- Distract yourself. Thinking about your fears makes them larger and more threatening than they really are. Instead of dwelling on them, listen to music or pick up a copy of your fave magazine. Spend less time worrying and more time developing your talents or being with the people close to you.
- Talk about it. If you’re afraid your boyfriend might want to break up with you, consult your friends. They could either confirm the problem, in which case you’ll be able to deal with it immediately, or they could ease your fears by telling you that your beau is totally in love with you and you have nothing to worry about.
- Write in your journal. If talking about your fears seems too embarrassing, rant about them in your journal. There is nothing more therapeutic than putting your thoughts on paper. When you look back on what you wrote after a few days, you might just find yourself laughing and wondering why on earth you feared taking that test which you ended up acing.
- Face it head on. We attract what we most fear. If you’re so afraid of that mean girl in school, you’ll find yourself crossing her path every day no matter how much you try to avoid her. Next time you see her, look her in the eye and smile. If you’re too scared to do it, just remember that courage is not the lack of fear but the ability to face it!
- Pray. When all else fails, simply sit and talk to God. Faith works wonders. Though your fear may not leave you completely, you will have more strength knowing there is someone who loves you and who will take care of you no matter what. As the Bible says, “There is no fear in love. Perfect love drives out all fear.” (1 John 4:18)
TIP TO REMEMBER: Having fears is totally normal. What is abnormal is when your fears keep you from performing your daily tasks. If this is the case, it’s best to visit a psychiatrist who can help you deal with your fears directly and recommend medication to reduce your anxiety. There is nothing wrong with asking for help. Seeing a psychiatrist doesn’t mean you’re going crazy. It means you’re willing to deal with your problem and do whatever it takes to conquer your fears!