10 ‘Bulongs’ You Shouldn’t Listen To
Do you ever hear that voice in your head that tells you you’re not pretty enough, or smart enough, or good enough? The truth is, everyone has to live with this voice. When you find yourself in situations that make you feel unsure and insecure, we're here to help you #StopTheBulong!
“What if it’s not the right answer?”
We know what you're thinking: Saying the wrong thing could be embarrassing. But what’s the worst that could happen if you raise your hand and it turns out that your answer is wrong? Absolutely nothing! Your classroom is a place where you’re all supposed to learn, so even your wrong answer creates an impact to the learning process. So raise your hand and be confident!
“He probably doesn’t like me back.”
Remember: You are an amazing and beautiful girl, and it would be impossible for him not to like you— and he probably already does! So what’s the problem? Know that you deserve to be happy and just enjoy the feeling of crushing on someone who's totes adorbs!
“I’m soooo going to fail this exam…”
Relax, it's natural to feel anxious before an exam. But as long as you’ve studied– not crammed— for the exam, you’ll be fine! Think positive and give it your best shot.
“I’m gonna throw up in front of everyone… or faint… or both!”
Yes, it’s scary to get up on stage in front of a gazillion people, but know that you can overcome this fear. Just take deep breaths before you hit that stage and remember that you’ve rehearsed so often, you could do this in your sleep. If you start to feel nervous on stage, look for a familiar face in the crowd and pretend that you’re just talking to that person. It’ll all be over before you know it!
“We’re gonna lose this game!”
Back up a bit and check out the start of that sentence: “We”. Your team’s victory does not lie solely on your shoulders, which means you win or lose as a team. Have faith in your teammates, work well with each other, and believe that you can all win together because you’re all equally awesome.
“I’ll never be as pretty as her.”
One thing you have to learn about life is that there will always be someone taller, thinner, prettier. The secret is to stop comparing yourself to other people and start celebrating what’s beautiful and unique about YOU! So walk in every room with your chin up and be confident in the fact that you are one of a kind.
“Mom and Dad don’t love me as much as they love Ate (or Bunso).”
Your parents love you unconditionally. You and your siblings are just different people, so your parents show their love for each of you in different ways too. Focus instead on having a better relationship with your siblings and parents because your family will always be your anchor.
“I’m so fat.”
This bulong is a dangerous one if you listen to it too often. #StopTheBulong by focusing on being healthy instead. Keep moving and take up new sports and activities during the weekend. If you're too busy at school to exercise, take baby steps by cutting out the bad stuff from your diet: junk food, soda, and anything that’s too sweet.
“Who am I kidding? I’ll never be able to do that!”
You can do anything if you start with your passions. Sure, you may not be great at it yet, but if you practice and make the effort to learn more about what you love, the time will come when you’ll look back at this self-doubt and thank yourself for not listening to that bulong. Make an impact by beliving that you can do whatever you put your heart into.
“OMG! Do I have tagos?!”
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Check out how Julia Barretto and other teen girls are stopping their bad bulongs with this inspiring video:
From fighting insecurities to overcoming your fears , you too can help stop the bulong and be a source of inspiration to Candy Girls like you! Post your bad bulong moments and how you conquered them on social media using the hashtag #StopTheBulong. You can also join the movement to stop that inner voice of doubt by visiting stopthebulong.com. Who knows? You might just be one of the 10 lucky girls who gets a shopping spree with a friend worth P50,000 this Christmas!
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Nineteen is a rather unremarkable age as it is not as celebrated as the age before it nor is it considered as much of a turning point as the age after it. However, this is the time when you find yourself smack in the middle of enjoying your teens and worrying about becoming an adult.
More often than not, you'll start to wonder whether you made the most out of your teenage years or whether you're ready to take on the responsibilities of being an adult. This constant dilemma will leave you anxious and confused. But, don't beat yourself up because this is the beauty of being 19.
You are no longer the foolish teenager who thought he/she was the center of the universe because now, you are old enough to start thinking like a grown up who understands that you are but a tiny speck in the whole solar system. It doesn't mean that you are insignificant but rather, that you are part of a colossal existence. This realization will enable you to make the right choice. And as you navigate the remaining days of your teens, don't forget to look back on the lessons you've picked up through the years and look forward to what lies ahead of you in the future.
BUWAN (Reverse Poetry)
Isinulat ni: Zamira Ariola
Ang liwanag noon
Nagsilbing gabay ngayon
Ang nagpapanatiling buhay
Sa pusong pagod
Sa pusong wala ng laman
Sa pusong wala nang nararandaman
Ikaw ang nagdala
Bakit nga ba?
Ikaw ang minahal
Ikaw ang ginawang mundo
Para magkasilbi ang buhay ko?
Bakit ikaw ang nagdala ng liwanag?
Ikaw ba ang buwan?
[Basahing muli paitaas]
"The paradoxical idea of attaining a happier life and how to withstand these beliefs."
