From Our Readers: An Open Letter to Her
There are a few things I think you should know as you are now the object of his affection. No one likes being replaced but I've accepted the sad truth that I'm not his favorite person anymore. You are lucky to be with him as he is not hard to love and I can tell that there are girls around him that like him as much as we do. Yes, we.
We may not know each other but I think you already don't like me. And he may not talk about me to you; I think he didn't talk to his friends about it when it ended, so I don't know if they will know either. I hope you won't get intimidated or would see me as a threat if ever you see some of our old pictures together. Although I think he deleted most of them by now.
We may have had a bitter ending but that doesn't give me the right to hate you or your growing relationship. In fact, I'm pleased that you found each other. That maybe this time, things will work out for him. All I've ever wanted was for him to be happy.
There are things about him that you would never fully understand. It doesn't matter if you don't agree with him sometimes. If you can't understand his obsession over feeling rough textures using his feet. If he keeps on talking about the games he play. Or even ranting about his issues in life. It's really just about listening to his stories even when it feels like he is talking in a strange language most of the time. You know, he doesn't want you to love everything that he loves. As long as you're there for him, everything will be fine.
You know, he doesn't want you to love everything that he loves.
We both know that he is far from perfect. He has his flaws. But let him know that you accept everything about him—his insecurities, faults, and all. He is not the easiest person to love but he is worthy to be because when he loves, he loves deeply. If you're going to ask me if will he drive you crazy? Yes. Is he worth all the insanity? Absolutely.
Things between us may have not worked out because of uncertainties. And I want to let you know here's what you deserve—his time and attention. His patience. His affection. His honesty. And his loyalty. You don't deserve a relationship maintained through text messages.
And can I ask one thing of you? Don't hurt him the way he hurt me. I believe in karma but I never wish that pain upon him. You are dating the man of our dreams and I mean it when I say I hope it all works out for you.
You are dating the man of our dreams and I mean it when I say I hope it all works out for you.
This guy gave me happiness and pain, yet I still will be forever grateful that our paths have crossed at some point. I already forgave him even if he's not sorry. And for now, I have to let go. I honestly want him to be happy even if it means that I can't be part of his life anymore. Please love him with all your heart. Always believe him even when it hurts. Give him the love that he deserves—the kind of love that I failed to deliver. Once I know you hurt him, I just might take him back. I might take the love of my life back.
Sent in by Aya Monzon. Submit your feels, too!