8 Life and Love Lessons From Lara Jean That Hit Right in the Feels

Here are a few one-liners from her story that could help us get through life braver.
by Gillian Sun   |  Jun 3, 2017
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Young Adult fiction writer Jenny Han has just released the last book of her New York Times best-selling trilogy To All the Boys I've Loved Before. The story, which took off in 2014, revolves around Lara Jean's high school journey when her secret love letters get sent out, following her relationship with her family, friends, and her handsome fake boyfriend Peter Kavinsky. Now that Han has closed the doors on our favorite Korean-American teen, here are a few one-liners from her story that could help us get through life braver. 

  1. "The little things are what make up life."

Celebrating huge successes feel great because it means we've accomplished a chapter of our lives, such as graduating college or landing your dream job. However, it's the small things that make every moment worth it. Without your barkada bondings, spontaneous road trips with your blockmates, and night-outs with besties, we would lose the zest that makes life worth living. 

  1. "It will get easier each time, I think. I hope. I just have to keep trying."

Lara Jean gives us a constant reminder of how nothing starts out easy, but if we keep going at it, we will be able to do these things we deem undoable.

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  1. "So much of love is chance."

If you've read the first book, you'll know that if Kitty, Lara Jean's little sister, hadn't sent her love letters to any of the guys, she wouldn't have to fake-date Peter K. And if that ended up happening, then there would be no real relationship by the end of the second book. Love is not a force to be dealt with, it's something that just happens at the most unexpected time: for LJ, for Peter K., and for everyone else in this world.

  1. "If we're so guarded, it's not going to be anything."

"It" being anything you would want it to be. To truly live a fulfilling life, you have to be able to take risks—to dive headfirst into the deep end. Of course, we must be wise and test the situation, but if we keep wading in shallow waters, we'll never discover the beauty life has to offer us.


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  1. "I don't want to be loved in half measures. I want it all, and to have it all, you have to risk it all."

We all want to be loved in full; what's the purpose of being loved if it's only in bits and pieces? However, we overlook the fact that if we want to receive love, we have to give it first. Love isn't something that's meant to be kept locked away in a drawer; it's something that's meant to be treasured and given to the people around us.

  1. "Being vulnerable, letting people in, getting hurt... it's all a part of being in love."

However, being loved and being in love is not and never will be an easy thing. Once we start caring for people, we open ourselves to sensitive feelings; but we shouldn't let it overpower us. To be in love is to go through rough patches, to overcome them, and to still want to give your all to your significant other.

  1. "Never say no when you want to say yes."

We are offered new chances every day. Whether it's your best friend's mom offering you seconds at the dinner table, or a university offering you a spot for the school year, never let go of chances you really want. Life's too short to play hard to get!

  1. "Life doesn't have to be so planned. Just roll with it and let it happen."

As teenagers, we're afraid of what the universe will think of pouring over our heads; thus, we plan almost every moment and milestone of our lives. However, as great as it would be to know what would happen every day, life won't live up to your expectations. Great surprises will be thrown your way, and all you can do is go with the flow.

What's the most valuable life lesson you've learned from your fave YA book? Share them with us in the comments below. 

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Gillian Sun
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A millennium-born Bisaya belle who dreams of becoming a respected radiologist. Born and raised in Cagayan de Oro, she aims to inspire girls to never underestimate what one is capable of, because greatness comes when we believe in ourselves.
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