8 Things Only Ambiverts Can Relate To

AKA people who aren't either an introvert or extrovert
by Gillian Sun   |  Sep 12, 2017
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Our choice of social activity all depends on one particular trait we possess, which people usually limit to being either an introvert or an extrovert. However, there's one more space on the scale for people who don't identify to the former two: ambiverts! These people are a mix of the opposite ends. If you think you fall under the middle of the spectrum, read on to see if you can relate to these common ambivert traits!

  1. Your friends are constantly debating over your personality type.

A common misconception others have of you is that you're either an introvert or an extrovert. Everyone is always trying to defend their arguments with the actions you show. At the end of the day, they're all shaken up at how you are a clear cross of both personality types. Then you'd have to explain how you're an ambivert, leaving them with shocked faces and a new word in their vocabulary.

  1. Your weekend activities vary depending on your mood.

There are some days when you want to sing your heart out at Friday night karaoke, and there are others when you just want to go home and hit the hay at 9PM. Whatever you have planned for your weekend, it's always a variation between rest and raging recreation.

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  1. You're not ashamed to go out on your own.

Whether it's scanning the sale racks or binge-watching sitcoms at the local coffee shop, nothing will stop you from spending quality time alone. You don't rely on the presence of other people to have a good time. Strong, independent woman over here!

  1. The thought of socializing for a long period of time exhausts you.

Although social settings don't scare you, spending too much time with strangers is something you're not very comfortable with. In the middle of a room full of drunken people singing karaoke at 11PM, all you can think about is going home, curling up in your PJs, and putting on a Korean sheet mask in the company of no one else.

  1. When you do feel like socializing, you can only do it in the presence of a friend.

Meeting new people is a nerve-racking experience for you, especially with the awkward silence that lingers between two strangers. Which is why you need to keep a familiar face by your side to act as a bridge, because creating friendships is a complex thing to you.

  1. You can only keep small talk for so long.

Shallow conversation is nothing new in the world of an ambivert, but it can only take so long until you lose interest, especially if the other person isn't keeping the exchange flowing. However, out of respect, you continue to nod your head and scan your brain for anything you can talk about before things get too awkward.

  1. You feel bad for not getting an invite, even if you wouldn't have gone anyway.

Although your friends are used to the spontaneity when it comes to your presence in hangouts, it doesn't seem like a good reason for them to leave you out of plans. The common phrase "we thought you wouldn't want to come" is an excuse you hate hearing over and over again.

  1. You calculate the risks you take.

While introverts shy away from dangerous waters, and extroverts act into them without thinking twice, ambiverts are a careful blend of both. You tend to think before taking risks, trying to foresee the outcome of your actions before you dive right in. If it seems like a good idea, why not try it? But if you see trouble up ahead, you take it as a no-go.

  1. You get along with all kinds of people.

Although social interaction may be a small struggle, the way you respond to people backs you up entirely. Your open-mindedness and intent listening skills make you the best confidante. It's no surprise how your friends treasure you despite your frequent absences at the weekend hangout!

How many of these things can you relate to?

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Gillian Sun
Candymag.com Correspondent
A millennium-born Bisaya belle who dreams of becoming a respected radiologist. Born and raised in Cagayan de Oro, she aims to inspire girls to never underestimate what one is capable of, because greatness comes when we believe in ourselves.
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