7 Struggles of Having a Roommate
Your bedroom should be your comfort zone. This is a place where you can act with no limitations, move because no one is watching you, and feel zero stress from outside factors. But what would you do if you had to share this sacred space with another person? How much more difficult would it be if this person was a stranger? What can you do to make your bedroom feel like your own space again? Here are 7 ways to deal with your roommate's annoying habits.
- When your roommate randomly starts to sing at the middle of the night:
Let her know that you're trying to sleep. I'm sure she's had some rough and draining days, too. She would understand if you'd forego your all-access pass to her sold out concert to get some rest instead.
- When you have different sleeping patterns and routines:
Discuss your differences and compromise. You may want the lights off when you sleep, and she may want the lights on. You may want to study with background music on, but the music could be distracting to her. Meet halfway. Maybe you can dim the lights when you sleep, and use earphones when study. It's a win-win situation, and bonus points for you learning how to adapt.
- When your roommate won't stop talking to you and you've got things to do:
Please stop. I already know where you ate breakfast, lunch, and dinner today, okay? Try this. Let her know that she can text you during the day so you can get real time updates. That way, instead of her stories piling up, she can actually tell you about them anytime during the day.
- When your roommate has emotional breakdowns you really can't deal with:
Listen. No exceptions, just listen. You may never understand what another person is going through, and sometimes opening up and talking about the problem could already help the person a lot. So don't ever be selfish with your ears. Let her know that you're there for her if she needs someone to talk to, or just someone to simply listen to her release her emotions.
- When your roommate won't tidy up:
Offer to help organize her things. Let her know that it bothers you seeing things not in order, and help her adjust into the life of less disarray. Maybe you can set a general clean up day to get things in shape. After a day of hard work, you can treat yourselves to a snack as part of your bonding.
- When your roommate uses too many power outlets:
Assign outlets that only she will use and only you will use. If there really aren't enough power sources, you can provide an extension cord so that in can accommodate more of your appliances. Make sure not to plug too many of these at the same time. A safer alternative could be to come up with a charging schedule. 8-9 pm for your phones, 9-10 pm for your laptops, and so on.
- When your roommate takes too long in the shower doing her beauty regimen:
If you're confident that you take a bath quickly enough, offer to go first and assure her that you'll be done in a few minutes. That way, she can continue her beauty regimen without the pressure of time and roommate. It could make her feel even more relaxed with the pressure off her back. If that doesn't work out, set a time limit that will be strictly followed, and strategize together how you guys can make use of the time allotted to you. You may learn a thing or two.
It all comes down to being vocal. Just be honest about what she does that you don't like, and let her be honest about what you do that she doesn't like. You have to live every day and night with your roommate, so it's better to set things straight than to secretly die inside every day. This way, your bedroom can feel like your personal space and comfort zone, even if you have to share it with someone else. Who knows, you two can find common ground, and you turn out to be the best of friends!