Shawarma salad which is mediterranean style. We add authentic Garlic sauce to our shawarma (Which is available in Wrap, Salad, & Rice). Every product that we sell are very affordable and delicious. Our starting price is only 50php. (Shawarma Wrap). For Shawarma Salad (70php). We also have Milktea (60php) and Rice meals such as Lechon Kawali, Chicken barbecue, and Pork Barbecue for only 120 pesos.
And of course, I wouldn’t make it up this far without the help of my family and friends who have supported be from the very start. This is an open letter and inspirational especially to students that want to earn their own money. Nothing is impossible. You just have to be determined enough to turn your plans into reality.
Hello everyone! I would like to introduce my little passion project I started exactly a month ago — VITAP0PS is my small indie art shop giving you a clean, minimal and vintage ~vibe~ stuff. It will really mean a lot to me if we can connect through my art. Bonus if you're into Hiligaynon slangs. I'll see you there! site: msha.ke/shovitap0ps instagram/pinterest: shopvitap0ps artist: vitap0ps
Hello, I'm Isabel and I'm a foodie from the South. I love trying out new dishes and pastries in the Metro while I ask myself if it's worth the hype. During this pandemic, I've decided to keep my foodie dreams alive by supporting my friends and small food businesses.
Aside from ordering from them, I've also created my own food blog via Instagram to express my thoughts and positive reviews about them to somehow help spread the word of their food and how other people should try it. At the end of the day, we are all helping one another through this difficult time by having multiple coping mechanisms - others to cook or bake while I write a review about what I eat.
Check out my food blog on Instagram @perdiviews and feel free to send me a message so I can collaborate with you soon!
It's not making sense. Maybe, it is. Everything is so blurry and vague. You can't seem to fathom what's happening. You're lost and searching- searching for the meaning behind what ifs and what could have beens. But life, we give meaning to life as if it's a beautiful paradise. Indeed it is.
But why we feel so gloomy, so empty? It seems like no light is passing through our soul. We're wounded. Hoping for healing. That's because, we're living. We celebrate life but we also fight for it. You feel all the pain, because you're living. You're not just alive, you're living. You can make it through all the storm and darkness. Wishing you well, Marj.