Be Miss Independent This Summer
While summer is the perfect time for that highly-touted vacation from school, it may also be the best opportunity for you to go beyond your borders—on your own. Don't let this summer pass without trying something new to improve yourself. So here's to that big step to independence and to making things happen!
- Get what you want. Whether you're complaining about a restaurant's poor service or haggling for that pretty pink dress with a saleslady, make it a point to argue in a respectful yet assertive manner. Is your order taking too long to arrive or did the waiter give you the wrong dish? When you're dissatisfied with something, remain objective and avoid being rude or arrogant to the one serving you. Try to call the waiter or the restaurant manager subtly, make a reasonable complaint, and politely ask them to resolve the situation. Politeness is always key. You are less likely to get what you want if you play the arrogant, intimidating card. The same thing goes for any scenario where you have to voice a demand. While you deserve the best service, salesladies, security guards, and cashiers also deserve respect from you.
- Open a bank account. Being money-wise is an essential step towards independence, and opening a bank account will help you do just that. Instead of signing up for a checking account, open a savings account tailored for teens. This is more practical because it requires a low initial deposit (the money you need to cash in to open an account) and a low maintaining balance (the money you need to keep your account active). Maintaining a bank account will encourage you to save more for those rainy days and will prepare you for bigger financial responsibilities when you grow up. Here are a few bank services that cater to teens' needs: Banco De Oro's Power Teens Club (840-7000), RCBC's Student Savings ATM program (894-9577), and Metrobank's Fun Savers Club (898-8000).
- Get a student driver's permit. You must be at least 16 years old to be a qualified applicant for a student driver's permit at the Land Transportation Office (LTO). When applying, be prepared to bring requirements such as a valid ID as proof of your identity, a copy of your birth certificate, and a filled-out application form. Don't forget to also bring a duly notarized letter of consent from your parent or your guardian allowing you to apply for the permit. You may want to check the LTO's website for further details. Driving entails a lot of responsibility, especially for teens. Be sure to enroll in a good driving school and read up on road and safety rules. While you may have the necessary requirements on hand for your application, it's even more important to be mentally and emotionally prepared to take on the extra challenge of driving.
- Conquer the streets. If you think you're too young to get behind the wheel, why don't you face your fear of taking public transportation? Your dad or your driver may not always be around to pick you up when you're hanging out with your friends. When commuting, familiarize yourself with the various modes of getting around the metro. Depending on your route, you can ride the bus, jeepney, MRT, or LRT. But there are other alternatives (like riding a cab) if you want to go straight to a specific location. Remember to have your fare ready to avoid scrambling for your wallet and digging for money in crowded areas. To avoid potential danger, look confident so you will not seem like an easy target. To avoid falling prey to thieves, be alert and don't flash your cell phone or other valuables. Should any untoward incident happen, ask help from the security personnel nearest you. On your first time, perhaps you can ask a parent or trusted friend to accompany you. By the end of summer, you should be able to do it on your own!
- Be a grocery shopping queen. Learn the nitty-gritty details of running a household by volunteering to do the groceries. Come prepared with a list of things you need to buy and take stock of the items you already have so you won’t end up getting something unwanted or unnecessary. A shopping list is a must-have because it will prevent you from slipping everything that looks good into your cart. Before going to the supermarket, divide the items on your list into groups to save time. That way, you will only need to make one trip down each aisle, helping you avoid long queues. Keep an eye on bargains but assess each item's quality as well. Don't get too much food with a short shelf life. Try to avoid doing your grocery during evenings or on weekends when supermarkets are often packed with shoppers.
- Take care of something. A true mark of independence is when you can shift your energy from looking after yourself into taking care of others, like your younger siblings, a pet, or even a plant! Starting today, take more responsibility for their welfare. Set aside time from your busy schedule and set your eyes on a specific goal. For example, your little sister should have memorized the provinces of the Philippines before school starts. Or next month, your puppy should be fully housebroken or should have learned some tricks to show off during family gatherings. Who knows, their growth may be your personal growth, too! Studies show that those who help others become their best selves are the ones who excel more in the long run.
- Make the world your playground. Once you've discovered the joys of helping others improve, expanding your interests towards activities that have greater impact on the world around you will give you a deeper sense of fulfillment and a renewed sense of independence. Volunteer for a cause-oriented group, learn how to play a difficult instrument, teach less-fortunate kids, make your voice heard, chase after your dreams—the possibilities are limitless. The world is a place where greater adventures await. There is so much you can do by moving out of your comfort zone. So what are you waiting for? Before returning to school, don’t pass up this chance to soar to greater heights!
