An Open Letter to Parents Who Stalk Their Children Online
I'm writing this letter with utmost respect for both of you, because no matter what happens you are my parents. I can't think of any way to sugarcoat this, so I'm just going to be frank and straight to the point.
Mom, Dad, please stop stalking me online.
If there's anything you want to know, why don't you just ask me? I see you when I get home from school, we have dinner together pretty much every night, I kiss you good night before bed, and in the morning before I leave for school. Didn't any of these circumstances seem like an opportunity to ask me what you wanted to know? Why was it a better option for you to go lurking on my social media accounts?
I'll be honest, it's never easy telling you the truth, but I probably would if you tried asking me. It becomes harder and harder to open up to you about the more serious and personal stuff when I know you browse through comments, conversations, and messages I get from other people. You won't even know the whole story from one-liner comments or my 140-character tweets. What stories of mine will you have to look forward to if you've already read them on someone else's reply to my tweet? We make the most intimate moments during our heart-to-heart talks, and this won't mean a thing if you already know everything I am going to say.
You might think I'm exaggerating, but it's just that I'm growing up, and a little privacy would be appreciated. I need space to grow, and my time to be in my own hands, including the time I get to decide when I open up and share things with you, instead of you deciding with a click of a button what you want to know about me. You were young once too, so you know what this feels like. I'm sure there are few things you have done that grandma and grandpa don't know about until today. And if you're wondering why I can share these thoughts with all my followers and Facebook friends but not with you, the answer is very simple: I just can't disappoint you.
We kids all pretty much feel the same way. We just want you to see us the way you saw us when we were first wrapped in your arms. We want our laughs to continue to put smiles on your faces, we want to be your perfect little prince and princess even when we're all grown up and making mistakes of our own. We're all just hoping to be children you can be proud of. We always look back at things we have said and done and wonder what you'd think of this, or if it will meet your expectations.
So we apologize for deciding to shut you out of our social media accounts. It's our simple way of double checking if the person we are becoming is someone you can be proud of. You mean so much to this kid of yours. We hope you can respect our privacy, and patiently wait for us to open up. That day will come, but until then, stop lurking and start trusting in us.