An Open Letter to the Girl Who Fell for Her Best Friend’s Ex
Before anything else, there are a few things you have to accept. First, you’re already in love. There’s no point in denying it. Second, you’re in love with your best friend’s ex—a guy she fell in love with at some point in her life (or maybe is still in love with). Third, someone is bound to get hurt.
Yes, we all know they’ve already called it quits, but still, there’s that unspoken rule that besties shouldn’t fall for each other’s boyfriends or ex-boyfriends. If you were crushing on the same guy that was totally out of reach for the both of you, it would have been fine. Oh life—always complicating things. Wouldn’t it be so much better to have just fallen in love with that guy who sat beside you in class? But no, of all the people in the world, you had to fall in love with that one guy who’s supposed to be off limits.
It’s terrifying to think of what will happen, but the best thing to do now is to give it some time. Time can help you in so many ways. Though it’s unlikely, there may be some off chance that you fell for your best friend’s ex because he’s just that—your best friend’s ex. It’s natural for us to want something we can’t have. So before you do anything you regret, give yourself some time to think carefully. On the other hand, give yourself the time to move on. It’s not easy, but if you feel that this is truly the right thing to do, do it. Think about it this way, if your best friend does find out about your feelings and doesn’t take it very well, you end a friendship that could have lasted a very long time. Then what? Are you going to pursue him? What if he doesn’t end up liking you back? Or worse, what if he’s still in love with your best friend? In the end, it’s your loss. If this is not the love you’re willing to fight for, don’t sacrifice your friendship. It’s going to be tough, but you can move on. You’re strong that way.
On the contrary, what if you’re sure about this guy? Sometimes, we just can’t explain it, but we know when he’s the one. Aside from the fact that you can’t help falling in love with him, you alsowant to be in love with him. Maybe you’ve already fallen in love with this guy way before your best friend did, but things didn’t end your way, so they ended up falling for each other instead. Now that they’ve parted ways, you feel that this is fate telling you that you’re meant to be. Stop. Again, think very carefully. You have to remember that your friendship is at stake here. Things can go very wrong, but then again, they could go so right. Talk to your friend, but don’t assume that just because she’s your friend, she’ll accept things quickly. It won’t matter if things are over between them. It’s just the way the world goes. Besties aren’t supposed to fall for each other’s exes. Whoever invented that rule is the cause of your dilemma right now, and it can only lead to two things: Your best friend will feel betrayed, hurt, and if you feel that it’s time to think about your own happiness, you’ll break things off with her. Or your best friend will tell you it’s fine, even when it so obviously is not, and if things go well for you and the guy, you’ll end up making things so awkward when you all hang out together. We’re not even considering the fact that you might end up being insecure. Because let’s face it, they both had feelings for each other in the past, and you might end up distancing your best friend from the guy or vice versa.
I know it’s hard. You never wanted to make things so complicated, but love happened. Think about it. Will all of this be worth it in the long run? Because when relationships are broken, things get really messy. You have to weigh your decisions carefully and choose between a shot at true love or a precious friendship.
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5 Mystery-Thriller Novels to Read
If you’re stuck at home and out of Netflix shows to binge-watch, then you might want to try and read these mystery-thriller books to match your homemade Dalgona Coffee.
1. The Silent Patient by Alex Michaelides
The debut novel, and Goodreads Choice Awards Best Mystery & Thriller of 2019, follows Alicia Berenson, a well-known painter married to an esteemed fashion photographer. Life seemed perfect for Alicia, until one evening when she shot her husband five times, and… never spoke again.
2. Lock Every Door by Riley Sager
From the author of Final Girls comes this page turning novel about an infamous building in Manhattan called the Bartholomew. After stumbling upon an ad to become an apartment sitter, Jules Larsen has set out to look after apartment 12A under strict and somewhat odd conditions. Not long after stepping foot in the building, Jules has been met with unfriendly tenants, eerie noises in the apartment unit, and an abrupt departure of a fellow sitter named Ingrid.
3. The Sun Down Motel by Simone St. James
If you loved Alfred Hitchcock’s Psycho or David Lynch’s Twin Peaks, then this book is for you. After the disappearance of her Aunt Vivian while working as a night-shift clerk at the Sun Down Motel in 1982, Carly has set off to Fell NY, to work the same job at the same place as her Aunt had 35 years ago – with hopes of uncovering the truth lurking behind the Motel walls.
