25 Ways to Bring Out the Leading Lady in You
- You'll never reach your star if you don't take that first step.
Do something to get you started—go to an audition, buy your first DSLR, or make a demo tape. You'll learn and get better as you go along!
- No one will believe in you if you don't believe in yourself first.
"You're so mean when you talk about yourself, you are wrong. Change the voices in your head, make them like you instead." —Pink, "Effin' Perfect"
- Your family is your first and most important support system.
They'll always be the people who know you best, who can help you make decisions, and who will be there for you even when everyone else leaves.
- A healthy diet and a good skincare regimen go a long, long way.
- You'll have critics.
You can't please everyone, and there will always be someone who'll find something bad to say about you. Learn to brush off the haters and be your own biggest fan.
"Who says you're not star potential? Who says you're not presidential? Who says you can't be in movies? Listen to me, listen to me. Who says you don't pass the test? Who says you can't be the best?" —Selena Gomez, "Who Says"
- While you aim for outer beauty, don't forget to work on what's inside, too.
Physical beauty and charm may get you somewhere, but smarts and substance are more valuable assets.
- Just because everyone does it doesn't mean you should, too.
Sometimes people respect you more for the things you don't do. "The most important lesson I've learned in this business is how to say no. I've said no to a lot of temptations, and I'm glad I did." —Penelope Cruz
- Your best accessory is a winning smile.
- Surround yourself with the right people.
"I've learned that success comes in a very prickly package. Whether you choose to accept it or not is up to you—it's what you choose to do with it, the people you choose to surround yourself with. Always choose people who are better than you, smarter than you, and challenge you. Always be the student. Once you find yourself to be the teacher, you've lost it." —Sandra Bullock
- Be extra careful with your words and actions because when you're a leading lady, all eyes are on you.
Yes, we're thinking Facebook and Twitter!
- Even the world's most celebrated women aren't exempt from bad days and insecurities—they don't wake up every single day feeling like a star.
It's not going to be a smooth ride, but a positive attitude will help you take it all in stride.
- It's nice to get the attention of boys...
But it's better to gain their respect.
- The glamorous life isn't an easy life.
Reaching the top takes dedication, hard work, and sacrifice. Channel your inner Rachel Berry: stay focused and never give up.
- Fashion should be fun, not torturous.
"You shouldn't be pressured into trying to be thin by the fashion industry, because they only want models who are like human mannequins. You have to remember that it's not practical or possible for an everyday woman to look like that. Being size zero is a career in itself so we shouldn't try and be like them. It's not realistic and it’s not healthy." —Rihanna
- Don't lose sight of what's important in life.
Clue: It isn't just stardom! Treat others well. Spend quality time with family and friends. Know your priorities.
"Many people worry so much about managing their careers, but rarely spend half that much energy managing their lives. I want to make my life, not just my job, the best it can be. The rest will work itself out." —Reese Witherspoon
- Be open to anything!
Maybe you've been pining for a particular project or career path, but keep an eye out for any opportunities to use your skills—big breaks usually come in unexpected ways.
- It's okay to make mistakes—everybody does, and besides, that's how you learn.
Rejection and disappointment may come your way at one point or another, but you just have to press on and try again.
"I break tradition, sometimes my tries are outside the lines. We've been conditioned to not make mistakes, but I can't live that way." —Natasha Bedingfield, "Unwritten"
- Trust your own instincts…
- But also seek advice from others, especially when it comes to major decisions.
- Be original and be yourself.
Sure, it's a cliché by now, but it still works! "I would say that a really big challenge, especially in high school, is the pressure to be cool, and to do things that people think are cool. My best advice is to just be yourself and to do what you believe in. Being yourself is the best thing to do. That's what Rachel Berry does, and that's what I did in high school." —Lea Michele
- Never forget to look after yourself.
Yes, work hard, but don't burn yourself out. Take breaks, enjoy some Me Time, and stayhealthy—physically, mentally, and emotionally.
- Remember to be thankful for everything you have.
- No matter how successful you are, it's important to keep growing as a person.
Pick up a new skill (or polish an existing one) every now and then. Do three things you've never tried before. Aim to be well-rounded.
"There's so much else to do in the world. To just be interested in doing films would limit my life." —Natalie Portman
- Keeping a few longtime friends is much more precious than gaining thousands of fans.
"I still have friends from primary school. And my two best girl friends are from secondary school. I don't have to explain anything to them. I don't have to apologize for anything. They know. There's no judgment in any way." —Emma Watson
- Do something because you love doing it, not because you just want to be popular.
Have fun and take lots of pictures!
This article was originally published in the November 2011 issue of Candy Magazine.