The Revolting Truth About Happiness by Theserenefae
If people ask you about your vision of a happier life we automatically envision ourselves having more money, true love, a better job, Instagram-worthy vacations, etc. But let me break this to you this, According to Dr. Laurie Santos, Professor of Psychology at Yale University and the voice behind The Happiness Lab podcast, "Most of the goals we think would make us happy do not really make us happy." And why is that? Simple, being happy is all in our minds. The human mind ploys us with these lenses on how we envision ourselves and our lives to be happy. The perception of "having" or "gaining" is the exact opposite of what will truly make our lives better. So how can we really be "happy"?
• Seek happiness inside you. This is a quintessential reason for our vision of happiness: misconceptions about having a lot of money would make me happy; owning this and that would make me happy; entering a relationship would make me happy. This is not the case, if you want to be truly happy with your relationship, you have to be already happy on your own. If you want satisfaction from others, you have to be satisfied with yourself. And so on.
• Fill that hole righteously We all have that tiny hole inside our hearts, tampering it with temporary band-aids. Fill this hole with purpose. Have you ever heard about The Three "M's"— Master, Mission, and Mate? Define who will be your Master, is it God? If that's so, your Mission could be following his words and will. Mate would be the last for they will be the best companion to fulfill your mission. Now hear me out, it is important to do this accordingly. We often times jumble it or invert it which can lead to failures.
• Give gifts to others. The wonderful grace in giving. There’s nothing like the rush of pure joy when you get a chance to give. However, this may not be something that we're used to. But apparently, openhandedness is our soul's true shape. As Eugene Peterson put it, "Giving is what we do best. It is the air into which we were born." This doesn't necessarily mean we have to give away our stuff but we can also present love, kindness, gratefulness, etc. in our own simplest ways to anyone such as giving time, encouragement, helping hand, or even forgiveness. Try giving and you'll receive inconceivable gifts in return.
• Savor moments. Savoring deeply intensifies our positive emotions while doing something that we love the most by simply stepping outside of the experience to review and appreciate the moment. You can practice this by having a delicious meal, reading a good book, or any activity that you enjoy and love. It can also be enhanced by sharing these experiences with others, appreciating such amazing moments, or staying present the entire time.
• Choose to Love Deeper Today's society relentlessly pressures all of us to have this "perfect" lifestyle such as pursuing careers that drain you, finding value through virtual world and purchases, letting achievements become your whole identity, and yet after all that you still feel empty and failure inside. Consumption is just skin deep—a shallow perception of happiness. Deep life brings the best out of us and others. It is about nourishing what you already have, focusing on the relationships than material wealth, becoming vulnerable at times, and being self-aware.
• Understand that Sufferings and Pain are part of Human Being. Always remember that loneliness and sufferings are inevitable. That is completely how life goes. You may be happy for a moment or a month but sooner or later great tribulation will start to kick in. Combat despair with graciousness. Count all the blessings that you have (and will have in near future, claim it!) by writing it down on a piece of paper or typing on your phone. Viola! an instant boost for happiness. We all know the fact that this superficial happiness won't work, but why do I keep on wanting? I already have all this wisdom about how to be happy for ages, but why can't I apply it to my own life?
First, you have to understand that simply knowing doesn't change your behavior. Care to realize that all the tips that I have mentioned are all verbs? Because at the end of the day, it is all about how you choose to be happy and initiate actions towards success. Know, reflect, visualize, believe, and do something about it. All of these are Actions! This is the secret of all the happiest and most influential people in the world—actions. Furthermore, do know that some of these tips do not work instantly most of the time. It requires a lot of time, motivation, consistency, and effort. I do know it's easier said than done. Take each of them slowly, one step at a time.
If it wasn’t for pain, I wouldn’t be alive. It may sound contradictory, but it’s true. Pain reminds me that I can feel, along with other emotions. Pain reminds me that I can heal, just like how I did in the past. Pain reminds me that I am strong and I can do better. It reminds me that life can be bitter, and it is up to us to make it a little sweeter (or saltier, depending on what the person wants).
With this epiphany, I take pain in a positive light. It’s normal that it can break me and make me want to stay in bed all day, but having someone or something remind me that there is hope is enough. It’s normal that I cry my heart out, but it’s important to remember that there’s a calm after the storm. If it wasn’t for pain, I wouldn’t be who I am now. It has shaped me and how I look at things. It has changed the way I approach circumstances that can challenge me and my beliefs.
Pain, back then, made me cower in the dark. Pain used to be my biggest fear, and I used to do my best to avoid pain. However, I realized that avoiding pain is like avoiding life. Because of how I wanted to protect myself, I closed myself off to people and opportunities. I used to tell myself that “this will end badly”, or “this is going to hurt in the end”. I always focused on how much pain I might endure in the end that I forgot to enjoy the process.
It’s inevitable, you see? Endings, most of the time, may hurt. It’s natural for us to grow attached to someone or something, and their disappearance might bring us a lot of pain. However, one should always remember that the pain is a reminder of how close you became, how many memories you had. If it wasn’t for pain, life would be pointless. If it wasn’t for pain, we would be nothing.