4. Verity by Colleen Hoover
While known for Young-Adult Novels such as Slammed and Maybe Someday, Colleen Hoover offers readers a romantic thriller about Lowen Ashleigh, a struggling author who was given the opportunity to finish the three remaining novels of a successful series after its original author, Verity Crawford, suffered an accident and has become immobile. After receiving an invite at the Crawford manor to sort through Verity’s notes, Lowen discovers an unpublished autobiography revealing the truth about Verity. With the eerie atmosphere of having Verity confined in her own home, and who is seemingly aware of her surroundings, Lowen is certain Verity is not what she appears to be.
5. Dark Matter by Blake Crouch
A mind-bending science fiction thriller from the best-selling author of Wayward Pines – Dark Matter is packed with the concept of the Multiverse and the philosophy of existentialism. The novel follows an ordinary Physics professor, Jason Dessen, who was looking forward to dinner with his family while walking the streets of Chicago. The next thing he knew, he was being held at gunpoint – by a man wearing a mask – and injected with an unknown drug and blacks out. When he regains consciousness, he learns that the world he woke up to was different from the world he knew.
Here's a poem I wrote a while back reflecting on what it's like over-rationalize a simple thing like crushing on a dude -- hence, the title "Scientific Method"
You were a phenomenon I cannot wrap my head around
When I first met you, my heart forgot to make its signature sound
And it's overwhelming, your presence;
And underwhelming, so science will be the only language I'll hide in-- For now.
At first glance, I notice your top button unbuttoned,
and your shirt fully cotton
Complete with a smile as nervous as me
And a swagger in your step only I can see
Further on, I find your wit to be at a pace
That doesn't leave any space for tension to rise
and it's all too nice
And ridiculous and a bit too suspicious
That this isn't another (well,) circus.
Now, let's take a wild guess,
Oh, but it has to be smart, yes,
That this could lead to something with potential
That this isn't another differential easily solved
With a formula, tried and tested but never evolved
For so long, we've both been independent of any dependent
Keeping our variables fixed and ourselves distracted
With anything, everything,
But not a single thing
Could stop me from pushing this blindly to find its threshold,
Hoping that it's a quantity my hands could still hold
Over hours, days, and weeks
Through minor revisions and tweaks
Then comes the analysis -- that these weren't accidents
So, now I find myself in a conundrum
With the anomaly in a blue shirt right in front of me,
That this had to be processed logically,
But the findings are as follows:
None of which were shallow, so I therefore conclude that it's true,
I therefore conclude that it's you.
Mi Luna: The Light in My Dark Soul Locked in… Alone…
Why do I feel comforted by darkness? Oh cause maybe because… I am a jolly and very enthusiast kid back then. All I know is to have fun, laugh and play. But as I grow older, everything has changed, a lot. I can feel the changes. I know the more I get older, I’m turning to something I’m not. You know what, I just realized I like it even more. And that’s how I turned a monster. A monster to my own self. Always questioning life and even God about the things that are happening with my life. “Do I deserve this?”. Every day was a struggle. “Which mask should I wear now?”. And every night is my judgement time. “Should I still continue with my miserable life?”. This certainly sum up my whole life. I have this mindset since I was young. I can say that my experiences made me like this. I always want to escape, but every time I tried to pick up myself up, there is always shits that pulls me down. And there, I get tired. Hoping that no one would ever see this. As I despise myself as well. What I can do now is to just embraced everything, I just embraced darkness- reflecting my own self.
“Look at the moon, it can shine alone and it can give us light at night.” A line I was keeping in my mind that a friend of mine helps me realize things and been there to fix my path. And there I started seeking for my moon but I do not know which part should I start. As days passed, I started to open up myself. I started to act as what truly inside me. It is very hard at first and there is this time that even the situation got worst. But as I continue exploring with my life, a question pop out on my head “Why did I still get this far?”, I can say that maybe I should do this, maybe I really can do this but it is myself who is holding me back because I’m afraid.
Now as far as I am trying to revive my soul, there I know that many people care. Yes, I learned to open up but not to all, on different situations there are people who can understand me because they have the same situation as I am. I learn to open up as long as they did not force me. I learned to navigate and open up for whom I trusted and at the same time when I am ready. The light that I am seeking is my own understanding and acceptance about myself. My light is myself and I am Mi Luna. So it is not too late to save myself. I have thought that, I should be a survivor and winner. That I should also be the ruler of my own mind and soul. Eliminate the room for darkness and let the light shine through you, that I can say how I earned myself again. Mi Luna’s darkness have turned to spotlight.
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