From Our Readers: To the Guy I Loved the Most
I hope we last. I hope we do.
But if we don't, this is how I want you to remember me:
I want you to remember me curled up, listening to the sound of your heartbeat. Remember me laughing at your jokes, even the stupid ones. Remember me brave, that time you held my hand and I thought I was going to die while crossing the street. Remember me, scared of losing you. Remember me, almost crying while you're tickling my waist and I was begging you to stop. Remember me happy, and all the ridiculous ways I tried to get your attention, to make you smile, to make you laugh. Remember all the firsts and how they were so sweet that I can remember every little detail. Remember the songs I used to play in your car and the songs I used to sing to you. Remember our plans in the near future; how I get so happy when you’re saying that I am the girl you want to marry.
If it comes to it, I don't want you to remember the ending.
Remember the beginning. Remember the first time you knew.
We started off as strangers, strangers turned into classmates, classmates turned into friends, friends turned into close friends, close friends turned into unofficial lovers, and unofficial lovers turned into boyfriend and girlfriend. We started out exchanging smiles, texts, calls, conversations that led to all day talks and late night calls. We were so in love, so afraid of losing each other and we were so sure of each other back then.
I miss you so much. I'm not used to this kind of set-up, not seeing you for weeks. I miss holding your hand. I miss your hugs, those long and tight hugs. I feel so safe when I'm in your arms. I miss your kisses, those stolen kisses that I never expected. I miss riding your back that even though I'm quite heavy, you can still manage to carry me. I miss listening to MYMP songs in your car, or your so-called "My Wife's Playlist." I miss tickling you, because your reactions are too cute when I'm tickling your waist. I miss taking pictures with your phone. I miss those moments that felt like there's no tomorrow. I miss shouting your name in the corridors when you're about to leave. I miss doing silly acts to make you laugh. I miss singing love songs to you. Yeah, I miss everything about you, about us.
It's ironic that the only person that can effortlessly make you smile is also the person behind your tears. I wanted to take you back. But I realized that no matter what I do to take you back, it will be useless, if you have no intention to take me back, too. I was planning to stay. I really wanted to stay but you didn't ask me to. I chose to hold on to you, to us that's why I didn't give up so easily. I don't care about your past—whatever you did, whoever you were with. When I started loving you, I already accepted all of you, including your imperfections. The most important thing is that my love is greater than your failures.
I told you before that I will never leave you; that I will not fall for somebody else; that I will not lie to you; that I will not break your heart no matter what happens; that I will never give up on you, on us. We even prayed for it. That whatever problem that will come, no one will give up. I will love you and stand by you even through the worst of times. Don't say that you're not the right guy for me. I chose you, which means that for me, you're the right guy. I didn't lose hope that we will still have our second chance. After all that has happened, I'm still willing to accept you. But if you really want this to end, that you don't want to fix this anymore, I'm willing to let you go. I will accept whatever your decision. I love you that much to let you go. I think that's what love means. Love meanst that you care for another person's happiness more than your own—no matter how painful the choices you face might be. And, if that's the case, we're never going to make it. We can no longer fulfill our promises of marrying each other someday. I can no longer be your wife. I cared so much, you didn't see it, and yet, it's not enough. I am a nice person so I'm willing to give you what you want and this is it. This is what you want. I guess this is our goodbye.
Thank you for everything. Thank you for the love and care you showed to me. Take care of yourself always and always try to put a smile in your face even though in times of trouble. Keep in mind that you will be my forever and always. I will always love you even though fate has separated us.
I hope she will love you more than I did. I hope that she will love you unconditionally even if she has a million of reasons not to. I hope that she will try to understand you, always. Lastly, I just hope that you'll find happiness. True happiness by coming back to her and choosing her.
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LIFE ADVICE YOU NEED TO HEAR WHILE YOURE STILL YOUNG
This blog is dedicated to all teens out there struggling in determining what they really want in their life or if you simply want a glow up. And since were still facing a pandemic, I think this is also a season where everyone is re-thinking about their lives. So, I hope these advices might help you.
Tip #1. TAKE RISK - since most of you are still young, I advice you to take your biggest risk. Whether it may be taking the course you want, a skill you want to acquire or just simply taking the risk to throw away your emotional baggage from your childhood. While you're still young, you have very little to lose. You dont have that much commitments and responsibilities. Because the older you get, the more responsibilities and obligations came. So when they are still not piling up, take the risk! As for me, the biggest risk I took when I was still a teenager is to CUT OFF TOXIC FAMILY TIES.
I may sound rude here but, yeah. I decided to throw away my emotional baggage from my traumatic childhood and cut off some of my family ties and it is completely okay! You dont have to be bothered by whatever they will say. Because at your age, you are already investing on your growth as a person. If you really want to grow, THERE IS NO PERFECT TIME FOR YOU TO TAKE RISK BUT NOW. Because in taking risk you are actually giving yourself a reward of getting something amazing or beyond what you expect you can have. As they say, the bigger the risk, the bigger the reward. Keep in mind that the bigger the risk, the bigger possibility of FAILURE. But that is completely OKAY. Because just like what I said earlier, you are still young. You dont have so much to lose so, dont be afraid to take the risk and then fail. But after failing, learn from it and the more courage you have to take risk the greater the learning, reward or happiness. Ito na nga, how to take risk nga ba? And what are the risk that would actually help me to grow? #
2: VOICE LESSON - dont get me wrong, hindi ito vocalization para sa pagkanta. What I mean is, learn to listen to that VOICE INSIDE YOU. Listen to your heart, to your intuition and to your visions because it will be your GUIDE. Because I realize that as you go along your journey of your life and if you really want to be YOURSELF and be successful in achieving your goals, the only GUIDE that you should follow is your OWN VOICE.
