An Open Letter To My Ex-Best Friend
I am very thankful that you were my first friend in college. I believe that our friendship was inspired by the fact that we were both far from home and everything that we have ever known. Unsure and scared of what was going to happen, we ventured into the unknown together. Of course, as my first friend in college, I was excited to spend this new beginning with you.
As we adjusted to the highs and lows of university life, we were simply compelled to seek each other's comfort and help. It's always nice to have a friend to share these life experiences with because you know that they perfectly understand. We spent days and nights, talking. We tried so hard to squeeze in 16 years worth of life stories in one conversation because that's how much we trust each other. Then, the inevitable happened. We became best friends.
Unfortunately, life isn't always what you expect it to be. Here's the sad thing about friendships–even the best of friends can drift apart. We were best friends for two incredible years and then we just stopped talking. Maybe it was really just the fear of being alone in a new place that brought us together. Once the fear settled, we became too complacent with the changes. We are now brave enough to walk alone. We no longer need a companion.
They say that best friend breakups are worse than actual breakups. Okay, maybe that part is a little debatable but hey, I believe that I’m entitled to feel this way. This was the girl that stayed up late just to listen to my boring anecdotes and musings. This was a different kind of heartbreak–something that a pint of chocolate ice cream or a Nicholas Sparks movie marathon cannot simply fix.
To my ex-best friend, thank you. Thank you for comforting me when I cried over a failed Math exam. Thank you for enthusiastically engaging in my never-ending discussions about why Zac and Vanessa should get back together. Thank you for always telling me the truth even when it hurt. I’ve always admired your candor. When I told you that I wanted to write for a living and you said that I should do it–thank you for believing in me. I will always carry our friendship in my heart and you are greatly appreciated.
A friendship doesn’t have to last a lifetime for it to be meaningful. Best friends forever? Nah, we made no such promise. But the memories we created were enough to change me for the better.
To my ex-best friend who I miss dearly, I wish you all the great things in life. Don’t forget to make awesome memories with your new bestie!