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7 Struggles of Having a Roommate

Here's how you deal with your roommate's annoying habits.
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Your bedroom should be your comfort zone. This is a place where you can act with no limitations, move because no one is watching you, and feel zero stress from outside factors. But what would you do if you had to share this sacred space with another person? How much more difficult would it be if this person was a stranger? What can you do to make your bedroom feel like your own space again? Here are 7 ways to deal with your roommate's annoying habits.

  1. When your roommate randomly starts to sing at the middle of the night:

Let her know that you're trying to sleep. I'm sure she's had some rough and draining days, too. She would understand if you'd forego your all-access pass to her sold out concert to get some rest instead.

  1. When you have different sleeping patterns and routines:

Discuss your differences and compromise. You may want the lights off when you sleep, and she may want the lights on. You may want to study with background music on, but the music could be distracting to her. Meet halfway. Maybe you can dim the lights when you sleep, and use earphones when study. It's a win-win situation, and bonus points for you learning how to adapt.

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  1. When your roommate won't stop talking to you and you've got things to do:

Please stop. I already know where you ate breakfast, lunch, and dinner today, okay? Try this. Let her know that she can text you during the day so you can get real time updates. That way, instead of her stories piling up, she can actually tell you about them anytime during the day.

  1. When your roommate has emotional breakdowns you really can't deal with:

Listen. No exceptions, just listen. You may never understand what another person is going through, and sometimes opening up and talking about the problem could already help the person a lot. So don't ever be selfish with your ears. Let her know that you're there for her if she needs someone to talk to, or just someone to simply listen to her release her emotions.

  1. When your roommate won't tidy up:

Offer to help organize her things. Let her know that it bothers you seeing things not in order, and help her adjust into the life of less disarray. Maybe you can set a general clean up day to get things in shape. After a day of hard work, you can treat yourselves to a snack as part of your bonding.

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  1. When your roommate uses too many power outlets:

Assign outlets that only she will use and only you will use. If there really aren't enough power sources, you can provide an extension cord so that in can accommodate more of your appliances. Make sure not to plug too many of these at the same time. A safer alternative could be to come up with a charging schedule. 8-9 pm for your phones, 9-10 pm for your laptops, and so on.

  1. When your roommate takes too long in the shower doing her beauty regimen:

If you're confident that you take a bath quickly enough, offer to go first and assure her that you'll be done in a few minutes. That way, she can continue her beauty regimen without the pressure of time and roommate. It could make her feel even more relaxed with the pressure off her back. If that doesn't work out, set a time limit that will be strictly followed, and strategize together how you guys can make use of the time allotted to you. You may learn a thing or two.

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It all comes down to being vocal. Just be honest about what she does that you don't like, and let her be honest about what you do that she doesn't like. You have to live every day and night with your roommate, so it's better to set things straight than to secretly die inside every day. This way, your bedroom can feel like your personal space and comfort zone, even if you have to share it with someone else. Who knows, you two can find common ground, and you turn out to be the best of friends!

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On the 28th of July 2013, we went to a resort in Bataan for the employees’ getaway. My parents own a 7-11 franchise, and it had always been a tradition to give their store clerks a get-together every year. I remember very well the last breakfast I had with my mother. The Sunday morning sky was clear and sunny, and the sea was calm and tranquil as we ate our breakfast on a cottage under the tall palm trees. She shared with us a strange dream she had the other night. She dreamt about an unknown woman holding an ice pick chasing her down on a dimly lit street, then she woke up just before the woman could grab her arm. We never knew what that dream exactly meant and now, I wished I never knew its meaning. After breakfast, my family and our employees decided to take a swim at the beach. The day was nice. The morning air may be chilly but the sun’s kiss on our skins gave us warmth. It was perfect. Everything is fine and the tides are low which made it very enjoyable to swim. We swam a little farther from the shore and we stopped to the point where the water reached our shoulders. We were talking about the good things in life and reminiscing the good old days. Those are the things that I’ve always loved about my family because I never had a meaningless conversation with them.

