5 Things You Should Say Goodbye to This 2016

It's time to leave a few things behind.
by Danielle Bernabe   |  Jan 13, 2016
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The best analogy one can give about life is comparing it to a book where we are the writers. Now with us being the writers, it's up to us whether or not the story is going to be good or bad. It's up to us to fill in all those blank pages by making our own decisions. These are what fuel the excitement in our lives because most of the time we don't know if we are choosing the right thing. That is why if there is one thing that we have been gifted with that we should treasure; it is our freedom to choose. This year, we invite you to use this gift to choose to take out all the unnecessary things we have been holding on from the previous year.

  1. Unnecessary Drama

    We cannot stress this enough. Leave the drama out of your life. Most of the time, we tend to create our own problems. As silly as that may sound, we do. You ever come to a point in your life where there is absolutely no drama in your life? No boy, no friend problems, no burdens at all? Sounds amazing right? It is, but the thing is, without the drama, you may tend to feel as if your life is boring. You may feel like your life has no flare, no excitement and I get that because I tend to feel that way as well. Having a life of drama makes you think that everything is more interesting. There's always some new story to tell your friends. There's something new that you can obsess over. At all costs, please try to think rationally over this. Yes, your life may feel like an exciting chick flick movie but to be honest there are other ways to spice up your life. This year, instead of creating or hanging on to past drama, find other things to say that your life is exciting. It's not that hard to be on adventure every day. You just have to choose to be.

  2. Bad Habits

    Now every person has a set of these, whether it's being late, biting your nails, or just simply not being able to be organized. Make 2016 the year where you say goodbye to all of these. It doesn't necessarily have to be all together but start with the little things. If you're always late, set your clock a little earlier than usual. If you have problems being organized, start with the little things like getting yourself an expander. Bad habits equate to having a bad life. So start early, you are young and you can still take them out. Don't wait until you're too old. Realize what's wrong in your life now and fix the problem. After all, it's hard to teach an old dog some new tricks.

  3. Fear of Making Mistakes

    If there's one thing many of us have in common, it's this fear. But we're telling you now to kiss that thing goodbye. It's holding you back from so many wonderful opportunities. You have no idea how sad it is to see people who don't realize that in the process of preventing themselves from making mistakes, they are already making a mistake. How ironic right? Holding yourself off from taking risks isn't helping you; in fact it's putting you down. What most people don't realize is that making a mistake is something that no one should be afraid of as long as you're not making the same ones. Please be wary though. We aren't encouraging you to become a failure. We're encouraging you to take chances in life. They are what take you far. Those who are too afraid never really go anywhere. Many of us, even our elders, are never able to correct our fear of this. What they fail to realize is that failure is not your enemy, it's your friend. Failure teaches you what not to do and in life, that's really helpful. It's easier to say what you should do rather than what you shouldn't. There are just so many grey areas in life. So, if you clear out a few isn't that fear worth saying goodbye to?

  4. Toxic People

    No matter how much these people mean to you, it is way past due time to say buh-bye. These people don't deserve your time. There are other people out there who can give a much more meaningful and wonderful impact in your life. Having these people in your life just means that you don't love yourself enough to think that you deserve better people. There are other people out there who will at the very least not bring you down in life. Stop trying to save people who do not want to be saved. Focus on the people who can bring a positive impact in your life. Focus on the people who aren't burdens on your life. We know it can feel good to be that one reliable friend of theirs but if you continue being their rock then you yourself will turn into them. If you really want to help them out, let them learn how to live with themselves and not be the life-sucking leech to you. It is absolutely draining to have these people in your life. Aren't you tired yet?

  5. Insecurities

    You are such a beautiful person and you don't need to be a supermodel to think you are. You don't need a thigh gap. You don't need on fleek eyebrows. You don't need to be 5'10. You don't need to be 100 pounds. All you need to be is a good person, one whose soul they can call beautiful. Physical beauty may catch the eye but a great personality is what makes that eye stay. Who cares that you don't look like that girl in the front page magazines? Stop comparing yourself to these people. They are made and paid to look like that. You are your own brand of beauty so stop being so hard on yourself. Also, don't be insecure about other people's talents. Don't feel jealous that they have abilities to do things you can't do because chances are you have something they don't. So what if they're smarter? You can be more creative. So what if she can dance circles around you? You can be the person who can cook her way into being a master chef. Everyone is born with a set of traits. There's a reason why you can't do the things she can. Instead of devoting your energy focusing on something you don't have, focus instead of what you can work with and improve. It is up to you to be better. I am encouraging you to embrace your own beauty but I also want you to know that there is always room for improvement. There's always space to add more beauty in your life. There is nothing wrong with that. Strive to be better but also value your own worth. You as yourself is already wonderful. The important thing is at the end of the day, you are happy with who you are.

2016 is looking great so far. So don't be scared to shed off the things and people you no longer need. Trust me, you will gain 10 times the amount you lose. So go out there and begin facing new challenges, meeting new people, and ultimately creating the best year of your life so far. Happy New Year!

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Danielle Bernabe
Candymag.com Correspondent
Whether it’s through books, fashion, a plane, or my own imagination, I’m always on an epic adventure. Sure, I get lost quite a lot but hey it always makes a great story!