Friday, I'm In Love: Here's To All My Boy (Space) Friends
I've never been one of the boys. At least not the burping, swearing, NBA-talking, football playing kind. I’ve been called dainty a couple of times. Sensitive on more than one occasion. Gentle a bit too often.
But here's to the boys who’ve showed me that although I will never be one of the boys, I can learn to understand them, and be understood in return. That the love that exists between a guy and girl doesn't always have to be romantic.
Here's to my first—and probably only—guy friend growing up, my older brother. Together we constructed pillow forts and built orphanages for our stuffed animals, and at night I'd lie in the bottom bunk and listen to him making the kind of battle sounds you'd hear in a video game ("Pshew! Pshew! Pshew!"), winning imaginary wars from his perch above.
Here’s to the boys in the huge, crazy, chaotic co-ed barkada I somehow stumbled into in high school, the ones who taught me that even if someone annoys you to no end (all the mean nicknames and bra-snapping and stupid dares), he can still have your back when it counts. Here's to the boys I drank my first beer with, got into trouble in school with, shared secrets with, endured my first love and heartbreak with, and ultimately came of age with.
Here's to the guy friends I met in college, the ones I still consider my best friends: C, one of the kindest, strongest, most loyal people I know, whom I've looked up to since the day we met; and E, who has taught me that acceptance, humor, and a good sense of style always go a long way. I'm a completely different person now, more sure of myself and secure in my skin, but it's comforting to know that someone was there when I wasn't.
They say it's never too late to make new friends. So here's to the guy friends I met later on in life, when I'd already had my sh*t together. When you're no longer spending every waking moment trying to define who you are as a person, friendships tend to be easier. Lighter. Which doesn't mean they matter any less. Here's to the guy friends I'll probably grow old with, the ones I’ll experience adulting milestones like weddings, career changes, and babies with. Here's to the guy friends who just get it.
And here's to one special guy friend, my favorite of them all: the boy (space) friend who's fortunately also my boy (no space) friend. Sooner or later you figure out what you want in a friend: someone who listens to you, believes in you, supports you, is honest with you, trusts you, makes you laugh, and makes you feel brave.
And if you find that person and he happens to be in love with you? Then that's one of the best bonuses life can throw your way.
These days, the only battle sounds are the occasional gut-wrenching (though necessary) fights, and the annoyances have evolved from mean nicknames to...actually, there are still mean nicknames. High school and college and coming of age are all far behind me, tucked away in a safe place, and so are my first love and heartbreak. But there is still a lot of learning. Still a lot of beer drinking (but responsibly, and only on weekends!), still a lot of laughter. In a relationship, the lines between friendship and romance tend to blur, and sometimes you just have to let them. Allow them to run over each other so that you can be each other's constant companion and biggest fan and number one crush and source of inspiration and best friend, all rolled into one. It might mean you'd have to endure the smell of farts and dirty socks—but I promise you it's worth it.
I've never been one of the boys. But here's to the one boy who's made me realize that I don't have to be in order to be loved. All I need to be is myself.
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To the Person Who Does Not Know Any 1D Song
By: CJ Reyno
Never in my wildest dream I imagined to meet someone who does not know a single One Direction song or who does not even know, Harry Styles, Louis Tomlinson, Liam Payne, Niall Horan, and err… Zayn Malik. How did you spend your teenagehood without listening to their songs? The disrespect to my #StyPayHorLikSon. My initial reaction, Vas Happenin’?
Since I was 12 years old, that was way back on 2012, One Direction songs have been my official life soundtrip, my go-to songs whenever I feel happy, sad, mad, excited, and etch. I can still remember how people went crazy just to attend their concert here in the Philippines. I must admit, I was one of those. LOL. The group was also dubbed as, “The Biggest Boyband in the World”. They were an era. You really left me in awe when you told me that you do not know a single One Direction song. Their songs are gold. But I was a little hopeful when a new messaged popped up on our conversation, “Hey I know one, Make You Beautiful”.
You do not know how my world collapsed after reading your message. I would like to say that I appreciate the effort, thanks, but they do not have a song entitled, Make You Beautiful, because it is, What Makes You Beautiful. I tried to explain but you said that they are just the same. (Tip: Never fight with a Directioner when it comes to this because we will not let our guards down). No! They are not the same. How can you make this big mistake? LOL. What Makes You Beautiful is One Direction’s debut song. Almost everyone knows this, “you’re insecure, don’t know what for,” ring a bell? The music video of this surpassed 1 billion views on Youtube. On my 21 years of existence, you are the very first person who told me this “I-Thought-It-Was-A-Joke-But-You-Are-Serious” statement.
As a persuasive fangirl, I thought to myself that I should make you appreciate their music, that you should know that it is What Makes You Beautiful, not Make You Beautiful. The group may be in hiatus but their music is and will always remain superior. You are hard-headed lad. We even when to the point where you challenged me to treat so I can make you watch their music video. Am I even surprised that I agreed to this? HAHA. I feel like an agent trying to persuade her customer to buy a property on our company. You do not know how happy I was when you sent me your video listening to What Makes You Beautiful. I felt like I successfully closed a deal with my client. Not to exaggerate but I really jumped because of happiness after watching your video. It was the first message I checked that morning. Thank you for your effort, so much appreciated. Funny how our conversation starts with your innocence on One Direction until it goes deeper and last longer. Up All Nigh conversations which turned to almost Midnight Memories. Ironic how a Directioner had developed an admiration on someone who dislikes her favorite boys? Just like One Direction’s song, Change My Mind, “Never felt like this before. Are we friends or are we more?” I guess, like Liam’s line on Love You Goodbye, “It's inevitable everything that's good comes to an end. It's impossible to know if after this we can still be friends.”
I was happy that I made you listen to One Direction. At least I made you appreciate and made you aware that there is a song called, What Makes You Beautiful, not Make You Beautiful. I am happy that you already found your Girl Almighty. Wish me luck on finding my Summer Love. xoxo, Your Directioner friend
Here's a fan art that I made for Lee Joo Young of Itaewon class! I've been making digital illustration since last year and I'm happy that I was able to see my improvements. I'm also happy to see people's reactions and support for my craft even though all of it are made through my phone (adobe illustrator) only ????. You don't actually have to use expensive or complicated medium as long as you know how to be creative and like what you're doing, then you can do it. ????