Sometimes, It’s Actually Okay To Break Down Instead Of Pretending To Be Strong
You know what people say—Kailangan ng lakas ng loob at tapang para makaraos sa college. It's something we hear over and over again. We're told you can’t survive college unless you’re strong and resilient in the face of challenges, because the universe knows challenges are aplenty in the collegiate scene—and it may be true to an extent. Pretend you’re okay long enough and you’ll start to believe it, right? Welp, it seems we got that part about college wrong, at least according to science!
Plenty of studies show that pretending to feel emotions opposite of the negative ones we actually feel can have serious implications on how we deal with major things in life.
Suppressing your emotions isn’t exactly healthy.
When we’ve got an exam coming up and we’re running out of time to study for it, we tend to delay our ~feelings~ and keep ourselves from having a mental breakdown, because tbh, crying our feels out is just a hassle and will only take away from our precious study time.
While hiding what we truly feel has some benefits, there’s also a downside to it. Hiding your true feelings can have implications on your everyday life, like how it can affect your memory and your health in the long run, for instance. We can only pretend we’re strong for so long, so letting it all out from time to time is still essential.
Pretending to feel something that isn’t authentic won’t make it easier for you to handle your true emotions.
What isn’t in your consciousness can’t do you any harm, and that’s exactly what many of us often do to the negative emotions we feel—we repress them until we start to forget about them. While it may feel like a bliss not to have all these undesirable feelings, it’s only short-lived.
If we’re on the verge of breaking down because of too much stress, it seems like surrendering ourselves to it instead fighting our hardest to stay strong is a much better choice to make. Keeping it in for too long will just build up the negative emotions inside, and pretty soon, you’ll find them bursting out of you in an unsightly manner.
While many go to great lengths in search of happiness, it isn’t a life well-lived if we’re going to just bask in bliss forever. It’s also healthy to allow ourselves to feel sadness from time to time (I mean, have you not watched Inside Out?). So the next time you find yourself on the verge of crying, let it all out.
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To the Person Who Does Not Know Any 1D Song
By: CJ Reyno
Never in my wildest dream I imagined to meet someone who does not know a single One Direction song or who does not even know, Harry Styles, Louis Tomlinson, Liam Payne, Niall Horan, and err… Zayn Malik. How did you spend your teenagehood without listening to their songs? The disrespect to my #StyPayHorLikSon. My initial reaction, Vas Happenin’?
Since I was 12 years old, that was way back on 2012, One Direction songs have been my official life soundtrip, my go-to songs whenever I feel happy, sad, mad, excited, and etch. I can still remember how people went crazy just to attend their concert here in the Philippines. I must admit, I was one of those. LOL. The group was also dubbed as, “The Biggest Boyband in the World”. They were an era. You really left me in awe when you told me that you do not know a single One Direction song. Their songs are gold. But I was a little hopeful when a new messaged popped up on our conversation, “Hey I know one, Make You Beautiful”.
You do not know how my world collapsed after reading your message. I would like to say that I appreciate the effort, thanks, but they do not have a song entitled, Make You Beautiful, because it is, What Makes You Beautiful. I tried to explain but you said that they are just the same. (Tip: Never fight with a Directioner when it comes to this because we will not let our guards down). No! They are not the same. How can you make this big mistake? LOL. What Makes You Beautiful is One Direction’s debut song. Almost everyone knows this, “you’re insecure, don’t know what for,” ring a bell? The music video of this surpassed 1 billion views on Youtube. On my 21 years of existence, you are the very first person who told me this “I-Thought-It-Was-A-Joke-But-You-Are-Serious” statement.
As a persuasive fangirl, I thought to myself that I should make you appreciate their music, that you should know that it is What Makes You Beautiful, not Make You Beautiful. The group may be in hiatus but their music is and will always remain superior. You are hard-headed lad. We even when to the point where you challenged me to treat so I can make you watch their music video. Am I even surprised that I agreed to this? HAHA. I feel like an agent trying to persuade her customer to buy a property on our company. You do not know how happy I was when you sent me your video listening to What Makes You Beautiful. I felt like I successfully closed a deal with my client. Not to exaggerate but I really jumped because of happiness after watching your video. It was the first message I checked that morning. Thank you for your effort, so much appreciated. Funny how our conversation starts with your innocence on One Direction until it goes deeper and last longer. Up All Nigh conversations which turned to almost Midnight Memories. Ironic how a Directioner had developed an admiration on someone who dislikes her favorite boys? Just like One Direction’s song, Change My Mind, “Never felt like this before. Are we friends or are we more?” I guess, like Liam’s line on Love You Goodbye, “It's inevitable everything that's good comes to an end. It's impossible to know if after this we can still be friends.”
I was happy that I made you listen to One Direction. At least I made you appreciate and made you aware that there is a song called, What Makes You Beautiful, not Make You Beautiful. I am happy that you already found your Girl Almighty. Wish me luck on finding my Summer Love. xoxo, Your Directioner friend
Here's a fan art that I made for Lee Joo Young of Itaewon class! I've been making digital illustration since last year and I'm happy that I was able to see my improvements. I'm also happy to see people's reactions and support for my craft even though all of it are made through my phone (adobe illustrator) only ????. You don't actually have to use expensive or complicated medium as long as you know how to be creative and like what you're doing, then you can do it. ????