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It's not making sense. Maybe, it is. Everything is so blurry and vague. You can't seem to fathom what's happening. You're lost and searching- searching for the meaning behind what ifs and what could have beens. But life, we give meaning to life as if it's a beautiful paradise. Indeed it is.
But why we feel so gloomy, so empty? It seems like no light is passing through our soul. We're wounded. Hoping for healing. That's because, we're living. We celebrate life but we also fight for it. You feel all the pain, because you're living. You're not just alive, you're living. You can make it through all the storm and darkness. Wishing you well, Marj.
I was, but I am not. Desperately, I am trying to reach you – my hope. I am in this particular space in my own constructed world where doubts and frustrations recur. Emphasizing how scared I am being here, I never explored this area before. I was always in those places filled with benevolence, hope shining like the light the sun and the moon possess. And I didn’t have any plans to visit a ‘dark’ place, as how I described it then. But, as funny as how my world suddenly flipped, I am now here, completely lost with monsters persuading me to go insane.
How did I end up here? I can’t logically tell you the answer for that, but I guess, I know when. It started when I had to consider what college course do I want to pursue. Well, if you want to ask what ambition had occurred in my mind when I was young – which is usually the case in terms of life when you were like 7-year-old young - it was definitely being a doctor. I’d thought about wearing a medical coat with a stethoscope around my neck, ready to cure people from their illnesses. It was actually stuck in my mind for so long I almost thought that I was sure of it, yet, as a particular song yields, almost was never really enough and still, it is and will never be.
When I realized that such a perspective was slowly draining me, I tried my best to stand tough. I convinced myself that this was just temporary, that I could think of a way out of this. “There’s still plenty of time,” I once convinced myself. However, my environment demonstrated the contrary: I felt like I was completely out of time.
I was there when my classmates were happily talking about that ‘dream course’ they wish to take in their ‘dream university.’ I was there when my family was suggesting the thought of using my ‘suitable’ speaking voice for broadcasting and voice acting purposes. I was there when my teacher was convincing me that Education suited me the best. That ‘Stand tough!’ aura I used to own back then, suddenly transformed into ‘I give up!’ state, slowly destroying my being. And now, I am here in this space where doubts and frustrations are filling my former enthusiastic self. I need help.
I know, at this point, some of you may never consider me ‘fatal’ because, as you’re reading this, you may judge that I still have the ability to transform my thoughts into words that can be read, so that ‘automatically’ falls into the aspect of complete sanity. No, because I will never tell everything to you in the first place if I still have the urge to stand like I used to, relative to my belief that speaking up through writing is the best way to attract help.
When you look at the photo of mine above, you may say that I was okay. That I was successful. That I was never losing myself. Yes, I was. But, think about what happened days after that was taken and the message of this passage you started reading minutes before, do you think I am still the same girl smiling in the photo? I hope I will be or better yet, improve if the world will permit me. But, now I’m sure – I’m not the same.
LIFE ADVICE YOU NEED TO HEAR WHILE YOURE STILL YOUNG
This blog is dedicated to all teens out there struggling in determining what they really want in their life or if you simply want a glow up. And since were still facing a pandemic, I think this is also a season where everyone is re-thinking about their lives. So, I hope these advices might help you.
Tip #1. TAKE RISK - since most of you are still young, I advice you to take your biggest risk. Whether it may be taking the course you want, a skill you want to acquire or just simply taking the risk to throw away your emotional baggage from your childhood. While you're still young, you have very little to lose. You dont have that much commitments and responsibilities. Because the older you get, the more responsibilities and obligations came. So when they are still not piling up, take the risk! As for me, the biggest risk I took when I was still a teenager is to CUT OFF TOXIC FAMILY TIES.
I may sound rude here but, yeah. I decided to throw away my emotional baggage from my traumatic childhood and cut off some of my family ties and it is completely okay! You dont have to be bothered by whatever they will say. Because at your age, you are already investing on your growth as a person. If you really want to grow, THERE IS NO PERFECT TIME FOR YOU TO TAKE RISK BUT NOW. Because in taking risk you are actually giving yourself a reward of getting something amazing or beyond what you expect you can have. As they say, the bigger the risk, the bigger the reward. Keep in mind that the bigger the risk, the bigger possibility of FAILURE. But that is completely OKAY. Because just like what I said earlier, you are still young. You dont have so much to lose so, dont be afraid to take the risk and then fail. But after failing, learn from it and the more courage you have to take risk the greater the learning, reward or happiness. Ito na nga, how to take risk nga ba? And what are the risk that would actually help me to grow? #
2: VOICE LESSON - dont get me wrong, hindi ito vocalization para sa pagkanta. What I mean is, learn to listen to that VOICE INSIDE YOU. Listen to your heart, to your intuition and to your visions because it will be your GUIDE. Because I realize that as you go along your journey of your life and if you really want to be YOURSELF and be successful in achieving your goals, the only GUIDE that you should follow is your OWN VOICE.
