9 Things You Should Never Be Sorry For
Repeat after me: "I'm not sorry. "Yep, you read that right. While tere are many situations where you need to issue an apology, there are also things you don't have to feel guilty about. Bite your tongue for the moment, Candy Girls—here's a list of the nine things you should never be sorry for.
- Your Abilities
You won the Ultimate Board Games Challenge and the Wii Sports Tournament you and your friends had at home. Or you were elected class president, even if it was your friend who really wanted the title.
Don't say sorry! You'll always be better than other people at some things—and worse in some, too. You shouldn't be sorry for what you can do. As long as you didn't cheat your way to the top, you have nothing to be sorry for (but don't flaunt your victory to your friends either!).
- Your Dreams
Your family boasts of three generations of lawyers and everyone expects you, Miss Consistent Honor Student, to become one, too. But while law sounds fine, what you really want is to become one of the country's top fashion designers.
Don't say sorry! Your hopes and ambitions are all your own - no one can tell you what you should want. There's nothing wrong with dreaming, and dreaming big, even if you desires aren't what others expect from you.
- Your Personal Choices
Your guy's been dropping hints that he wants to get intimate, but you don't want to just yet. And your girlfriends were looking forward to partying all night this weekend, but you're not coming because it's your grandma's 90th birthday bash.
Don't say sorry! You should never apologize for you values, priorities, and convictions. Your family and friends should respect your personal choices, just as you should respect theirs without passing judgment on them.
- Your Appearance
After an all-nighter for a project, you come to school the next day with slightly tousled hair, panda eyes, and a hastily chosen ensemble—so not your usually well-coordinated, made-up self!
Don't say sorry! There's nothing wrong with looking a bit messier than usual, as well as with following fashion trends—or not, for that matter. As long as you're not violating anyone's sensibilities (by, say, wearing a very low-cut top at an outreach for the elderly), you don't have to apologize for the way you look.
- Your Opinions
You just can't understand why everyone's into Gossip Girl, and you think Andres Bonifacio is the real national hero. You get teased for always being the one in the group with the dissenting opinion.
Don't say sorry! Everyone is entitled to his or her own views, tastes, and beliefs. You and your friends don't owe each other an apology for differing perspectives. In fact, you'll learn a lot from an exchange of ideas with you peers.
- Your Quirks
You take bites off your burgers in a clockwise direction, you have a different handwriting for each subject, and your Candy issues are stacked in alphabetical order of the cover girl's names. Oh, and for some reason, your friends think you're nuts.
Don't say sorry! Trust us, everyone has a streak of madness, even though some people keep it hidden. You don't have to apologize for your eccentricities. Maybe they drive your friends crazy, but those little details complete your unique personality.
- Your Me Time
You like to disappear from the world every so often and be antisocial, ditching your pals for a day alone at the bookstore or at the spa.
Don't say sorry! There's absolutely nothing wrong with taking time out for yourself and indulging in your guilty pleasures. You don't have to feel guilty for wanting to do things alone once in a while - it's healthy for you, and even for your relationships with other people.
- Your Emotions
You just don't feel like joining in the girl's lunchtime gabfest today. And your guy pal has confessed his feelings for you, but you know you can't return his affections.
Don't say sorry! You don't have to apologize for your moods and feelings. You don't owe it to your friends to always be as spirited as they are, and you don't owe it to your boy bud to feel the same way he does.
- Your Imperfections
You are painfully shy. And you are annoying accident-prone. And you never get your friends' jokes, even if everyone else at the lunch table is breathless from laughing so hard.
Don't say sorry! It's okay not to be perfect—nobody is! Maybe you wish you had more poise or a sunnier disposition, but in the end, it's your strengths and your weaknesses that make up who you are. All your flaws aside, you're pretty great girl—and that's something you should never apologize for.
Set These Scenarios Right
By saying sorry, that is. In these instances, a sincere apology can go a long way—and maybe even prevent all hell from breaking loose.
- You arrived home an hour after your curfew. Doesn't matter that you were just caught in a traffic jam—an apology tells your parents that you don't take house rules for granted.
- You realize that your friend's birthday was two days ago and you totally forgot! Throw in a "sorry" when you send you belated greeting.
- You and your boy were going to have a fancy dinner, but something came up and you had to cancel at the last minute. Even if it was an emergency, you owe your guy an apology - and a date!
- You borrowed your sister's favorite sunnies—and lost them. Apologize, and don't roll your eyes or tell her to "calm down" if she's really, really upset.
- You weren't listening when your classmate divided the labor for a group report, and you ended up duplicating someone else's part. Apologize to your groupmates, and do what you can to make things right.
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"Today, I Won"
I always caught feelings for someone, and hoped so much that one day there could a thing between the two of us. I'm usually the one that makes the effort to buy and/or make cute gifts, chats them every other day, and stays up all night with him.
