Why College Is The Best Time To Make Mistakes
Not everyone gets to say that college was the best four or five years of their lives. Some people’s college experiences can get complicated and you’re bound to screw up majorly at certain points—and that’s totally okay. The tea is, college is when we really should be making mistakes, because it is also the best place for us to learn from them.
College is like our pregame before we enter the real world.
College is when we get a subtle taste of what it’s like in the “real world,” but without the restraints of #adulting holding us back from making poor decisions. (We still have profs telling us where to go and what to do at this point!) Use your college years to just go for things you want to experience, even if it may seem like you’re setting yourself up for failure. After all, the earlier we make mistakes, the sooner we learn how to bounce back from them, and the likelihood of committing the same blunders in the future would be much less.
We’ve got four to five years to do what we want.
It might seem like we’re plagued with a lot of responsibilities in college, but what we often overlook is that we’ve got a lot of room and time to experiment and take risks. We’re not bound by nine-to-five working hours; those four to five years of undergraduate studies are ours to control. Do you want to use the first two years of college bumping your grades up so that you can focus on extra-curricular work during the last two or three years? Maybe you’d rather work on your mutli-tasking skills and juggle academics and extra-curriculars simultaneously. The key is to create a timetable you can work with while remaining flexible enough to accommodate any sudden changes in your plans.
But what if you’re not good with sticking to a timetable? Then throw it out the window and go with your own flow. Your college years are yours to utilize however you want, after all!
Messing up in college costs a lot less than making mistakes in the real world.
While it might feel like the end of the world when we fail a subject or miss a deadline, you’ll realize that, in hindsight, these mistakes can be a learning experience. Maybe you can re-evaluate how you juggle your tasks, or simply experiment with a better personal system. Either way, it’ll definitely prepare you for when you finally take on that first job!
So make as many mistakes in college while you still can, just don’t take for granted the life lessons embedded in every slip-up.
We’ve got mentors and peers who can guide us and support us when we mess up.
When we fail a subject, our professors, guidance counselors, and deans would be more than willing to offer us advice on what we can do moving forward. When we find ourselves caught in a romantic dilemma, our blockmates, friends, and even orgmates would be more than game for some #RealTalk, and maybe even throw in a shoulder to cry on.
In college, we’re surrounded by people from different walks of life. We get to (or are forced to!) meet and interact with personalities we wouldn’t normally meet anywhere else. The college social scene makes it less taxing to make mistakes because you’re with people who are going through similar experiences and making their own mistakes, just like you.
What’s the point of college if you’re already winning in life?
While we’re programmed to aim for excellence in college, we can’t be expected to deliver topnotch performance every single time. We didn’t enter college to be the cookie-cutter college student of every parent’s dreams. College is where we go to let loose and surrender ourselves to be shaped by our experiences—and that includes experiencing failures, messing up, and eventually learning to pick ourselves up.
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I've been investing in arts, photography, and writing. I've also got back to reading the other day and I finished reading this amazing book entitled 300 Things I Hope by Iain S. Thomas. It is all about the things the author hopes his readers to do in all aspects of life. So, I decided to make a version of it with all of the things I'm hoping for.
I hope I get to see my friends be successful in life. I hope to make a big mural someday. I hope to be a well-known artist like the artists I look up to. I hope to marry the person I am in love with today. I hope to be a little kinder to myself. I hope to see happiness even in the smallest things. I hope to travel the world. I hope to be a good mother and a wife to my future family. I hope to have my artworks displayed in a gallery or an exhibit. I hope to learn more about creative writing. I hope I won't learn how to get tired and give up my passion. I hope I won't get too hard on myself whenever I don't get the results I've been wanting to see in my works. I hope to love myself more even on the days I hate it the most. I hope to lead and empower women; to be their voice and for them to believe in themselves that they can be the woman they look up to. And when I've reached my limit of these things, I hope I won't get tired of reminding myself that my emotions don't make me weak, hence, makes me stronger. These are some of the things I always hope for. What about you? What are you hoping for?
I started fixing myself this quarantine. I mean, I started trying makeup products. As a teen, I'm on my phone almost every hour of the day, scroll on my social media accounts, especially Instagram, and also Pinterest where you get to see nice and pleasing photography by bunch of amazing and beautiful people from different parts of the world. So I started taking my own as well. I did not know that taking your own photo and try to get an Instagramable one is sooooooooo hard, it's exhausting. I do not have alot of space in my room, and I would definitely not do it outside our house because of Corona Virus, and I don't want to be seen by our neighbors HAHA so I have no choice but to make tiis inside my room.
Out of atleast 25 shots, only 2 are a nice picture. While I'm all sweaty and tired, I am proud of what I could do beyond my comfort zone. And this definitely built my self confidence, (and I secret love the compliments I received from both people I know and don't know) It's not my first time visiting in here, Candy! But I'm new to writing my thoughts and experiences, so bare with me HAHA.
Until next time!
First. Pixie dust and paper cuts – these are the first things Wendy knew about Peter Pan. Aurora first met Prince Philip when she was sixteen. Learning how to ride a bike was also a first while I was growing up, but you are probably the first of too many. The first collection of dust and stars; maybe Luna will try to ask, who was your first? I might answer and tell her that it was you.
The first of too many stars in the sky. You are the first of too many fallen leaves during fall – and you will be the most anticipated snowflake as winter comes. A dark path that you can’t see without any light, hence, you were once the moon and there are the stars that shine so bright at night. Are we too early? Or we just really want to be ahead of time? Even in a glimpse, I would like to see the two of us connect as if we can reach the sky. There are other parts of the heavens you have never saw and other oceans you haven’t laid your feet onto – but the constellations will always wait for you. Close your eyes, love, close your eyes. Start counting backward: 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. Count backward until you see the twinkling lights that will guide you to the right path. To the right satellite; to the right person. A first.
There are many firsts – first love, first heartbreak, first sport you played, the first thing you do in the morning, the first thing you remember about the person in front of you. There are a lot. It’s actually up to us how we will consider something as a first. So, Primo, you are already a first of too many.