10 Signs You're the Favorite Child
We have all heard our parents say that they love all their children equally, but at the back of our minds, we can't help but think "lies, all lies." Experience has taught the doubtful sibling the opposite, after all. Turns out we were right all along, as a study from sociologist Katherine Conger found that parents do, in fact, have a favorite child! Ouch, right? Well, that would depend on whether you got the lucky end of the bargain. Here are 10 ways to tell if you are your parents' favorite child. (via huffingtonpost.com)
- Your parents rarely (if not never) scold you.
You'd totally do the same troublesome things your siblings would do but the difference is that you'd totally get away with doing them. Bad grades? You'd get both a reassuring hug and a confidence-boosting pep talk.
- They even tell your siblings to become more like you.
As daddy and mommy's little angel, you have become the standard by which other siblings were measured against—because there's not enough of you to go around.
- You've become the go-to expert/confidant on all things family-related.
Car rides are never boring because your parents always give you the latest news on your family. You know what's going on with every member—probably more than you should.
- Going out on a school day? You're exempt from informing your parents at least two business days beforehand.
Because you're the most trustworthy out of all your siblings, your parents don't mind if you send them a last-minute text informing them of your plans to hang with your besties or stay in school for longer.
- You're the automatic companion for an outing with your parent.
When dad or mom wants to go out to get groceries or to hang in the mall, you're the first person they call. And you always go, of course—'cause apart from the bonding experience, it means getting nice treats all to yourself.
- You're the middleman between your parents and your siblings.
Parents in a fight with a sibling? You're the middleman who fixes everything and makes it all better. You're the Rufus to their Ron Stoppable, and you always have their backs.
- Parents accidentally call your siblings by your name.
You and your sibling don't even look that much alike, and yet your parent still keeps making the same mistake. You feel bad sometimes, but you're glad that it's not the other way around.
- You're the one your parents brag about to their friends.
Remember that contest you entered 3 years ago but didn't even win? Yep, they're still talking about it. You don't have to exert that much effort to impress them, because no matter what, you'll always bring honor to them all.
- Your parents never, ever forget your birthday.
Living life in a family with a lot of siblings can be tough, since you'll have to share the spotlight. Not for you, though! Because you're the favorite, your birthday has become a family affair, and your parents make sure every birthday is.
- Your parents come at your defense every time.
In a fight with a sibling (or with anyone, really), your parents won't hesitate to confront whoever is bringing you down. In the event that you are, in fact, wrong, they'll downplay your mess-up and tell you to just walk it off.
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these sheets that exactly remind me of how I gushed in between my pillow and space you filled in the longing of my burned sorrow put smile to my sober face just like how a three year old receive her lollipop
i searched you everywhere and here you are laying down beside me in my imagination the walls that our screens built a boundary and an obvious message that says i can never have you because you wear clerical shirt and obviously you loved someone else before me
oh god, do I really want this forbidden love? that only exist in my imagination? that only exist through my words? would you, meine liebling, notice me and my art one second? because I am dying to say I love you.
A Simple Learner Who's a Great Pretender
Maybe I'm just a learner, not a weirdo. A learner that knows how to listen and pretend. A simple learner who's a great pretender. Pretending to be slightly dumb enough not to be judged and criticized by those who do not appreciate my existence. We surround ourselves with people who's levels are either beyond or below our intellectual behavior, because as for reality, people may use you either for their success or your downfall. Since then, people tend to judge someone who has an intellect with things they shouldn't be. Making them a criticizer, and most of all, calling them weird.
Honestly, I'm one of this "weirdo" who actually loves to learn things, and for the record, I'm bullied and stressed out for making myself not to learn more and go with the flow to dumbness I had. Have you ever feel being assigned to some task where you know every process to make it easier and faster to finish but turns out to hesitate to voice out because some of your mates put themselves in charge. There are times where I know what to do, what to say, or how to react, but kept myself silent and pretend not to know anything that may help us. Maybe it's a good thing to just go with their ideas and learn from their perspectives, but sometimes you can't control it and says something, and once again called to be a weirdo and let you finish the work by yourself.
It's annoying that you only know one process yet they gave you the whole work and let you finish it by yourself because they insist that "MAGALING KA DIBA?". It's not your fault being an intellectual person, knowing such things that may help you to pursue your dreams, and have the basic knowledge about something. You don't need to know everything, just the basics. And as for those people who do not appreciate your existence, let them be and continue what's the best for you. In some cases, you'll be annoyed by this but most of the time you'll be thankful for it. Not for now but maybe later. Just be yourself either a weirdo, a great pretender, or a simple learner, and always remember to lower your voice and behavior because no one loves that.
Just be a great pretender not to hear any runts and be a good learner that appreciates everything. It's out of nowhere thoughts of mine, but simply I leave you this my favorite life quotation; "Don't introduce yourself, Let your success introduce you"
Dear me in six years, I wonder how life will treat you when you’re already 26 years old. Will you be financially stable? Will you be working in an advertising agency while pursuing everything about the arts? Will you be doing freelancing and living in a condo by then? I don’t know since things are very uncertain. I hope by the time you graduate from college and face the real meaning of the world, you’ll know what the real purpose of doing and living in the art will be.
I know it’s been so tough ever since you turned 20 but that’s how life works, I guess. There will be a lot of hopes and trials, breakdowns, and breakthroughs but I have high hopes of you becoming the better version of yourself. You always do, though. You were never a quitter. Making decisions is getting harder and harder as you grow but I hope it doesn’t make you stop doing what you really love to do. You will face different people with different perspectives. You will feel like a stranger once again, it’s like you were back in your freshmen year. It’s going to be tougher than you’ve expected but you can do it. I believe you can.
Most of the time, people's perception of us as a strong person makes us feel that we are not entitled to be vulnerable because they might be disappointed for seeing our weak spots. And so when we are hurting, we are often scared of extreme emotions and so bury our feelings. We deny them, trying to avoid the pain we feel.
But by doing that, we are just allowing it to come back to us and haunt us. And when it comes back, it might be stronger and it will be harder for us to get over it than when we faced them first. I realized it just now that facing those emotions will scare them until they're gone. The saying 'Let it hurt until it hurts no more' goes true. Admitting your pain to yourself doesn't make you weak. It only proves that you are strong enough to acknowledge such extreme emotions without avoiding them. We are humans and it's okay if we hurt sometimes.
Before, sliding over the rainbows
Now, our hearts are bruised
Days once full of love and laughter
Became dawns of forfeited ever after
Smiles that bring ticklish sensations
Turned to cold question and answer
Figuring who would be the next instructor
The queen’s awake
Grappling to the happiness that the sorrow and sadness take
Going back to all the promises he couldn’t make
Poetry #2: YOUR VOICE
When you talk, your voice brightens my days. You provide me comfort in all the little things that you do. Your deep and mellow voice sends a tingling feeling inside me that makes me want to keep you in my life. I love talking to you every time, every day, every night and every minute if I could. You're someone just simply amazing.