It's been more than a month since Hailee Steinfeld, actress, singer, and known advocate of loving yourself and taking pride in yourself, unleashed her latest single, "Most Girls," onto the rest of the world. The song is incredibly catchy, so we're still pretty much in love with it. But more than that, the song is also an enthusiastic defense of girls and a celebration of all our differences. The title might sound a little like it's pitting girls against one another, but the video, which was released a couple of weeks ago, puts its foot down heavily on that assumption. In the opening scene, Hailee is talking to a guy and it looks as though they're getting along quite well—until the guy declares that she is "not like most girls," a statement that causes Hailee to recoil and dump the guy with haste.
Her reaction to the guy's statement is not unwarranted. Generally, saying "You're not like most girls" is meant to make a girl feel special and different from all other girls and therefore better and worthy of a guy's attention. But what it really does is create unnecessary competition and comparisons between girls, making it seem as though there is only one type of girl that every girl should aspire to be. And that's just not realistic, because we're all different—whether when it comes to our looks, our habits, our hobbies and interests, and the things that make us feel good about ourselves.
Such differences are exactly what Hailee sings about in "Most Girls."
One verse goes "Some girls feel best in their tiny dresses/Some girls in nothin' but sweatpants, looking like a princess/Some girls kiss new lips every single night/They're stayin' out late cause they just celebrating life," while another says "Some girls like to keep their physique real private/Some girls wear jeans so tight 'cause it feels so right."
The song might be the kind of jam that you can dance to and happily play on repeat while getting ready to go out, but it's also a good reminder for every single one of us to respect the way people choose to live their lives. We're all pretty used to judging other girls for many reasons—some girls would be judged for wearing makeup, for wearing certain types of clothing, for getting into traditionally non-feminine sports or activities, or for liking or dating many people—because we have been raised to expect girls to look and behave in certain ways. Thinking that we're so much better than other girls just because we believe our preferences are superior to theirs only fuels girl-on-girl conflict.
Instead, we have to remember that there's really no "correct" way to be a girl and that what other girls do with their lives really has no bearing on our own.
As the song says, We're all just playing a game in a way, trying to win at life, and things will be a lot easier for all of us if we realize that our differences are what make us interesting.