It is okay to take and consider other people's advices but at the end of the day,you should never forget to listen to your own voice. Because that voice is what tells you what you truly want. How would you know that if it is your 'own' voice? Your own voice always comes from your HEART. The voice where YOU and GOD'S voice are one. Because I firmly believe that God knows your heart and that is where he reside. I like journaling because whenever I journal my thought every night and every morning, I feel a dual voice inside my head. Like, it contradicts what the other voice is telling. For example: If we have dreams or goals that puts us so much weight and pressure to the point that it makes you exhausted, STOP. Because it might be a dream or goal of someone else. I believe that your own dreams and goals may be frustrating most of the time, but that frustration has fueling feeling that will always tell you that 'This is the hard way to better so keep going'. Frustration in your own dreams will not make you feel exhausted because achieving a dream itself is a fulfilling feeling.
#3. TAKE ACTION - if you really want something to happen, take action. Dont just sit there and wait things to come your way. Make action or decisions that will take you to where you want to go in your life. Just like what I said in one of my novels that I am writing in wattpad, "There is no such thing as destiny or fate. Because YOU make your OWN life choices." For example, I cannot expect to be a published author if I dont write any novels right? The bottomline here is, if you are not moving forward you are actually moving backward. And it is a sad thing. Life is full of situations where you will be put in the line whether you take courage or just stay where you are. Because GROWING needs consistency in moving forward. So if you dont have to enough courage to take action, your life will always stay the same or worse you will continuously shrink down.
#4. EXPAND YOUR HORIZONS - this means stretching your comfort zone. I watched an anime entitled "Black Clover" there is a captain there where he always tell his subordinates to surpass their limits right, here right now. Going out of our comfort zones are surely scary and uncomfortable. But you have to accept the fact that you cannot stay on the coast forever. You have to change, because the only thing that is constant in this world is change right? Go out of your comfort zones because LIMITS are just in the MIND. There are disabled people who are successful in their own careers. Because the lesson here is, if you hold back there will be no growth. Because GROWTH blooms in DISCOMFORT.
Last, #5. INVEST IN YOURSELF - especially now that you are still young, you should focus on investing on yourself more. Time is your bestfriend at this point of your life. You have so much time to discover things about yourself. I never regret buying and reading books that I never knew will help me later on in dealing life's challenges. You can use that time to read books, gain wisdom, or pick a new skill, improve your talent and learn from your experiences. Keep learning outside your home or your school. Because the real battlefield is OUTSIDE. What you learn in school will only help you in your career but your wisdom and experiences will help you in life or as a person. People who doesnt embrace growth will never succeed in their life. (This is a reflection blog from my 21st birthday last week. I hope you can feature this on your page and I hope it can help others as well. )
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Hello candy-peeps! I just wanted to share what i've been doing this long quarantine period. My father is from Pangasinan and so I grew up going there every year (usually during special occasions like Christmas, New Year, All Saints Day, etc). I've always loved their specialties yet I only get to taste it once or twice.
My father runs a GRAB business in which we have several drivers for it. Yet during this pandemic, our business experienced a big loss and our drivers feared that they won't get to earn enough for their families who are also suffering during these troubling times.
By starting this frozen food business, we were able to earn and also give our drivers a source of income. They accompany my father in going to Pangasinan every week to be able to restock and they also re-sell our products. Its a win-win situation for both of us. I do hope that we'd overcome the problems that our country as a whole and every struggling individual is facing soon and that we'd come out of this better than we were before. #SupportLocal #PilipinasMuna
Hi everyone! I just want to share my first collaboration with my father. I converted two of my digital arts, Oneness and We Got Each Other's Back, into a vase and a bookend. I designed it and he made it into a reality. The Oneness Metal Vase is perfect for dried flowers and or artificial flowers. The We Got Each Other's Back Bookend is made from solid metal in which the cubes can be arranged to the user's liking. Both metal sculptures work as an accent piece that can liven up one's space. In case you guys are interested, you can reach me through Facebook/Instagram: @artdkf.ph
Imagine you are holding a photograph. There, there you are. A 5-year-old you is being carried by her momma and papa while holding your rag dolls. That innocent, charming little girl is looking at you and said, "Where are you now?"
Life is filled with several U-turns and unexpected twists of events and during these times in which silver spoons are nowhere to be found: Our families ensure we still get and experience the best as we survive this pandemic. Here's my song, I wrote back 2 years ago entitled: "Won't Let You Cry" and take time to honor and appreciate our parents as they are the biggest front liners in our lives throughout the years.
If you're still single now, there are probably a a lot of questions running in your head. But being on your own for a long time helps you discover more about yourself. It's more than just freedom or independence. It's facing the world with so much courage. It's trying to make the most of your life without having to depend on someone. It's being happy on your own and loving yourself with all that you are.
We've been chasing love only to realize that it's not gonna work out that way. The right time will come that you will be blessed with the one you deserve. The one who also prayed to be with you. The one who will make you believe in love again. Let life surprise you. Hang in there.