5 Ways to Avoid Being That "Mema" Friend on Social Media
If you often read your social media feeds, then you know what a social media "mema" is. Mema is short for "may masabi lang," and there are undoubtedly a lot of these people online whose goals include trolling, triggering angry responses, and convincing others that their opinions are the only ones that are right.
Social media memas don't bring anything new to the discussion. In fact, they often ruin any smart online exchange. Avoid being that person through these simple steps:
- Think before you post.
It's a pretty basic concept, but something that a lot of us are guilty of forgetting at one point or another. You are your words. Is what you're about to post helping enrich the discussion? Is it something positive? Rereading everything before hitting post or send can save you the trouble of being heckled at, and save others the possible pain that insensitive statements may cause.
- Allow others their own opinions.
If a friend posts something that you don't agree with, you don't need to flood her with comments saying that she's wrong. Social media is a public space where everyone can speak freely, so unless a post is hurtful, unprofessional, and reportable, let people share and vent.
- Don't hit below the belt.
If you suddenly find yourself in an online argument, do your best to turn it into a venue for a clean conversation. Do not hit people on how they look on their profile pictures or on what's posted on their pages. Stick to the topic, and if things get too hot, step back. There are other things more important than raging online.
- Stop being a grammar nazi.
Your intelligence isn't measured by how good you are in speaking English. Don't go around correcting people's grammar and making them feel inferior because of making mistakes. Not only is it disrespectful, but it doesn't do anything to push your ideas forward.
- Just keep scrolling.
You don't need to comment on each and every post that you read. You don't need to start an argument with everyone you don't agree with. When you find something you don't like, just keep scrolling. Trust us, after a few minutes, whatever that stranger said won't even matter.
This story originally appeared on Femalenetwork.com.
* Minor edits have been made by the Candymag.com editors.
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Outdoors Danielle Flestado @artdkf | May 1, 2020 "I miss the outside world. The last time I went outside of our house was on my birthday. We just bought coffee across our village and went back home immediately. This painting made me feel that I'm in a field, just appreciating the beauty of God's creation. Can you imagine the green grass and pink flowers?"
When everything around you suddenly turns dark, the first thing we'd prolly do, as humans, is to find and grab anything that is closest and nearest to us. We'll hold onto them for as long as we can, trying to collect ourselves and gather courage to adjust our eyesights to the pitch black environment that's consuming us minute by minute. And then you'd hear nothing. Your sense of hearing would somehow go off after not seeing anything for quite awhile. You'll let loose. Cry. Panic. You'll be exhausted for fighting your way out. Then just when you're about to stop and give up, you're no longer afraid. There's only this deafening silence and pithole of darkness that's gonna eat you up alive. And surprisingly, you'll make a home out of it.
You'll make a home out of the darkness that when a ray of light suddenly hits you, you'll try to avoid it. You'll try to cover your eyes. You'll try to cover your ears from the voices trying to help you get out of it. You'll try to hide because your mind and body will go against your will to come out and live. Because the darkness that used to scare you, now comforts you in a way you thought has helped you survived life. And you'll try to live. Day by day. In the darkness. Not knowing where to go. Not knowing where to start. Not knowing who is with you. You will try to live until the darkness that once surrounds you is now within you. And everyday, it's gonna be a cycle of subtle torture. But let me tell you a secret. The darkness won't make you whole.
You'll be broken. And in those hair-like cracks, the light will stubbornly fight its way through until it warms you up. Until you realize to check the switch and turn it on. Until you allow other people to help you find your way back in the light. Until you realize you're ready to live in light again. There's a light at the end of this long and dreading tunnel. The only question that matters: will you let them in?
I always thought of life, like a bead where each piece makes it worth sewing together with other piece of beads to make a stronger bond and to create a beautiful result. Today, how do we bond well with different people especially this difficult time? As this day challenges us to a new normal, may we continue to bead along positively with our life.