When I was 16, my childhood crush suddenly came back into my life. We'd constantly send updates to each other, recommend favorite songs and talk even the most random things. He'd even text me as early as 6 to just greet me good morning almost everyday. I hoped so much that when I confessed, he suddenly stopped talking to me.
For short, he ghosted me. Those 6 months I spent talking to him, allotting my time for him, and staying up until 3 am for him - all gone in a simple confession. Although I had a few crushes before him, he's the only one that got me in real pain. It was the kind of pain that I never thought I'd experience. It was the kind of pain that I couldn't believe.
After 7 years (it happened back in 2017), I thought he came back into my life to stay, but I guess he's just one of the guys who distanced. I felt a complete loser that time. But during this quarantine, everything was different. I caught feelings for someone else, but he treated me with the best kindness yet.
It happened at 2 am, May 30, 2020, when I impulsively confessed my feelings through messaging him. After saying my feelings, he responded with genuine and kind words. We both even complimented each other. Although the feelings didn't reciprocate, I still found a connection that can't be replaced with any guy.
To my 16 year old self, here I am, 18 and happy. You may have felt that time was the biggest regret and loss, but I'm here to tell you, we won. Today, I won.
Why our high school barkada is the best?
Remembering our high school years entails quite a lot reminiscing of the things we all been through when we were younger. You’ve experience a lot of new things during those 4 wonderful years and did most of them with the few people you consider your barkada. And through a series of all the lunch breaks you had together, the walks you took on the way home, and taking the same classes, you never thought you’d survive, you have made your life’s greatest friends.
Here are some of the reasons why your high school barkada is the best:
1. You figured out early teenage life together. The transition one have undergone from being a kid to a teenager wasn’t easy. For a moment you are not sure whether you should have played with your friends during recess or you should have just sat down and ate your food because you were too old for games. But whatever it is you chose to do, having friends who were as clueless as you make everything feel easier because you know, deep down, you’d figure things out eventually. You just need good company.
2. They were with you during your “jeje“ days. I bet you have pictures taken with Camera360 and Retrica. You also have pictures edited using Pizap with embarrassing captions and you somehow kept some of them so you could have something to post online during their birthdays.
3. They know all your exes. They will never EVER forget the name of an ex-boyfriend, an ex-fling, an ex-crush, and an almost you had. They will remind you of your every questionable love decision but you’ll just laugh anyway while saying “Past is past”.
4. They never judge you. They have welcomed you to their lives when you thought jelly shoes and checkered polos were the bomb! They were quick to have told your teachers that you were not feeling well so you could go home when you really just needed to poop. You tell them every embarrassing story you have and were fine with it.
5. You can always count on them. From the moment you first fell in love and the moment you first had your heart broken, they were with you. They were with you the moment you lost a parent and at moments when you thought you had nothing. Through every break-up and breakthrough, they were there to be your support system.
6. They are your family. Your high school friend’s family is your own family’s extension. Their parents are like your own. Don’t you feel a little kilig whenever your friend’s parents call you “anak”? And then eventually calling them mama and papa became so natural? I felt that, all the time.
7. They will always be your home. They are your place of refuge and security, the place who offers you their hands when you feel lost and the place you run to when you need saving. No matter how much time and distance separate you, they will be the one’s that you always long for and they are the one’s that you will always return to.
You're gonna bend and break and then at some point in your life, you feel like you don't want to fall in love again.
Not because you're no longer capable of loving but because you're so afraid to get hurt again that you don't want to take a risk anymore. And you're gonna wake up one day and realize that you're not the same person as you were yesterday. The heart aches, heartbreaks, frustration, you'll see, those will transform your whole being into something better.
Honey, move forward. Let go off all the things that are not meant for you. Let go of all the people who hurt you and take you for granted. Don't be stuck feeling miserable.
And don't turn that love into hate when you resent someone for hurting you or for breaking your heart. Just wish them well and let them go. Welcome the possibility of a beautiful love that will come your way. You're worthy of love that you keep on giving to other people. Keep that in mind.
I wish you well and all the happiness. You deserve it.
Here we are — with rough hands entwined, damned hearts at peace, broken souls resting with ease —savoring each passing moment before we part ways...hoping things will turn out to be okay. Here we are — standing still, keeping our earnest desire and ardent passion for each other at bay — hoping the Universe will finally grant us of the day that we no longer have to pretend... that things will no longer have to end.
Here we are — with crooked smiles, lingering touch that will last for a while -- gathering all the remaining courage to set each other free. Wishing for the day that our hearts will no longer have to worry. Here we are letting each other go. Even though we both know that the future is uncertain. Even though we're unsure if our paths will cross once again.