It is okay to take and consider other people's advices but at the end of the day,you should never forget to listen to your own voice. Because that voice is what tells you what you truly want. How would you know that if it is your 'own' voice? Your own voice always comes from your HEART. The voice where YOU and GOD'S voice are one. Because I firmly believe that God knows your heart and that is where he reside. I like journaling because whenever I journal my thought every night and every morning, I feel a dual voice inside my head. Like, it contradicts what the other voice is telling. For example: If we have dreams or goals that puts us so much weight and pressure to the point that it makes you exhausted, STOP. Because it might be a dream or goal of someone else. I believe that your own dreams and goals may be frustrating most of the time, but that frustration has fueling feeling that will always tell you that 'This is the hard way to better so keep going'. Frustration in your own dreams will not make you feel exhausted because achieving a dream itself is a fulfilling feeling.
#3. TAKE ACTION - if you really want something to happen, take action. Dont just sit there and wait things to come your way. Make action or decisions that will take you to where you want to go in your life. Just like what I said in one of my novels that I am writing in wattpad, "There is no such thing as destiny or fate. Because YOU make your OWN life choices." For example, I cannot expect to be a published author if I dont write any novels right? The bottomline here is, if you are not moving forward you are actually moving backward. And it is a sad thing. Life is full of situations where you will be put in the line whether you take courage or just stay where you are. Because GROWING needs consistency in moving forward. So if you dont have to enough courage to take action, your life will always stay the same or worse you will continuously shrink down.
#4. EXPAND YOUR HORIZONS - this means stretching your comfort zone. I watched an anime entitled "Black Clover" there is a captain there where he always tell his subordinates to surpass their limits right, here right now. Going out of our comfort zones are surely scary and uncomfortable. But you have to accept the fact that you cannot stay on the coast forever. You have to change, because the only thing that is constant in this world is change right? Go out of your comfort zones because LIMITS are just in the MIND. There are disabled people who are successful in their own careers. Because the lesson here is, if you hold back there will be no growth. Because GROWTH blooms in DISCOMFORT.
Last, #5. INVEST IN YOURSELF - especially now that you are still young, you should focus on investing on yourself more. Time is your bestfriend at this point of your life. You have so much time to discover things about yourself. I never regret buying and reading books that I never knew will help me later on in dealing life's challenges. You can use that time to read books, gain wisdom, or pick a new skill, improve your talent and learn from your experiences. Keep learning outside your home or your school. Because the real battlefield is OUTSIDE. What you learn in school will only help you in your career but your wisdom and experiences will help you in life or as a person. People who doesnt embrace growth will never succeed in their life. (This is a reflection blog from my 21st birthday last week. I hope you can feature this on your page and I hope it can help others as well. )
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Hello candy-peeps! I just wanted to share what i've been doing this long quarantine period. My father is from Pangasinan and so I grew up going there every year (usually during special occasions like Christmas, New Year, All Saints Day, etc). I've always loved their specialties yet I only get to taste it once or twice.
My father runs a GRAB business in which we have several drivers for it. Yet during this pandemic, our business experienced a big loss and our drivers feared that they won't get to earn enough for their families who are also suffering during these troubling times.
By starting this frozen food business, we were able to earn and also give our drivers a source of income. They accompany my father in going to Pangasinan every week to be able to restock and they also re-sell our products. Its a win-win situation for both of us. I do hope that we'd overcome the problems that our country as a whole and every struggling individual is facing soon and that we'd come out of this better than we were before. #SupportLocal #PilipinasMuna
Hi everyone! I just want to share my first collaboration with my father. I converted two of my digital arts, Oneness and We Got Each Other's Back, into a vase and a bookend. I designed it and he made it into a reality. The Oneness Metal Vase is perfect for dried flowers and or artificial flowers. The We Got Each Other's Back Bookend is made from solid metal in which the cubes can be arranged to the user's liking. Both metal sculptures work as an accent piece that can liven up one's space. In case you guys are interested, you can reach me through Facebook/Instagram: @artdkf.ph