A few moments later, we heard a panicking call for help from one of our store clerks. It was Rachel. She was struggling to keep her head above water. She was already drowning but the odd thing was, she was only a few feet away from us. At first, we thought she was just playing around until we felt the sand in our toes dissolving like powder. It felt like as if the seafloor submerged deeper. I remembered sighting the shore and it seemed so close yet very far away. We were all panicking at that time. No one knew how to swim except my mother so without having second thoughts she swam towards Rachel and called out to my father, “Yung mga anak mo! Dalhin mo sa pampang yung mga anak mo!” and I never thought I already heard my mother’s last words to my father. I was paddling like a dog, gasping for air, as I say a little prayer to God to take us all back to safety. I felt my father grabbing our swimsuits, trying to lift our bodies so we can breathe even though he was also struggling to keep himself alive. Once I felt my toes touch the ground, there came a veil of relief that covered my whole body. As soon as my father and my sister made it to the shore we started calling out for help. There were no lifeguards on duty at that time, no personnel, nor guards. I saw my mother already floating in her stomach. We sighted a boat sailing nearby, we waved our hands and called for their attention. They almost ignored us because they cannot comprehend what we were trying to relay but the good thing was a passenger in the boat noticed my mother and Rachel in the water.

My mother’s body was laid on the shore. She was unconscious and her whole body was pale as white. My father performed CPR but my mother couldn’t get the water come out of her mouth because the food she ate earlier got stuck in her throat and blocked the passage. A concerned tourist offered his car to deliver my mom in a nearby health center or a clinic of some sort since the hospital was miles away from the beach and she needs immediate care. My father told us to stay in the hotel room and prepare mom’s belongings so that if she wakes up she has fresh clothes to change into. My sister and I finished packing our things and waited for our father to pick us up from the hotel. I was crying and I couldn’t stop myself because I was afraid to lose my mother. I couldn’t imagine what my life would be if I lose her that day. Moments lasted until we heard a knock on the door and it was my father, crying, and apologizing to us. He hugged me and my sister tightly and saying, “Sorry, anak, sorry hindi na uuwi si mommy, sorry hindi ko nasagip si mommy”. And that was the moment I felt sinking into the ground. I never knew what to feel at first. I was numb because my worries were now actually a reality that I have to live in. I was at shock because I am now one of the kids in those cliche teleseryes who lost a mother at an early age. We went to the health center to settle everything. The clinic was very small and it sure did lack equipment. He told us to stay in the car. I wanted to see my mom, but I know he never wanted us to see her like that. I didn’t know what to feel. I was having high anxiety levels that my stomach is churning and I wanted to vomit. I got off the car and entered the health center to find the restroom. When I was finding my way around, I passed by the emergency room. I saw my mother lying in a foldable bed, lifeless, her hands dangling from the side of the bed, she has violet bruises on her skin, and her body was partially covered with a white towel.

That is when it sunk into me that she’s dead and never coming back. My father asked the others to just commute back to Manila because what we need right now is comfort from our family. The drive back home was one of the most painful memory I had as a kid. My father was in the steering wheel crying his eyes out. We drove from Bataan to Pampanga. We went home to my grandmother’s house, the nearest house that we can call “home” because how are we still going to be “home” without her?

Once we reached Pampanga, we stopped over to the gas station and my father made some calls to our loved ones to tell them that my mother passed away. He then called my aunt to help him arrange for the funeral. We got home and my grandmother hugged us and told us to get some rest. Already tired of crying, I went to sleep for a while. I woke up and for a second, I thought everything that happened the other day was all just a dream. That she was there in Manila, sitting on the couch reading some furniture magazine, waiting for us to go home. But that’s how cruel life is, right? I got up and weirdly, I felt sands in the bed. It was gray, just like the ones on the beach. I thought maybe it was just dirt but it was a fair amount to believe that maybe she visited us before she left. - ?

- The part of how I conquered the grief of her passing is shared in my personal blog. I felt the need to share my story with everyone since she's the woman I look up to. Feel free to visit my personal blog too when you have the time. I love writing my stories. Thank You! link: http://qkathreece.wixsite.com/kathreecequizon/post/breaking-waves

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